No two people have identical romantic histories, so when you find yourself with a new significant other, disparate experiences can be an issue. For example, your partner's previous long-term relationship might be a source of insecurity if he or she is your first serious relationship. Or it might be frustrating if your new significant other is a relative novice and doesn't know the ins and outs of serious dating.
Which would you prefer — a partner who's experiencing almost everything for the first time with you or a well-seasoned significant other?
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Someone with a lot of experience knows what s/he's doing (we hope!) and so together you might have pleasure galore. Plus, someone with a lot of experience may no longer have wild oats to sew (assuming you're looking for a little stability). Of course, quality is more important than quantity. But then again, quality comes from practice. Doesn't it?
1I mean, wild oats to "sow." Ooops...
2at this age, i'd choose "lots" versus "a little" because if he doesn't have more than "a little" by mid-20s, that's weird
but i'd choose a middle ground, ideally
3I say "a little" because I feel more comfortable when someone's as inexperienced as I am (which is why I think my boyfriend and I were both excited when we discovered we were both virgins). However, I kinda like that my boyfriend dated a lot of girls before me. I don't think he'd be as awesome of a counsellor, and I think his experience has really helped our relationship since it counter's my inexperience (I had one boyfriend before him... and that relationship was just weird).
4It doesn't matter.
5I enjoyed being able to learn together with my husband seeing we were both virgins, and being on the same ground. Also, I don't have to worry he's comparing my parts to some other chick's
6I have not sexual experience what so ever, so I want the guy I loss my virginity to to be experience so he can spread the knowledge. But for a series relationship I really don't care. I don't care if I'm his first as long as I'm his last, and obviously that he is disease free.
7Alot of experience.
8I would rather date a man with experience. I don't want to be with someone who has no idea how to be in a relationship. I wouldn't want to be with a man who had little to no sexual experience either. I want a guy to know what to do and when to do it. I don't want to be a teacher. I did that with my high school boy friends. I'm way over that.
9Hmm I'm kinda trying to figure this out now. The guy I'm currently interested in hasn't had much experience (from what I can tell) and I think he's even a virgin. I have only had one sexual partner (long term 4 years) so I wouldn't consider myself experienced either, but I want to have sex, it just doesn't seem right to jump this new guy considering it'd be his first time haha. I think dating someone who has had some experience would make my current situation easier, but I am also a bit insecure and would wonder how I compare to his previous partners. I wonder how guys feel about this question though?
10SKIGURL -
I dont think its "weird" if someone has little experience in their twenties. Your comment was offensive.
11In the middle. I wouldn't dismiss anyone purely because they have A LOT of experience. I would prefer a little experience. I like to be in a relationship with someone who is on the same level as me. We can learn together.
It's all relative, anyway... if someone has come from a million unsuccessful relationships, is that any better than someone who has very little experience?
12Well, my boyfriend and I were each other's firsts, and I liked that we were able to learn how to please each other together. We were able to laugh and brush off the awkwardness because it was all new for both of us.
13I said a lot, but I'm in my mid-twenties so I expect more.
14Define a lot, though.
More than 10? That's fine. He'd align just fine with me.
Less than 3? That's a problem. Sexually, we're incompatible. I teach for a living. I don't want to come home and have to continue teaching.
With that being said, My husband fits in the middle and that's fine.
15I agree with #12 on this. I'm not very experienced, and I would feel more comfortable with a guy who's more on my level. I love the relationship I'm in now because he was my first serious relationship and first sexual partner. He was with one girl before me, and although I wish he'd been a virgin when he met me, I can still accept that. Even though that girl got his virginity, I was his first for a lot of other things. It's fun being able to experiment and try new things together and know that we're each others firsts for those things.
16honestly im far from a prude in many ways, but in this particular way actually i prefer a guy with no experience, i have never been with anyone other than my boyfriend, and hes never been with anyone other than me, and were not even religious, its just much better and you feel much closer to the person, and alot better about yourself when you arent all used up.
17A little. Part of the reason why I've never liked James Bond is because he's probably caught every STD imaginable! No man wh*res, please.
18A lot more experience. I hate teaching.
19I think it really depends on your own experience - from what I've read, those with fewer serious dating experiences prefer the same and those with more dating experiences.... you get it. In my personal history, I've preferred more experience just because I'm more shy in relationships/intimate situations and those with more experience have been able to bring me out of my relationship shell...
20can i just ask that he has a big dick?
21i don't care if he's done alot or alittle with it.. ;)~~~
If someone has little or much experience it does not matter.
Experience does not define you as a person, as the experience itself is not what counts, but how you deal with your situation.
If one has much experience it should mean that this person has learned from past mistakes and matured. But this is often not the case.
People who go from one relationship to another and end up having baggage when they reach their 30's often according to statistics end up depressed or alone in the end. People with little experience tend to have more security when it comes to commitment, and they have long lasting relationships when they eventually find someone.
Maturity is not defined by your experience with sex or even relationships, but more defined in how you are as a person and if you are able to learn from life. When it comes to sex, studies show that the best "lovers" out there are those with little experience, as they are in more touch with their feelings and often are givers and not takers.
People with lots of sexual experience are often detached emotionally, and often end up being bad "lovers"
As for being a teacher, there is not much a woman can teach a man about sex. It comes naturally with practice, and a mature woman would understand this and let her man find his own way. The same goes with girls who have little experience. You can't teach someone how to f*ck, you can only guide them and be supportive.
People who do not understand this often show a level of immaturity and probably aren't good "lovers" themselves.
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