I don't think so. If your bond is strong enough then by all means, if it helps your sexual relationship, go for it! But think about all of the pro's and con's before going through it.

I dont really think that any relationship can be made stronger or better by bringing someone else into it- not to mention the fact that your plan is to find some random girl while on vacation, what if one or both of you catch something from her? What if you hate it and he loves it or vice versa?
I knew a couple that did that and they had been together a long time and would occasionally bring another girl home- one day he came home and found out she was continuing to see one of the girls without him.
The idea might seem thrilling, but youre sharing your man with another girl- there is a HUGE possibility of jealousy here- if you think he is paying more attention to the new girl than you? IMO this is a terrible idea.

It depends on your relationship. If you are just in a fun for now, non-serious relationship, than by all means go for it.
If you are in a serious, long-term committed relationship, and want to keep it that way, do not do it.

I'm with ash_marisa on this one. I wouldn't have a problem having a threesome, but I would have done it long before I committed myself to my husband and got married. And it certainly wouldn't have been with him.

Bringing in a third person can really change things and you should definitely think carefully about it.

I think Kim Catrall said it best in Sex and the City. If you're going to be in a threesome, be the guest star. I've known couples that engaged in threesomes, and it sparked jealousy and hurt feelings. Don't just think about having two people in bed with you, entertain the possibility that you might have to wait patiently while your boyfriend gets off with another girl. It's not always like a porno.

Plus, wouldn't it open the door to thoughts and feelings that sleepign with others is okay? I would totally be jealous, and then i would be wondering if my man enjoyed that more than sex with me, and then would he go looking elsewhere for the same thrill?

No No No No.

I could not imagine and would NEVER want to see my boyfriend being intimate with another woman. And what if she had an STD? Its hard to avoid transmitting it if he goes from her to you and so on.

I also think you telling him this and especially if you went through with it, cheating would almost look like less of a crime in his eyes, since you allowed him to be with another woman.

There are so many ways to spice up the sex life, without bringing a stranger into it. Yuck.

I think no. Friends of mine that had been dating for 6 years with a daughter pursued this and it ruined everything. Wifey went to bed and he and the other girl continued. When wifey asked if anything happened they said no. Lies started.

It's true that how is it going to better your relationship or improve things? You're bringing a whole new person into this mix and who knows maybe you will like the sex with them better.

Definetly write out pros and cons and all possibilities including breaking up.

Think this over EXTREMELY CAREFULLY... I have seen relationships fall apart over this sort of thing if lots and lots of rules are not agreed upon.

Also, if you're going to pick some girl up on vacation, how can you be sure neither of you will catch something? I'd be really frightened about hooking up with a stranger in that way unless she is tested first! but as an adult, I always want my partners checked beforehand because it's just SO risky.

No. You won't be able to look at him the same way again. Or at least, that's how I'd feel.

I know a couple who are into this. They've been married for a long time and I think got bored. Is that what you want in your relationship? Personally I wouldn't - which is why after the one "try" I'd not be able to look at my SO the same way again.

Of course all guys dream of the time they get to have a three some (typically with two girls) but sometimes when it really comes down to it and they are in a committed relationship with the woman they love, they are not to willing to share.

It sounds like your boyfriend is not quite on board like you are on this threesome idea. If he is not 110% on board, then you may want to think of another idea.

It takes a pretty strong couple to be able to engage in bringing another person into a sexual act. Both people may be comfortable at the time of the sexual act, but it could possibly stir up jealously, resentment and a whole lot of other emotions. I am not saying you and your guy can’t handle it, but I have heard from too many people if both people are not fully comfortable and aware of the ground rules, it always goes south.

If you feel the need to spice up your sexual life, try adding toys, watching videos, role playing, etc. But if your guy is not in the same place you are, don’t push the idea.

Good Luck!

I think this is a very good question, b/c to be honest it is a hot idea for both the guy and girl. I've entertained the idea myself, but really do wonder if I'd actually 'do it.' I think once you're settled down in your life (like being married, had children, etc), then I MIGHT entertain the idea if both me and my hubby were clear that it was just a one time thing.

It doesn't seem like either of you are 100% sure that you want to do this. Personally, I think it would be a really fun way to spice things up in the bedroom. But I'd wait until you are BOTH COMPLETELY SURE that this is something you want to do.

threesomes = trouble....period

Don't do it.

Depends on the dynamics of your relationship.... Plenty of monogamous couples engage in this type of play, but it all depends on the people involved....Just remember safety first. Make sure all participants are tested and use condoms.......

Once the fun wears off will either of you feel jealous even though both of you agreed? What if you hate it? How will you feel when you three are in bed and your boyfriend is doing with someone else what should only be between the two of you?

I think it all depends on if you love him or not. If you do, then a threesome will probably ruin the relationship. On the other hand, maybe you want a threesome more than he does because you are sexually bored with him. Perhaps you two could revise the sex between yourselves before bringing a third person in?

Go for it, but make sure it's while on vacation, doing that with someone in that you know well in the same town as you is a bad idea. keep it totally casual, and don't keep in contact afterwards. I know that sounds kind of sleazy haha, but it's pretty much the only way to do it without any feelings involved.

Oh it's a really bad idea. Speaking from personal experience, it's waaaaaaay better in your head than it is in real life. It tends to bring up all sorts of painful, unpleasant things you didn't really think would be an issue beforehand.

threesomes always seem to be better in fantasy land as opposed to the real world. too messy, complicated, etc...

Don`t do it!!!!Your relationship will take a turn 4 the worse!!!lol

my answer? a plain, flat-out NO to the threesome idea. there's just too much at stake here. feelings, commitment, STIs... do you really want that? some things need to STAY a fantasy. i mean you're not like acting out some sexy role for your guy or whatever. you're bringing in another girl you guys don't know into your relationship and sharing something so intimate that's really only meant for you and him. and sometimes sharing just doesn't work. i'm one of those people who doesn't share. and think about it--what if he suddenly likes sex with that girl more than with you and then what? and how about if he likes threesomes so much he wants to do more of that when you get home? the questions can go on, really.