Here's a story that will convince you that living on your own is worth higher rent. A friend of mine in her second year of graduate school decided to move in with two fellow students. After a month of a really fun house-dynamic, the two other roommates started sleeping together. They had been only friends before, but the close quarters apparently made them discover a mutual attraction. Now my friend feels like she's living with a couple instead of two friends and she's worried about a potentially dramatic situation if things go sour between the pair. What would you do if you suddenly wound up being the third wheel in your own place?
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whatever, as long as they weren't in her way with their, ahem, physical relationship, then why care?
1i wouldn't do anything really (not like you can tell them not to date) but if they were inapropriate in any way i would tell them to knock it off
if it was really bad i'd move out when my lease was up but otherwise i'd just put in my time and maybe spend more time out of the house
2I'm uncomfortable being the third wheel in any situation, so I would wish them well and move out as soon as I could......
3I signed a lease with a friend bc she and her bf broke up and they were living together. I was excited to have a roommate and a live in friend. Well 2 months in they got back together and he moved in to her room. I didnt say much since it didnt infringe on my rent since they were sharing a room but made him pay 1/3 of the bills. Still, it sucked to feel like a 3rd wheel when all I signed up for was a female roommate. Needless to say I got my own place when the lease was up. It sucks to feel like you are the odd man out or like you are the outsider living with a couple no matter what the situation is.
4I'm used to being the third wheel. My roommate has been dating her boyfriend for a few years now and he's over here most of the week, so it almost feels like he's an additional roommate. I am friends with both of them and its pretty comfortable. I think as long as your friend's roommates are respectful to her, then it shouldn't be a problem. I do understand the fear that a breakup would make things very difficult though.
5I can get why she is uncomfortable, but what can she do? The best thing to do is to not pay attention to the whole situation and let them be.
6My friend was in a similar situation. She lived with two guys (both gay) and the two guys ended up dating. When they started dating they talked about who would move out if the relationship ended which it eventually did. Also the couple were very respectful to my friend because they knew she wouldn't appreciate seeing them going at it and stuff. When they split the guy who said he would move out did and they got another roommate. it really wasn't a big deal.
7At least when I started hooking up with my roommate and future husband, we had the decency to keep on on the downlow for a while. And we didn't have any other roommates! But if I were the third wheel, I wouldn't worry about it unless things did start to go sour or until things got super serious. Then I'd consider finding my own place.
8I wouldn't want to live with a couple. Honestly, I'd move.
9Something similar happened to me a few years ago when my friend and roommate started dating a guy and it got really serious. He had his own place, but ended up living with us as well. I felt a bit like the third wheel at first, but eventually I just realized I could no longer include them in fun activities because they'd become so isolated. It worked out because when I broke my lease to escape the awkwardness (and many other reasons) he ended up taking over my lease. It depends on the couple and how awkward they make it for you.
10It depends on the couple, but always be wary and make sure you're covered if they try to get out of the lease early (either because they break up or want to move to their own place).
11But this person is in grad school. Do they really have any time to be hanging around like a 3rd wheel in between living at their lab or wherever their grad school duties are? If the couple does split then it is more of a reason to be focused on school. I say at this point that if a move is planned then wait to winter break.
12who cares, as long as she still pays the rent and all. i've lived with a couple before and even survived when they broke up - as long as they paid the rent on time, it didnt affect me.
13I guess I just don't care who I lived with as long as they weren't slobs, eating my food, being loud in the AM or destroying things. If you pay the bills you can do whatever you want. I never cared about couples as long as they werent having sex in the living room. Plus, with a social life and a job, I was never home much when i was single and rooming.
14I think i'd move out, i'd hate feeling the odd man out or awkward in my own home at all. But that's roomates for ya.
Ahhh, I LOVE living Alone!!!!
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