My boyfriend and I decided not to share our numbers. It's actually healthier this way. None of unnecessary trust and jealousy issues. It was his idea actually and I complied because his reasoning made sense. I had asked and he said the past doesn't matter because we're together and that's the relationship that really matters.

At first I thought maybe he was so ashamed of his number that he would rather not let me know. Maybe that's the case but since he didn't ask for my number, perhaps he just would rather leave the past in the past.

As long as we're both STD Free, there's really no point in knowing the number of sexual partners we both had in the past.

I ask the magic number like.. straight away. I want to know where I stand. =)

LUCKILY me and my boyfriend have the same amount and all of his ex's are revolting. =D

I really really don't care. I think it's important to know the history of your partner, but I couldn't care less who has a higher number.

I wanna have more partners, but I'd like him to have all the "experience" of more partners.

I know how many girls my husband was with before me- he was the kind of guy that would date a girl for a long time- I had several serious boyfriends, but I also dated around more. I know that I have been with more people than my husband, and he knows that I have been with more- but hes never actually asked me outright how many, and its never been an issue.

I wish my honey had the larger number but he doesn't. It makes me feel like a slut when my number is bigger than the guy's number.

I like having the bigger number since I can't stand knowing that my fiancé has slept with more people than just me, but at the same time, I wish we hadn't shared since I do feel that I was more promiscuous than I thought I was...and it was a bit of a shock to my fiancé, I think he was shocked because I am NOT the girl that sleeps around.

It was a little awkward in my case... I just had to get over it. I, so rare these days, hadn't slept with anyone, and he had slept with a WHOLE LOT of people in his crazy college days. He'd been tested and all, but it was just hard to think of that many people having had a piece of what was now mine. I kinda wish I hadn't asked, but at the same time, it was good to know.

I think it's better if no one asks and no one tells, because when you do share, sometimes it just opens another can of issues that really are not that serious.

I am actually not a believer in sharing the actual numbers. Who needs specifics? But that being said, my boyfriend was a MAJOR player; a really good looking actor, artist who treated every woman nicely no matter how casual the realtionship. The girls threw themselves at him and he was happy to take what came his way. So his number FAR exceeds mine, and I'm alright with that.

This was a little odd with us. My guy was my first, which surprised him when he found out. I know he's had sexual relationships in the past, but I haven't really asked and I don't really care. I know about one of his exes (I've actually met her a few times), and all he told me about her was that her ideas of a sexual relationship were way different than his. This was a little more than I really needed to know.

I guess it doesn't matter. He has WAY more than me and it used to bother me. Not so much anymore but it really used to bring me down!

I'd rather us be the same but that's not likely.

Personally, I'd rather not know. As long as he doesn't give me the 'gift that keeps giving'. I'm fine. The past is the past.

My bf is my first (and hopefully only), and he is WAY more experienced than me, and that sometimes is a BIG problem, since he is still friend with most of the girls he dated/had sex with, and I tend to freak out about it.
I really wish he was a virgin and I was his first sometimes.

I prefer if the number is about the same. It doesnt matter who has more. I think as people have mentioned, when there is a big disparity (especially if one was previously a virgin) this can create quite a few problems. But it also depends on his attitude towards his past, I was with a guy who was prety insecure and thought each drunken one night stand somehow made him manlier. Ugh.

who cares? unless they hadn't been practicing safe sex or if there were an excessive number of partners (outside my comfort level) it would make zero difference. i'd be more interested in knowing the number of meaningful relationships he had and if he had been faithful when that was the understanding of the woman.

I was shocked when he told me his number... so yes, I would have wanted a bigger number

I don't like to know, or to tell. I think it can cause more drama then it's worth, and there's no guarantee it's even the real number. All I need to know is that he's clean and that he's faithful to me.

i dont think it should matter

Why would it matter?

I have never asked- and I DO wonder sometimes....but i would rather not know. I just pretend its lower than me- haha.

When I met my husband and we started a relationship (8 yrs ago), we talked about numbers. He's a few years older than me, so I expected his number to be higher. However there was no way in hell I was going to tell him my real number (which is equally high), are you crazy? I said 8, including him, and will take that number to my grave HAHA. We both were tested before we went without protection and to me, that is more important. You can sleep with 1 person and catch a STD, so in the scheme of things numbers are irrelevant.
However, my personal preference is that each partner has a few notches on their belt so they know what they are doing. I can't stand teaching a man what to do(unless he's a virgin) LMAO

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 years and we were the firsts for each other, so we've only each had one sex partner. It's kinda special actually. =)

i have the higher number and i regret

I love having a higher number, but at the same time it isn't really a big deal either way.

we are each others first
and im proud of it
i would hate to be a cheap little slut and cheap around with just anyone

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