I can relate to that! I was a late bloomer too.. I remember it made me feel proud and uncomfortable at the same time. As a teenager, I even made up stories about "being kissed" cause people wouldn't believe me otherwise.. it looked like I was "pretending" to be a prude.

Anyway, whatever. With time I realized it's better to wait until you feel ready to, instead of doing something just because everyone else does and it's "normal" that way..

Poor girl
The thing now is that wen people are looking for someone they don't find, but when they let it go, they find someone because they are more themselves...
So you should just think it's not a big deal, and chat with people a bit more to find someone to date.
(or you can pay yourself a gigolo just for a kiss, which woul permitt you to go further then in life, but i'm i'm not sure you would be glad then)

I feel bad for her. I'd probably just want to grab someone and do it too.

I feel badly for her. I think she might have issues with approaching men or whatever. Maybe evaluate what signals she is sending. Maybe the nervousness in never kissing before is signaling to men she is unavailable or something.

I can relate to this. I had my first kiss this year, at the age of 22. I think it would be fine to just grab someone and go for it, but I'd pick someone you're attracted to (and who is heterosexual) and with whom you have a bit of chemistry. It'll be more fun that way. And I'd save making out for someone you actually care about. Find a guy who respects you and the fact that you've never been kissed (or haven't kissed much, if you do decide to go get your first kiss). He'll go slow with you and teach you the ropes. And don't move past kissing onto more intimate acts before you're ready just because you feel like you need to catch up with those around you! The right guy won't mind that you're inexperienced.

I remember my first kiss felt strange. I had pulled on my lips with my fingers in the past, trying to figure out what kissing would feel like, but the real thing was different. Not bad or good, just strange. It took me a bit to like kissing and making out. At first I could only handle about ten or fifteen minutes of kissing, but later I could kiss for hours. Learning to french kiss was quite an experience, too.

I did all of this with one guy, who knew that he was my first everything (I told him after our first few kisses). He was respectful and patient, and he made me feel safe. When he first started french kissing me, I tried to go along with it, but it wasn't working, so I told him that I had no idea what I was doing. I was embarrassed, but he told me there was no reason to be, and made me feel comfortable enough to try again. I am happy that I did all my learning about kissing with a guy who let me talk about what I was and wasn't comfortable with and be in touch with what did and didn't feel good, rather than plowing through it all, pretending I was more comfortable than I was and that I had experience that I didn't actually have. It felt good to be in control of what was happening to my body.

Best of luck, whether you decide to keep waiting or to go out and get that first kiss!

i have my first kiss when i was 19 ...i waiting to do it with someone i care, and i feel attractive, I'm glad i wait because i still with him now we have 2 years dating

i'm 29 and have never been kissed... it can always be worse...

It's not a big deal. When the moment is right, it will happen. Kissing is great when it's the RIGHT person.

Kissing an unattractive (undesired) person is not worth it. In fact, it may be an experience one would regret.

I think you've got to take an tough, honest look at yourself and ask why guys don't seem to be interested in you. I don't mean to be negative, but these are crucial years for building up social skills and figuring out what kinds of relationships work for you.

Is it physical? Is it a personality issue? Are you afraid of social situations? Something is going on, and it's up to you to assess it and change it. Love is totally worth working on yourself for!

I don't think you're a loser. At least you want to kiss someone, and you acknowledge that this is unusual. You're still young. Just work on your shyness and you'll be fine.

Everyone's different. I don't feel bad for her. I don't pity her. I don't think she wants anyone to pity her - that probably just makes her feel worse. There is absolutely nothing wrong with never having kissed someone and it makes me kind of sad that some of the commenters seem to think there is. There's nothing wrong with being different and it's definitely nothing you should be ashamed about. It doesn't make you any less of an awesome person. Just live your life in whatever way makes you happy - whatever that may be for you.

i think it's weird though that none of those guys you've been with tried to kiss you. i get kissed on the first date or never hear from the guy again i was kissed when i was 12, and not a peck, peck was at 10.

I feel bad for her but I can also relate (on a slightly lesser scale): I'm 19 and still a virgin and I definitely have times when I just want to get it over with too. But, I promised myself I'd be dating the guy I lost it to and I really think it'll be worth the wait.

Hang in there girl!

I think you should grab some random guy (or girl even), kiss them, walk away, and just get it over with.... The person will have a good day and you will have gotten your first kiss. It's ballsy and spontaneous, sometimes that can be fun.

Seriously. Kiss anyone. Just go for it!

I'm 16 and I haven't gotten my first kiss yet. It makes me nervous.

You sound like me. I'm 23, and it hasn't happened to me. I'm always shoved in the "friend zone" by the guys I like, and I'm too shy to talk to strangers to meet guys. My friends keep telling me if I don't go on a date/get kissed/have sex soon they are putting me up for auction on e-bay like that girl did a year or so ago. It sucks, but I'm used to it...

I think if it's bothering you this much that you think about grabbing a random guy to plant one on him, you should go for it! Just try to make sure he is not there with anyone else or married. That might be hard, but I think it's awesome that your thinking that way. You're probably a lot of fun. Get your girlfriends, go out, and lay it on the next hot guy that shows an interest in you. Sounds like your a little nervous so have a drink first.

Okay I used to be just like this as well. Although I'm in a relationship right now with a great guy, he was my first real kiss. I've been kissed on the cheek before, but nothing like a real smooch.

what I'm trying to say is don't rush anything. Let go of wanting a man desperately and watch how quickly you'll find him..

Well reading this makes me feel better about my own situation. I had my first kiss at 19. I am 22 now. I am still a virgin and at this point I just want to get it over with. I feel so abnormal especially when kids who are 12 and 13 already having sex (not that I would ever have wanted to do stuff at such a young age). I will happen when it happens.

Kissing can be such a beautiful experience, but in my opinion, it is best to wait it out a bit longer until you find someone you like, or at the very least are attracted to. You will remember your first kiss forever, so why not make it count?

I don't think that post is from a girl but from a guy.
("I see guys who I'm not necessarily even attracted to, (or who are even straight!) and I just want to grab them and plant one on them")
It can be hard to come out, even to someone you like. It's a shame he is waiting so long but the fear of rejection can be scary, especially for someone from the LGBTQ community.

I know exactly how she feels. I'm almost 21 and I've never been kissed, or had any guy show any kind of interest in me. It's not that I'm a late bloomer because I'm definitely not; I'm just really unattractive.

wow, zivanod, ur right! the picture confused me, i think he (and others like him) should wait until they find someone they like, there's nothing like kissing someone who you have actual chemistry with. also, i was well into my 20's when i had my first real kiss (my friends used to joke that "never been kissed should be my fav movie) and waiting does make you feel abnormal but if the postings here mean anything, it's hardly rare.

My first was at 19, so I was a pretty late bloomer, too. But I actually know someone who is almost 23 and just got her first kiss, and someone who just turned 25 and has still never been kissed, so you're not totally alone. It's more common than you would think, but I understand the feeling like a freak part.

I'm 22 and in the same boat. Its frustrating at times, and I've come very close to grabbing a stranger as well! I totally understand how you feel. A lot of my high school friends are married or engaged, and I haven't even been kissed!

Try not to let it get you too down. You're not a loser, and you're not alone.

Its not a big deal.
We need to wait for a right time
I have never kissed by a girl.
i think we should wait for bells to ring. Its not a big deal

Stop trying to be a guy's friend. I got stuck on this for a while (was a late bloomer as well) and that was the problem for me; is the problem still with some of my friends. You can have some boy-interests, but always try to look nice, try to flirt, try to be coy. Do not get yourself stuck in the friendzone. Easier said than done, I know.

I disagree with those above who say you should just kiss anyone.... im sure if you start going out on dates, you'll get kissed soon enough.

Totally agree, TidalWave.

well whether its a guy or a girl.. just hang in there... i understand what you are going through.. i was 21 when i got my first while my sisters were already well ahead of the whole dating game... i am 25 now and still haven't had my 2nd kiss and am still a virgin, while all my friends and sisters are all in relationships... so i get teased a lot by them telling to just get it over and done with.. but i believe u should do what feels best for u...
just hang in there.. things happen when u least expect it i truly believe that and its also always a relief to know that someone else can relate...

Don't despair if you receive your first kiss late. You're not abnormal. I know some people in their late 20's who are also in the same boat but don't mind it because they aren't looking for love just yet.

And, definitely don't just do it with a random stranger. I can't imagine some random 20-something person basically taking my head and stealing a kiss from me to just get over it. He/she'd get a black eye very quickly. If you do spontaneously do it, make sure it's wanted by the person first.

i think you should go to a bar, get a little buzzed to help with your inhibition, find a nice guy with good breath and just kiss him, to take the pressure off and stop building the anticipation. after you can try dating without the fact that you've never been kissed running through your head 24/7, and you'll be able to enjoy yourself get to know the person and work up to a real kiss. and i have to agree with spacekatgal, when your dating/romantic situation sucks the only person you can look to fix it is yourself. you have to take inventory of your life, and particularly the kind of energy you are putting out there to potential dating partners. if it's insecure, nervous, skittish, and preoccupied, you're probably not going to get very far b/c they're going to think you're hiding something (which you are.) which is why i say pounce on a stranger and get it.

I'm 13 and Ive never been kissed either.
Its not too important to me, and I dont plan on it being soon. I want it to be special. (or as special as a 13 year-olds kiss can get)

I'm right there with you... I am 24 and have never been kissed either... heck I have only been on one date and even that could be considered debatable... It sucks because you see all of your friends finding their "perfect match" and your stuck on the sidelines wondering when it is going to happen for you... even if its not the "perfect match" for you, you would just like something to happen... You like seeing your friends happy but it makes you sad at the same time... and then you wonder when the time comes how you are going to tell the person (if you do) that its just something you haven't done yet. For me its embarrassing and makes it that much more nerve-wrecking... I hope you are able to have your moment soon... I have to keep telling myself that when it is meant to happen it will happen... God will place that person in my life when its the right time. Hopefully I will be rewarded b/c of my patience... if that makes sense...