It's my opinion that you're being too sensitive. Even the most conservative, sexually-repressed person respects that married people have sex for the purpose of having children. That's also a really innocuous, polite way to put it.

If they're not getting into positions or fetishes, I don't think you have a reason to feel like it's over sharing. And, anyway, aren't you friends?

I agree, spacekat. I could see where details might make you uncomfortable, but I don't think saying you're trying to have a baby is oversharing at all.

Yah, I'm not understanding the issue here.

Yeah, it's not a big deal. Single people talk about going out to clubs and bars, married people talk about trying to make babies... sex is sex, you know? Is this friend perhaps jealous that her friend is married, and offended at hearing anything about being married until she's hitched as well?

agreed with the others, but obviously this IS an issue for you. since you feel uncomfortable, tell your friend -- "You know, I'm really happy that you two are trying to expand your family, but I'm a little uncomfortable with a play by play of your attempts. I can't wait for the exciting news when you get pregnant."

That sounds very fair, Mamacita. The feeling is always true, even if the logic is not.

Does anyone else wonder if Tres will ever run out of pictures of people looking embarrassed/horrified? She must really have to search Getty at a certain point.

#7, thank you for pointing out why Anon comments can suck.

I can sorta understand where she is uncomfy and think Mamacita's advice is spot on. The way I see it its kinda the same as if someone with bad back problems kept telling their friends "Oh yeah, Rob been really helping me relax more. He makes sure I'm really relaxed like five times a week!"

Let her know you are happy that they are planning (not "working on it") having a baby and you can't wait to hear the final outcome of when she is, but you also prefer not knwoing about everytime they "try",lol.

what's with all the posts lately about people being so worked up about the oversharing/too close for comfort/no boundaries friends?

this is totally not a big deal. it's way less gross to talk about concieving a baby than it is to talk about clubbing and one night stands, like notinthemood said

i know some people are "sensitive" and more square than other people, but if these people are your friends, i don't see why you would have become friends in the first place if you aren't on the same level that way

People like to talk about stuff. You called her a "good friend"... who else are you supposed to share these things with?? I know way too much information about some of my best friends, it doesn't bother me. If it makes you that uncomfortable, find some friends who are more discreet, or quiet.

I see nothing wrong with this friend sharing this information, and you're just overreacting. You're supposed to be a good friend, and she just wants someone to share the excitement with. She's just trying to keep you updated on her road to motherhood.

I was expecting graphic details or something. Saying that you're "trying for a baby" is not a big deal. I don't really think she's trying to even tell you she's having sex. It's probably just that she is excited to become pregnant and have a baby.

So whats the big deal .I don't think your friend is overdoing it at all. From what I read it's not as if she's giving you the "gory" intimate details.All she's doing is sharing a possible life altering,joyous experience with someone she obviously considers a close friend . Nothing wrong there.

She's really excited so cut her some slack.As for you OP, you seriously need to lighten up a little.....

Me and my girlfriends talk about sex all the time - before and after marriage. What changed? I suppose if you never talked about it in the first place, then yeah, suddenly bringing it up would be awkward.

I'm in the minority here. I think the friend is oversharing. Generally, I consider bedroom life personal and private (which includes baby making).

I know many women are different, though. I guess I'm just wired differently.

Everyone has their own boundaries. If you don't want to hear about your friend's sex life, that's your right. Just tell her that's TMI for you, but you'll be happy to know when she gets the news that she is expecting. It may not be graphic, but not everyone wants to hear about how long and how often her friend and friend's husband have been getting it on.

I'm with earnold here. My friends and I talk about sex all the time. Although trying for a baby is not about the positions or lubricants. It's about creating new life! You should know your girlfriends well enough to know if they would feel uncomfortable about that kind of information though.

I think you might be overreacting a touch. If they're trying to have baby #2, that's all she can think of right now. The "sex" is secondary. It's not that she's telling you about the positions and duration of it. And I agree, aren't you friends? Isn't that one of the things friends talk about?

Spacekat — you wouldn't believe how many of those photos there are. We will never run out!

umm my "good" friends and I have been talking about sex since middle school. Loooooong before any of us had had any and despite (or because of) our vastly varying attitudes towards it. And we kept talking. And after we start getting married, I'm pretty sure we'll keep going. Sex is a part of life, it doesn't have to be dirty or anything to be ashamed of, much less in this situation!!

If you have always been squeamish and this was never talked about amongst your friends, I guess I can understand. But if you're like most girls I know that share everything with their best friends, seems like the only thing that grosses you out is the baby, not the sex.

Wow, lots of unhelpful comments here. Maybe it’s because the question isn’t very clear. I don’t know why the friend’s married friends are like this. But I don’t think that’s really the question. Maybe it’s something along the lines of: “Why am I uncomfortable about this? What can I do about it?” or more specifically, “How should I say to my friend that I’m really not interested in hearing about this?” To answer that question, I suggest, “That’s ok, you don’t need to keep me updated on your progress and efforts of getting pregnant. But be sure to let me know when you are! Good luck!”