Dear Sugar--
During intercourse, when I get ready to orgasm, I feel like I have to urinate and I have to stop because I'm scared I'm gonna wet the bed. Is that a normal feeling???
--Unsatisified and Frustrated
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Dear Unsatisified and Frustrated--
We've all been there honey. The thing is, if your bladder is full, you'll feel like you have to pee. The pressure and the movement doesn't help any, so my number one suggestion is to make sure you take a visit to the ladies' room and relieve yourself before things get hot and heavy.
If you have tried peeing before sex, and you still feel like you need to wee, then you may be experiencing what many women crave - female ejaculation. If your G-spot is stimulated in just the right way, this can lead to an earth-shattering orgasm. For some women, G-spot stimulation can lead to an emission of a clear liquid believed to have come from the Skene's gland inside the uretha. It's NOT urine, but rather female ejaculate. The fluid may trickle or spurt out. It may be a few drops or a puddle. It can happen before, during, or after ejaculation.
So the next time you have sex, if you are sure your bladder is empty, and your partner is stimulating your G-spot, let the passion take you to the place so many women strive. Good luck!
Levi's
Serfontaine
Zucca
Dear is right on, if you pee before things start to be heavy, then know it's not pee but rather an orgasim! Don't fight it, just enjoy
1completely normal
just relax and let go
2I've defintely been there! Peeing before hand helps a lot. Once you learn to just let you you'll get over that feeling. Trust me.
3Yeah It's normal... the info about the G-spot is true despite what some skeptics say...
4I've heard this advice many times about just getting over it, but I've been with my boyfriend over 3 years and I've never had a real orgasm even though he is amazing! The reason is I always fake it and have to pull him off because I can't take the pee feeling. I don't know if I'm more sensitive then usual but I try to get over that hump (I must have tried close to 1000 times by now) and I've still never been able to....I'm starting to give up!
5This has happened to me when my clitoris has been over-stimulated (i.e. it's being touched on the tip rather than the base or it's being rubbed too hard). When it's touched more gently and away from the tip, the pee feeling goes away and the good feeling increases.
6It is normal... just let it go.. it is not pee (you will see the feeling is way better than that!).
7But I understand how some people may still not be comfortable with their own body enough to recognize it... it took me a while to figure that it was nothing wrong.
lucky thing
8Thanks, its something I always wonder about but would never have enough guts to ask about!
9Dear is a wise woman.
109 times out of 10 if you are nearing orgasm and that feeling of I GOTTA GO RIGHT NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOW is coming over you that is not urine it is in fact the sign that a major orgasm is on the horizon. My advice is to let it go and worse case scenario you wet your bed a lil LOL. Get some Tide and do laundry. But im positive you will be laundering sheets because u have achieved sexual nirvana...Either way gotta do laundry right ?
11In one of the many weird flukes of anatomy, desire to urinate and orgasms are connected. I always pee before sex to avoid feeling like I will pee all over my boyfriend. What's even weirder to me is that when I have to pee I can get aroused more easily or it will make aroused. I guess it's because pressure on the bladder leads to pressure on the G-spot. Bizarre.
12i love the feeling! been there, done that!
13Hello Dear Sugar
Unsatisfied and Frustrated, I totally agree with these dear sugars.Allow your self to exsperiance the next level of sex. But most of the time this does not happen every single time so it is wise to also pee first.Sometimes I pee before I have sex, and during 4 play I have to pee again so it's best to just pee when ever you need to so that you can enjoy sex.
Queston? Does this happen with all men or just this one guy.
If this does happen all the time maybe you have a weak bladder.If it's just with him than girl let it floooooooow!
14Oh yeah...just let it flow!!!!
15Go with it, don't be afraid! You'll learn how to differentiate between pee and female ejaculation. Start by trying to pee just before intercourse. If you still get an urge reaching orgasm, that's female ejaculation! Feel special!!! There is a lot of controversy and reading material about this topic, so go get yourself educated! Read, observe & learn.
Some high quality online sex shops, such as Babeland, even are beginning to sell special blankets to use during sex. They're specifically made to soak up female ejaculation.
16Trust me...let go and you'll have the best orgasm of your life... hehe...
its hard
to do, but once you're comfortable enough to do it... its a little messy but well worth it!
17I use to be afraid too....but then I let go...and Oh My God!
18Go with the Femaculate!
19i guess we learn something every day
20It is normal,just let go and enjoy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
21It's normal it's not really unusual to feel like peeing during sex. Enjoy everything to the fullest!
22If you're still too nervous to take the plunge, maybe you can try it in the shower? Heck, maybe even a nice linoleum floor!
23I've heard all of the above before...and it's true, HOWEVER...in believing that I wouldn't pee, I actually let go and enjoyed and you know what? I PEED ALL OVER MY HUSBAND! He definitely believed it was a lot of the good stuff, but let me tell you, there is no way THAT much good stuff could possibly come out. He still doesn't know. But someone else above said it right...no matter what, you still do laundry. And so if peeing on him made his ego flutter because he thought it was ejaculation...I'll let his ego flutter...as I continue to do my laundry.
24I feel like i have to pee afterwards... whats up with that?!!!
25designergirl, that's me too, i always feel like when i have to pee, i get aroused sooo much quicker. Very bizarre.
But, and i know this doesn't help you Unsatisfied and Frustrated...It's almost worth it for me to not pee beforehand, because then i know it's almost a guarantee for me to get off.
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28Did anyone catch Showtimes Californication last night? The girl having sex was a squirter! I know that earlier in the season, David Duchoveny referred to a woman being a squirter.
29This is a real thing.... I took things into my own hands (jacuzzi) and felt that pee feeling, but continued since I was alone. I squirted and was freaked enough that I had to ask people on chat lines if this was normal. They assured me that I had found my g-spot and that is the ultimate climax for a woman. Pee before sex and then if that feeling comes over you; go for it. Tell your sex partner about this and I'm positive that he will want to help you get there again. And if he is a good guy, he will understand if do you pee the bed. The two of you will have to jump up naked and strip the bed real fast. I bet you will be laughing about this before you two end up in the shower together. Peeing the bed isn't the worst thing that can happen! Check out Talk Sex with Sue Johanson on Sunday nights on the Oxygen channel. You may even find her website and get some answers there. BTW - she takes live phone calls on air.
OK SO IM HAPPY TO HEAR THAT THIS HAPPENS TO OTHERS BESIDES ME. I WILL TRY TO USE THE BATHROOM BEFORE HAND AND SEE IF THAT WORKS. THANKS
30I remember an episode of Sex and the City when Samantha is a lesbian and her partner "squirts" and Samantha asks if that is a good thing. Now, my question is: how the heck does Samantha not know if it is a good thing if she has had sooo much sex and supposedly good sex too....
31One thing you could try is sex in the shower. Its a good way to get over the fear of possibly peeing, and if you actually did pee he wouldnt notice and well, its much cleaner than anything happening in bed.
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