When you're in a relationship, do you like to do everything with your significant other? Do you like to exercise with him, go shopping with him, even sun bathe with him? Or do you like to be more independent -- would you rather come home at the end of the day with stories for him or surprise him with that new top you bought? Different strokes for different folks, so ladies tell me, do you like the constant closeness with your mate or do you prefer a little breathing room?









Paula Page
L'Autre Chose
Comfort
i love my bf and all but if i don't get my alone and/or girl friends time, i think i'd kill him from too much exposure LOL!
1Always a little breathing room.
That's just the way I am. Especially in the beginning of a relationship, I tried to start as slow as possible give lots of spaces.
There were times when I enjoyed being close to my mate almost all the time (called the honeymoon phase)
But now, after a child and 2 years of marriage, yeah, I'd love to have time for myself...
2I need my alone time!
3My hubby and I made it a point while dating that we would still do things on our own and not fall into that "I lost all of my friends because I'm dating someone" routine. We're happily married, yet we don't spend all of our free time together. We set aside special date night once a week!
4My boyfriend and I spend the majority of our free time together and we both like it that way
As long as he gets a couple of hours a day to nerd-out on his computer he's happy!
5I need my time to be girly and pluck!
6And he needs to be a boy and burp and fart (or whatever it is they do).
Breathing room is heathy.
7when my boyfriend and i were undergrads we saw each other everyday and we were both super jealous and clingy. we now live about 45 minutes apart, he's an engineer and i'm in law school, and we see each other on weekends. We're happier than we've ever been! I figure that, if/when we're ready to get married, it will be nice to know that we've grown, separately, and we'll be better compliments to one another!
8It makes me nuts when people cant be apart from their SO for a minute. I lost a bridesmaid and now we arent even friends anymore bc she couldnt get a babysitter and she "couldnt possibly" ask her husband to stay at home with the baby and not bring him with her.
9I love my husband to pieces, but there are times when I just want to be alone or with the girls.
your own space is VERY important.
10My hubby and I do mostly everything together, and I like it that way but sometimes I do need a break.
11i'm in a long distance relationship.. its difficult but we make it work ... we can't be attached at the hip because of the obvious reasons, so whenever we get to see each other (once a month usually) we basically are attached at the hip (with, of course, the usual one night alone, another night with friends, etc)
being apart is healthy, it helps us grow together, but it also helps us not become so dependent on each other and instead compliment each other...
12I like to have my own space with my guy. We do tend to finish each others thoughs, but we do like to have our own personal hobbies and come together for the things we both enjoy.
13Me and my bf do EVERYTHING together. We now work together, go to college together, and spend every waking moment together. We just don't live together because my parents are strict about living with your significant other without marrying them.
14And it's been working well for 1.5 years.
It depends on my mood haha. Sometimes I love to be with him all day: running errands, grabbing lunch, movies, hanging out, beach, etc. etc. But a girl has to be alone too. I also love to hang out with my girls, so that is def a "no-boyfriend" moment.
15I've always pictured myself as the kind of girlfriend who would be with her boyfriend all the time. As our relationship has progressed, I realize both of us are very independent and even though we love spending time together, we do give each other space to be with our friends. Also, since I came into dating late in the game, I heard many stories from friends and family complaining about how their friends would drop off the face of the earth when they'd have a parter. I vowed never to be "that girlfriend". So luckily, I'm not and he's not. If I feel he's hasn't had enough time with his boys and he invites me along, I usually decline yet thank him for the offer, and visa versa. We've both seen how "attached at the hip" can affect a friendship . . . there needs to be a healthy balance and I hope my guy and I strike a good balance for our friends and family.
16I'm all for being together, and sharing common hobbies. We actually do most everything together. We still need alone time when we come home from work, and have interests that don't involve one another as well.
17My fiance and I are together most of the time and I love that. But alone time is good; girlfriend time is good.
18I'm not really sure. In the beginning, I liked alone time, and then somehow we became attached to the hip. But all this time together is starting to cause some tension, so we're slowly backing it up to me time, you time, and us time. Normally, I'm very much someone who needs alone time away from the same person.
19I moved away, and since my boyf and I have a stronger, better, awesome relationship! I get butterflies when we see each other and we have been dating 5.5 years! I miss him constantly, but, the time we spend together is so wonderful...i still think i shouldn't have moved, but so far we have only gotten closer!
20I usually need more space than the guy. But a long distance relationship is too much space; I do not believe in them.
xo
21I do like to spend a lot of time with him, but I need my own space, too.
22i love being with my bf as much as possible, i c my friends all the time so i figure its fine. i spend 8 months out of the year in another state so we tend to b attached at the hip during the 4 months i am home
23After being together for some time, I think everybody realizes that they need a bit of space.. It really does make the heart grow fonder
24at the very beginning, i was very attached to my boyfriend.now, we still spend a lot of time together but we give each other space. i need my some alone time to relax and do some facial mask and gossip with my girlfriends.
25Definitely some space........ although i love spending time with my husband because he's alot of fun but being together 24/7 is not always healthy for any relationship IMHO.We have our own individual interests as well as some shared interests so we do our own things too. If i spent every waking moment with him there would be nothing left to talk about at the end of the day.I appreciate him so much more and I am always so happy to see him when he gets home.
26When I had relationships in the past and we were attached at the hip it never lasted. I married the first man who didn't require me to have him as the one and only in my life...this works much better. I hang out with friends and so does he. We end up spending most of our free time with each other, but we always have the option to go out if we feel like it.
27Sometimes my husband and I spend a lot of time together, and sometimes we don't. We actually worked in the same office for about a year and we LOVED it! That was actually when we started spending more time together. But I do like my space at times.
28Attached at the hip. I don't ever want to be apart from him. I see him every two days because this is a long distance thing, we don't live together. So we have space. But when we are together we don't bother trying to go out with other people. It's just him and me. It's perfect. We are both 19.
29Love the hubby to death and love spending quality time with him, but definitely NEED the me time to read or whatever. And I actually prefer to run errands on my own.
30It's super unhealthy for your relationship to spend every waking moment together. You'll eventually start really getting on each other's nerves and fighting all the time. Sex drive will diminish. Things just won't seem interesting anymore. The easiest way to end a relationship is to spend too much time together. You have to have your own hobbies and things you do that are different. I could never be as much of a homebody as my boy is, but he could never be as social as I am. If you don't embrace each other's differences, it's hard to embrace for the long haul.
31I live with my boyfriend and i love being with him all the time but there are times when i just need to take a bath and lock the door. I call that ME time. Its not very often it happens (i dont mind though
) but when it does happen i appriciate it.
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