In life you can't do anything but manage your own expectations. First of all you guys weren’t friends after 1 month, you were just acquaintances. The fact that he’s in his 20’s means nothing, cause some men will behave in such manner, matter what their age is. Speaking strictly from my POV I see it like this... Sure he was attracted to you, you both were willing and available, at least you were up until a point. He wanted to bone, you didn’t. Now as much as you guys might have done “everything else” I’ll make a bet that he probably isn’t to happy with a 3rd base finish. So what should you do next ... Move on. Personally I’d carry on like nothing happened, and I’m sure he’ll do the same and will not want to have that uncomfortable conversation about “now what”. Just mark this off as on of lifes experiences. It happens to the best of us.

I definitly agree with the post above. If I were you, I would just act as if you are ok with how things were left. You got out of it what you needed and thats it. Guys in there early 20's seem to just try to get a girl for what its worth and then move on. Why dont you act as though you got what you needed out of it and do the same. I think he would probably be surprised by your lack of interest and concern for how it was left. Make him feel the way you feel now lol. I dont know. I think thats all you can really do since you have to see him regularly.

Just be pleasant to him and pretend nothing happened. And refocus your energy on school. This post sounds like you are really out of sorts about this.

And, getting drunk and hooking up isn't exactly the right way to find a mature guy. If you want maturity, you should get to know a person a little better before going to bed with them and crossing your fingers for politeness in the morning.

Just tell him how you feel about the situation, and let him know you would like to salvage the friendship. You can't control how he reacted, and he was probably just as freaked out as you were. If you were both drunk, chances are, this wasn't how he planned it either.

well he's basically a pissy little brat because he didn't get to go all the way with you. plain and simple.

as Pop said, just be pleasant and civil around him and focus on school. if you don't think you can do that, then just ignore him.

wait and see ho whe actstom before you panic... but he may have shown his true colors as a guy looking for one thing- if thats the case be proud that you didn't sleep with him. He should be embarrased not you... of course like i said wait and see maybe there was a reason that things didnt end well...

He probably sobered up and realized what was going on..

Don't be so quick to call him immature blah blah blah.. He wasn't alone in the bed making stupid decisions.. Don't lay this all on his shoulders because he didn't react as you expected him to.. And how could you expect him to react when you barely know him?

I'd just suck it up and move on.. Don't carry this around with you or it's just going to make you miserable..

I totally agree with Wiciltd, you can't expect guys to have a chivalric behaviour simply because that's the role they're 'supposed' to take in society. Not to mention that he was still probably too drunk to drive at that point.
Put yourself in his position: he gets tired at 8am (fair enough imo), you decide to leave, that's rather awkward. Maybe he thought YOU were being awkward or got what you wanted from the night, and asking you to stay for breakfast would be quite a brave/risky thing to do. Would you have done it if you were in his position?
So stop getting crazy over what happened; if you're interested in him then talk to him and you'll see whether he's an a**hole or if it was just a misunderstanding. If you're not interested, then do'nt bother and move on to something else.

But in any case be clear, "sending signals" is the stupidest thing you can do, no one will ever get them apart from you.

I would give him the cold shoulders... If he asks, well, then you are free to explain...
Good luck girl!

I'd ignore him and get on with my life. Refocus your energy on school. And, like any guys I know have always said, "You don't meet a nice guy at a bar!" Followed by, "All men are jerks."

I agree with GlossMeUp... it was a casual thing, and some men don't take it nicely when women respect themselves and just say NO (because this is rare nowadays, and I commend you for that). If he reacted this way because you didn't want to have sex, this a*hole is not worthy of your time and worry.
Forget about it.

Yeah, I've had this happen to me before and he's being a whiny brat about no sex. Either that, or he has issues with his sexuality. Or feels uncomfortable. Whatever. The main problem is, he didn't give a crap if you even got home safely-- what an a-hole!! Move on, try to stay away from him for a little bit and let him grow up.

Maybe he was just drunk. And queasy.

what a jerk! maybe you could confront him about it, but honestly, i don't see the point. you can do a lot better than that!

what a jerk! maybe you could confront him about it, but honestly, i don't see the point. you can do a lot better than that!

you're overreacting. and might be a tad immature yourself.

I'd just ignore him. He blew it.

I'm confused, he blew what? As you said, you "were pretty drunk" and you've just been going to school with the guy for a month. It was a drunken hook up and thats about it. I wouldnt have expected him to "make you breakfast", offer a ride home I could see though (unless he lives right next to the subway?). I'm pretty sure he hasn't thought more about it than, "got drunk and hooked up with that girl". Just relax,act normal and don't freaked out like some cliche.

But, do be wary, next time you two get drinks together.... he might be looking for more.

good advice here from all the posters. i of course will say-just act normal towards him and move on. You can't change the past. No sense beating yourself up over it anymore.

Okay explain to me why he's in the wrong, I don't understand why this automatically has to come down to men are assholes

It pisses me off to no end when women get all pissy because their feelings get hurt..

You made the choice to get into that bed with him and do whatever with him.. He didn't force you

So why is everyone acting like he is a jerkface? he's not... He never made any obligations

besides, what do you expect from having drunken relations with someone? a marriage proposal?

Be realistic

wiciltd I'm with you 100%. I really hate when women play that "poor me" he's a jerk role. Take responsiblity....

Ouch!!! **wiciltd** I love it and I totally agree with that dose of reality....C'mon now hunny your in grad school not highschool. Drunk, at that house foolin around?? Psssh dare I say he just wanted a piece of a$$ hunny...sorry...Chop it up as lesson learned and move it along...Plenty of fish in the sea! hehe

Ignore him and see how he reacts.

Ignore him? I think we just established this isn't highschool

Playing games is not a good way to "get back at someone"

Am I the only one who wants to give the guy a chance? I say talk to him. Sure, there's a good chance he was just being a jerk, but there could also be more going on. Maybe he really WAS tired, and too drunk to remember his manners. Maybe he got shy or scared, and backed off. Maybe he perceived some sort of signal from you that he misinterpreted.

It just sucks when people assume they know other's intentions, and write them off. If you pretend like nothing happened, he will, too, and then you'll never really know if he was a jerk or not. Talk to him, but leave yourself an out, in case he is just a jerk. Don't get all "what does this meeeeeeaan?!" on him. Just ask him straight up why he was rude, and let it be known you won't start crying if he tells you he was just horny.