Dear Sugar
I have been with my husband for a long time. We dated for six years before we we got engaged and we have been married for just over three years. Everyday with him has been wonderful. We are best friends and have a very loving and playful relationship based on trust, understanding and mutual respect.
Our sex life is very satisfying too. We're still hot and heavy in the sack and we have sex on average about twice a week. I don't know what's come over me lately though. It seems like every time we are in the middle of intercourse my mind wanders and I start thinking about other men; cute men, not so cute men, movie stars etc... My mind pretty much just races around and finds the faces of guys.
This is totally freaking me out. It's not like I even consciously fantasize about men, or even want to be with other men - so why is this happening? It's starting to upset me and make me feel really guilty. Shouldn't my husband be enough?
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Alviero Martini
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I never had a husband not even a boyfriend..but isn't it normal to fantasize about other men? even when you really love the person you are with?
1yup
and whos to say that her husband isnt thinking of other women at the same time
2That is totally normal behavior.
3I think thats totally normal thing all women go thru at some point in there lives. Itll be ok babes!
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The baby in my belly made me do it I swear.
do you REALLY think your dh hasn't had a thought or 2 himself? no big.
5Just as long as you're not yelping out someone else's name during the lovemaking, you're good. Don't stress about it.
6Try not to focus on it to much. Maybe, since your really worried about this (thinking of other men), this in turn is making you focus on it even more...kind of like obsessive compulsive disorder. I don't think you have OCD but, it is kind of the same general idea. Just relax and try not to think about it. If the thoughts come up just go through with them and try not resist them. That way you will probably end up thinking about it for a shorter period of time until, eventually you'll stop thinking about it all together. It will be okay, and don't feel guilty about these thoughts either because, that will also hinder the process.
And, I my vote is totally forgive.
7*And, I voted totally forgive.
8what is DH? I have seen it before. I know it refers to the husband but I cant figure out where D fits into it
9DH = dear husband
10i thougt so thanks
11that's ridiculous - just don't act on your fantasies, this isn't even an issue
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