A friend of mine is looking for a new place after her roommate, who also happens to be her co-worker, asked her to move out. Here are the extremely awkward details:
I moved in with my co-worker, who is also a friend, about three months ago. Things had been going relatively well until this one week when she started acting cold toward me. I figured she was having a bad week, so I just gave her some space around the house and at work. Then out of the blue, she told me she wants me to move out. Technically she can tell me to leave because I'm not on a lease. Her parents own the place. She told me that she thought it was too hard to spend that much time with me, since we worked for the same company and lived together.
I'm so frustrated. I just got situated in my place. It's going to be expensive and inconvenient to move again, but I can't exactly make her let me stay. I would just suck it up and move on with my life, but even after I do that I need to face her at work!
Do you have any advice to offer my friend? (And if you have some awkward tales of your own, join our Awkward! group to share etiquette questions and stories with other readers.)
TX Technoluxury
Taillissime
G Star
#1 dont move into a place where you arent on the lease
#2 dont move in with a coworker
Its not rocket science to figure out what went wrong.
move out, get on a lease, dont move in with a coworker.
1That's a little selfish of her, I think. But, there's not much recourse that you have in this case. I'd imagine this is going to upset your work relationship, which is unfortunate.
2Why don't you ask her to help you move?
Nicely, of course.
And for the future, CGs advice sounds pretty solid, don't you think?
3Even though it's a hassle, it's best for you to move on to someplace else. I would first ask her to tell you honestly whether you offended her and what led to her change in feelings. Try to resolve any differences sooner rather than later so as to at least minimize awkwardness at work.
4Unfotunately it doesn't look like you have much of a choice.Hopefully she's decent enough to give you some time to find your own place.
Then move out and hope like hell that karma severely bites her in the azz someday....
5That sucks! There's not much to do but go forward and learn from your mistakes. Insist on a lease, even with friends. Every time.
6There really isn't anything you can do in a situation where you're not on the lease -- just ask her to give you a grace month or so to find a new place and to complete your move. I don't know to what extent you have to work with her everyday...but I know if I were in that situation, I'd be so pissed that I'd keep any contact to a minimum. If you're feeling at all vengeful, you could always tell your other coworkers how you were brutally booted from your new home for no reason
7Hmm. I guess I understand a little that she might feel overwhelmed with you being around all the time. She probably is a person that needs space or she found out that your personalities are too oposite. But that's still messed up for her to do that. Maybe she's stressed and will eventually feel bad for just kicking you out and you guys can move on and coexist at work again. Otherwise just interact when you need to. Hope you find a place soon.
8Always two sides to a story.
9You should ask her what you can do to make her a happier roommate. Were you hogging the fridge space, not doing the dishes, constantly trying to hang out or not paying bills on time? Although she sounds pretty passive aggressive, letting it get to the point where her anger just boiled over and she ended up kicking you out, maybe you can fix things with her? At worst, just move out and find your own place. The expenses accrued during this process are your learning lesson.
10Move out, and try to be cordial towards her at work.
11I would ask if here's some way to get around the issue, such as organizing your schedules so one of you is out for a walk for an hour or so when both are home.
Otherwise I'd ask her to give ou some time to find another place.
12just to get a perspective: i'm currently rooming with someone who i like as a person but is not a good roommate. so many little things pile up that sometimes i want to freak out.
13the correct way to handle these feelings is to gently address each issue as it comes up. (easier said than done)
The incorrect way to address the issue is to kick out your roommate with a vague explanation.
i don't really have any advice to give- sounds like you just need to find a new place.
Post New Comment
Please share your opinion with our community, but make sure it is on topic and follows our Community Rules. We moderate comments and prohibit personal attacks, threats, spam, lewd images, or the promotion of your personal website.