I'm not a kind of this things, but I think...it could put your friendship on rocks.

If your gf really doesn't mind about it (you have sex with her bf), then maybe it wouldn't be a problem. But what if it turned out that the bf likes to "play" with you better and your gf doesn't like it?

i think the thing to note is that HE asked HER to ask YOU. it wasn't necessarily HER suggestion. did she say that this was something she really wanted? is it something that she has ever asked you before? you're her best friend so you should know the answer to this question.

honestly, it sounds like her boyfriend's idea and not hers. beware that the reality of a threesome is not always as good as the fantasy of it...especially if its your best friend. and what happens if she marries this guy? how awkward would it be knowing that you three had sex with each other before? sorry, but i vote for no!

it's always best to be the guest start in a threesome and that also means that you shouldn't be emotionally invested with one of them!

Yeah, I'm in the "no" camp. I see far too much potential there for things to get jealous and catty between you and your friend, and let's face it - boys are a dime a dozen, but a good friend is priceless. I think it's even more dangerous because you already have a little crush on her boy. It's just not a risk worth taking, to potentially spoil a great friendship just to satisfy your own sexual curiosity and get to be in bed with a hot guy. Explain to her why you're saying no - that you can't bear to risk the possibility that it might damage your friendship, even though you're flattered that they asked you - and she'll probably be relieved.

Agree 100% w/ scorpstar.

If it was someone whose friendship you didn't value as much I might say go for it. But in this case the potential for one night of fun just doesn't seem worth the risk.

NO. Especially since you obviously really want to date your best friend's boyfriend. I think you're seeing this as a way to steal him from her, which a threesome should never be. This is the fastest way to lose your best friend! Sounds like an awfully sticky situation to me, teetering on the edge of being disastrous.

I'm in scorpstar's camp, too. This is a loaded situation just waiting to explode.

No way!
You already suspect you might have feelings for her boyfriend so just.. NO!!

I really think this is a bad idea. I can see how you would be flattered, but I think your friendship is more important.

This may serve to ruin your relationship with her and her relationship with him. Stay away! Bad, bad idea.

i have given this idea plenty of thought. I've been interested in having a threesome for a while and have been curious how best to go about it. After reading everyone's comments it seems like involving a friend is definitely not the best way to go about it. Maybe one of those dating sites... but then you run the risk of shady characters. This could be one of those things that are best left to fantasy... sorry but i guess i'm in the no camp too.

NOPE. Honestly, (And I'm apologizing for being brutally honest here) it sounds like boyf(r)iend picked you because you are accessable, and won't charge for it.
Harsh? Yup. You need to hear it!
If he had class, he wouldn't be pressuring her for this, or you. Think about it... what will this do for your friendship? Your Friend and her Boyf(r)iend of the moment may be all hot about it now, but what will happen for you and your friend 10 years down the line? THAT'S what's important. Not his libido.

Tell her you are flattered, but they may do better just picking up a girl-on-girl DVD...

as long as you all lay everything out in the open, it should be an amazing experience for all of you. the same thing happened with me, except id be the one with the man, and my best friend was who joined us. i made sure my best friend and i talked everything over ahead of time, and we all agreed it was just for fun. we all had a few drinks together, to loosen up, as these things are awkward to start, and had the most amazingly hot night ever. we are all still great friends, and i feel this is because we set our boundaries ahead of time.

DON'T DO IT.

You said you are attracted to your friend's boyfriend, that's one reason it's risky, the other is that you could totally make you and your best friend's relationship awkward! On top of it, if it creates any problems in the relationship and they end up breaking up, your involvement will become personal and she may hold the threeseome (and in some regard, you) responsible. Think about it: how will you be able to comfort your friend when you also f*cked him?? Why do that to yourself? Say you're flattered and if you were gonna do it with anyone, it would be them, but you're just not interested.

BAD IDEA!!!!!!!!! I would be offended if someone asked me that...

Just say NO. Of course the boyfriend wants a threesome, all men want a threesome, and I'm sure it turned him on when the two of you kissed, how could it not? But to say things could get weird is the understatement of the age. Before you know it, she'll be accusing him of wanting you more than her, and she'll be accusing you of wanting her boyfriend (which you kinda do, let's face it). The potential is high for two relationships to be destroyed, hers with her boyfriend, and your friendship. It doesn't sound like something you even want, but if you do really want to do a threesome, (I can't think of why anyone would want to do that), I think follow Sammantha's lead on SAC -- be the guest star, series regular was not in her contract and it shouldn't be in yours either. I'd say I was flattered, but no thank you. And if he pressures you or she tries to kiss you again, honestly I'd run for the hills.

you're going to do what u really want either way so go ahead and take a one way ticket on the gross bus. my best friends and i never ever get that close- drunk or not. obviously u have some bicurious tendensies so go ahead and watch ur friendship crash and burn into flames afterward.

Oh, you just never know what will come up on PopSugar. yippeee...

Hey, Frannie, HOW BOUT DISCUSSING ALL OF THE ??s YOU WERE POSTING HERE WITH YOUR FRIEND AND HER BOYFRIEND? Including the fact that you're really attracted to him.

If the three of you can sit down and openly discuss all the pros and cons of having sex together and come to a mutual agreement on boundaries and where/when to draw the line then I'd say go for it. If you're not able to discuss such a potentially volatile situation then I'd say you need to politely say "thanks, but no thanks" and go home alone and have a nice session masturbating to the thought.

I do hope you read Savage Love. Dan's right on about so many things and this situation has been addressed a million times in a million positions in his column.

Gross if you wanna make out with another girl, do you really wanna be that disgusting. Why would you be flattered by someone who wants you to be a slut for him? He sounds like a lowlife creep. Maybe his mom can join him and his girlfriend and see how he likes it.

OMG, DarkRayne, can we assume for the sake of sanity that there are, in fact, women who enjoy kissing other women on this site? And how does asking for a threesome involve anyone being a "slut"? This isn't junior high school (I don't think?). This guy sounds like someone who isn't afraid of asking for what he wants sexually. It's a lesson women would do well to learn. Ask for what you want; don't hesitate to say what you don't want. And that seems to be what Fran is trying to figure out, what she really wants.

I dont think its worth the risk of possibly losing your friend. Of course he thought his gf kissing a girl was hot- most guys would- but I just that the odds of this happening and there not being some bad consequences are slim to none.

Boy could I tell you some juicy horror stories about doing that...and then you would lean towards NO too.

I'm in the Yes camp, but I think you have to do as pamelamarie88 said and talk it all through beforehand. You have to have an incredible amount of trust to be part of a threesome. You also have to know yourself well enough to be able to store a threesome as just another sexual experience. I think it's an easier situation for men because they are more able to view sex as a physical act where women tend to attach emotion to it.

feralwoman - agree 100%!

I think no. It would be make things weird between all of you, even if you swore that you wouldn't let it. My fiance`'s brother had a threesome with his friends and he says it creeps him out to think about it now.

a threesome would not only destroy your relationship with your friend, it would definately destroy your friend's relationship with her boyfriend. it isn't worth it!!!

I don't think its a good idea either. She's your friend seeing you with her man is going to spark some jealousy feelings and your friendship will probably suffer for it. Some fantasies are better off left as that IMO.

I DONT THINK U SHOULD HAV THE THREESOME..ooo and im soo sry 4 writing in caps i didnt kno it was on. lol threesomes in my opinion ruin things and yea, u may start having feelings 4 the guy...and it will suck...i dont think anythin good can come out of this. some1 usually will get hurt at the end. u kno?

threesomes i just hate ters no point , idk its eww.
but i hear this show on the radio called Loveline on kroq 106.7 wit Dr.Drew (u can google him if ur intrested. ) and ppl always call in about the same problem that u hav and he always says NO! cuz it can get weird afterwards and like u said u might or start getting feelings 4 the guy..u kno? i dont think u want 2 b in that place..u kno?

idk i think ur friendship is more important than the guy.

Don't do it!!

NO NO NO NO NONO NO NO NONONONONON

WHAT? Okay, guess I'll be the first to say "why not?" If it's a one time thing... go ahead. But don't make it a habit. To go on a slippery slope; yeah, it could cause jealously... but, talk it over with them... if you are having any doubts about doing it now though, then NO NO NO don't do it.

OH MY GOD. NOOOOOO!!!!! This will end in tears, yours and hers. Take my word on it, I've been there. If you ever ever do this, do it with strangers, not friends.

Oh, I wanted to say, what about suggesting just you girls together? He can watch but not touch? That might be a way of preserving the friendship but still experimenting, if you really can't say no.

Don't do it, having a threesome with such a close friend is not a good idea.

no no no!

NEVER!! This will jeopardize your friendship and it's a lose/lose/lose situation for everyone.

Don't do it! It will definitely hurt your friendship.

I say don't do it. 1st, you didnt state how long your friend has been in the relationship and if HER relatiship is kinda new, there will be aftermath. My husband and I participated before we were married and still argue about a few times when we were not on the same page, which is extremely important when bringing another person into the bed. Plus, you did not mention if you had bisexual tendencies BEFORE your gf kissed you, so I would be hesitant to try something that could ruin your friendship. You said her BF found your kiss hot, thus t 3some invite - but what about your friend? Does she want you OR does she want you cuz HE wants the both of you? I'd say leave this whole issue alone...it just sounds like a big failure all the way around.

i say dont do it, it will make things awkward and it might ruin your relationship, but this really comes down to what you really want to do. Just think about the consequences, and your feelings towards your gf's bf. is it really worth your friendship? think about it good luck

PS: this reminds me of that episode on entourage, when eric and his gf had a three some with eric's best friend.

^ eric's gf best friend

Sure, go for it! Why not let him film it too for added xxx hotness?

Seriously. why would you do this? Do you have a sexual relationship with your best friend? Are you attracted to her? You said you kissed her "just to be funny."

Of course he thought the kiss was hot--that's why you did it, to turn him on. You were playing to the fantasy guys have that all girls are secretly bi and sexually attracted to their best friends, which is complete BS. I'm no more attracted to friends I've had since middle school than I am to my sister.

I really don't understand the need of girls these days to cater to men's fantasies by acting like porn stars.

I would say there is a definite possibility of the situation becoming awkward between you and your friend after. When you hang out together will she picture you and her boyfriend together? When you introduce a new boyfriend to her and her boyfriend will he be uncomfortable if he knows about the history? Why would you ruin a great friendship with these posibilities.

I would politely decline and tell them you are flattered but dont want to cause future awkwardness becuase you like them so much.

Threesomes, like any sexual activity,are much more enjoyable if you are not worried about something like that hanging over your head.

no

Run away from this...she'll never forgive you. And why feed his fantasy if it's not yours?

i think its a sticky situation for sure mostly because its up in the air what you guys will be doing also...just some play or actual sex, make booundaries if youre going to go through with it..

I thinks it's probably not such a great idea seem as you guys are best friends, and you are worried about having feelings for her bf should you do it. Personally, I know people who can do stuff with their friends and separate the sex from any 'love' feelings, I'm a very emotional kind of person so I know that it wouldn't be a good idea for me as an individual to do that. Also, I would want to know if your friend actually really wants to do it OR if she's just wanting to do it for her boyfriend! And should you do it and you decide you do not want to do it again, in no way feel obligated!!
All the best,
Suzie

No!! Seriously. Think about all the horrible things that could happen. It's not worth the risk.

I've had 2 threesomes and one orgy, all with best girlfriends and boyfriends and friends. If you are interested, take it into consideration, but think about the fact that things are going to change afterward. You can also think about the fact that from moment to moment you are always a changing person. On a daily basis things change. My suggestions to you is to feel out the situation and a singular basis, judge his character and her character. Are they strong enough and will they love it or will it turn into a total nightmare? If your best friend has total trust in you, it could be amazing! It also sounds like you wouldn't likely fall in love with her boyfriend, and if it helps you can always think about the fact you are actually doing your best friend a favor and that her boyfriend is not your type. If you feel like you are more into him after the experience, shut him out, think about the fact he is not a professional, but an artist, anything to turn you off, but chances are, you won't ever want to get it on with the guy again (you'll want to run away when you see him). Take that into consideration too. Sex can be about pure love, so think of it as something special, unique and interesting that has the capability of happening. There is a lot of reading you can do about this matter, including a lot of text on tantra, and it can be a very fun and energizing experience. You can feel closer to your friends on another level, but you have to keep a very relaxed, trusting, open mind.

Skip it. Trust, it will probably not be good for either of you in the long run!

I forgot to mention one thing, the best threesome I had was with a close girl friend of mine and a Swedish guy we thought was hot. The Swede was a mutual acquaintance of ours, and we had been planning an attack on a guy we mutually thought of as sexy as a kind of exploration and excitement. This was also in a very wild and free time in our lives. We would never do this again, in fact now we giggle about it, but at the time it was fun and interesting. There is definitely an openness and close bond between us where we can talk about any sexual problems, etc. And as for the rest of experiences, well, some didn't turn out so great, but we were trusting and humorous enough with one another that we didn't think twice about it, but knew we had a good story to tell, and a good laugh, if anything. All of them involved condoms and acquaintances (very good for breaking the ice), keep in mind. Something with your best friend and her boyfriend might be toooo intense, so pace it out, ponder and talk about it more with your best friend.

Don't do it. That's all I have to say.