I recently went to my friend's bachelorette party and got her the book Porn For Women as a gag gift. The PG porn book suggests that women get turned on by men doing things like vacuuming, folding clothes, or making dinner.
But according to a new study, seeing your spouse do household chores might actually be an aphrodisiac — and not just for women. The study revealed that the more housework a husband or wife does, the more likely they are to have sex with their spouses.
Many of the participating couples reasoned that showing an interest in household work — defined as cleaning, preparing meals, washing dishes, washing and ironing clothes, driving family members around, shopping, yard work, maintaining cars, and paying bills — demonstrates a greater willingness to invest in shared interests. It's a symbol of teamwork and commitment. One husband told researchers that sharing chores reflects a "willingness to hold my wife's needs and wants on par with my own." He sounds like a keeper.
Do you do and your significant other split up the household chores? Has it led to a better sex life?
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I don't know about anyone else, but seeing my bf attempt to houseclean makes me very agitated. I'm pretty sure it's because I can be a little obsessive-compulsive when it comes to cleaning- I'd rather do it my way than split chores up evenly!
1I would love to see by husband clean the house, but by the time he gets home from work and we get the kids to bed, its time for us eat and go to bed. If he did the cleaning, I would not get any time to sit down and talk with him. I treasure the time in the evenings after the kids are down for the night when we can have adult (as opposed to kid) conversations. Simple fact is I work at home and he works at his office. I don't go to his office to do his work, so why would I expect him to come home and do mine.
2I would love love love it if my BF cleaned up more often. He's actually much neater than I am, but he couldn't dust to save his life. There are so many little things that I do around the house that never cross his radar
3My husband always helps me clean - after I ask him 1000 times.
If he helped more, it would certainly lead to me feeling very appreciative - which would be good for all aspects of our marriage, not just our sex life.
The truth is, though - cleaning is always his absolute last priority. I knew it when I married him, and I accept it about him.
4this just is obvious. the more he cleans, the more time you have to relax, the less tired you are, the more sex you have. simple!
5When I lived with my ex I did everything. He sucked at cleaning and would just shove stuff into drawers or any other place he could find that was out of site. The man threw nothing away. I paid the bills (with both of our money) and I was the only one who drove so everytime he needed to go somewhere I had to take him. I resented the hell out of him and having sex with him was the very last thing on my mind.
6when you work you sweat when you sweat you release pheromones when you release pheromones that your opposite is attracted to you get laid when you get laid you are happy when you are happy you want a sandwich
7to Anonymous above -- it reminds me of that quote from Legally Blonde about endorphins making you happy, and "Happy people just don't kill their husbands."
moving on. I don't live with my boyfriend, but we each have our "thing" when we're spending time in the same space. for example, I'll make dinner for us, but he insists that he'll clean up afterwards. he makes sure that the trash is taken out and that the bathroom and countertops/surfaces are tidy, and I always wash the sheets/change bedding/make the bed. I could have stacks of paper for weeks and not blink an eye and he could sleep on the same pillowcases until they got up and walked away.... we each have our "thing" that is important to us to clean/keep tidy/take care of, and it is a good balance because everything gets done without one of us feeling overwhelmed.
8My husband and I split chores (although don't tell him that sometimes I go over what he does because I'm OCD about cleaning and don't feel he does as good or thorough a job as I do). I clean the bathrooms, kitchen and windows, and he's supposed to vacuum and dust. Although he thinks dusting is just for the tvs, so I actually dust everything when he's not around.
I can't say that it's improved our sex life that much, but it's definitely made more time available, and made us more appreciative of each other. For us, doing yoga together has had the most impact on our sex life.
9My boyfriend rarely cleans, he will if I ask, but it's not his thing. It's mostly because when it comes to certain things he's extraordinarily lazy. However, he does cook and likes to cook. I don't mind cooking, but I would rather not do it. I feel like it's a decent trade off. The past few days he has done all of the cleaning and cooking for me, because I have H1N1, and I didn't have to ask. I guess because even though he can be lazy, he's not an idiot
10Yeah, I totally forgot about the sex life part. It doesn't do anything for our sex life, because I don't care that much about little things like that anyway. He appreciates the "acts of service", but it's not something to have more or less sex over.
11Chrstne - I hope you feel better soon! Speedy recovery. That's nice that he is at least picking up the duties while you are ill.
12My husband helps me out a ton and simply adore him for doing it! I reward him highly for the dishwasher and especially the laundry. There must be a connection yes i agree.
13I have to admit, seeing my husband clean the litter box without being reminded is probably one of the sexiest things he's ever done. I wanted to take a picture, my own little sort of porn.
14haha...my husband cleans way more than i do...luckily for me, he is the neat-freak...he loves vacuuming...he claims he doesn't, but he does...otherwise, we pretty much have an unspoken agreement that whoever has more free time in a given week takes care of what needs to get done as it comes up...it's a wonderful arrangement and i realize i am very lucky
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