
Deciding to see a therapist is a big decision and there are many things to consider before unloading all your problems and worries to a complete stranger. For some good tips, click here to read more
- Deciding if you want a male or female therapist should be your first step
- Speak to your general physician and ask he or she if they have any referrals. If you trust your doctor, chances are they will point you in the right direction
- Unlike hiring a housekeeper, getting a referral from a friend is not the best idea. In order for your therapist to have a completely unbiased perspective on your problems, he or she must not have a connection to your life other than what you feel comfortable talking about
- When you get a few names of potential candidates, some people choose to interview them over the phone before making the first appointment. If you choose to do so, briefly talk about why you are seeking counseling and ask how they can help you. If you opt to go straight to the couch, remember that just because you had one session, you don't necessarily have to stick with that specific therapist forever
- Therapy is very expensive so if you don't want to pay out of pocket, be sure to ask if they accept your medical insurance
- Regardless of where he or she went to school, or how long he or she has been helping people, feeling a personal connection with your therapist is the most important thing to consider -- you need to find a trustworthy person who can offer you a safe environment
- If you are deciding between two therapists, ask yourself a few important questions: who is easier to talk to, who pushes you farther, who do you feel more connected to? I would also suggest following your gut instinct if you need to choose one over another. All therapists have different styles so opt for the person who you feel the most chemistry with
Good luck!









Malene Birger
Dimensione Danza
Giuseppe Zanotti
Sounds like good advice.
1I have gone to two, one not so good and one great. The second one said he usually recommends a three session try-out period. If you feel your therapist is not going to work and you don't feel you can open up to them after three sessions, then move on, because you will never be able to open up and trust them and that is truely the key to making it work and worth your time as well as money. If and when you find the right one, it is so great and rewarding!
2I went to one therapist on my own, female, and she just listened to me, she didn't really push me to change or improve myself. That sucked. Then my honey and I went to a male marriage counselor, but he told a pastor at the church that we go to something confidential from one of our sessions, so we stopped going to him. He wasn't working out anyway cuz he was only concerned with the results from this stupid personality test he made us take and that's all he really talked about. Now we go to a male marriage and family counselor. He is awesome, although I sometimes dread going because he does challenge me to think better about myself, and improve myself, and I like to stay in my comfort zone.
My best advice to finding a counselor is to find someone who is real that you connect with, but who won't enable you to continue with what you are currently doing, make excuses for your behavior. If you want to get "better" or improve your life, that's not going to help.
3Also, therapists, after a visit or two, can decide whether or not they will accept you as a patient. Usually the doctor's offices will tell you that when you call, but that is something to definitely consider.
4Damn, wish I could afford ANY therapist.....
5Great tips, Dear ... makes me realise I lucked out when I found my therapist! Personally though, gender was never a huge consideration. His/her personality and whether it clicked with mine was a much higher priority.
6Good tips!
7Luckily I´ve found my therapist without much troubles, and I really trust her. But keep in mind that trust is built session after session! Don`t expect your life solved in 2 months =)
rubialala- As a therapist, I have to say it is horrible that your second therapist broke confidentiality. I'm not sure which state he practices in, but that is totally unethical and could get him in serious trouble.
Also, different therapists are guided by different theories based on how they believe people move toward change. One might mainly listen and reflect while being totally genuine and non-directive, and another may be more directive while using activities and cognitive techniques, etc.
8I have one, she is an awesome support person, she looks after me, gives me Ideas and solutions, when you find a good one stick with them, I have mine helping me with my mental health...the therapy can be different from one another!
9I really am thinking about seeing a therapist, so that was great advice.
10Thanks!
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