I think you should handle this similarly to how you handled your wedding, strange as it may sound. Teach her the major principles, history, and traditions of both and celebrate all of the holidays with her in the same way you do now. Then, when she gets older, it can actually be an informed choice, or she can continue practicing both. Either way, she will understand where both her parents came from, instead of knowing about only one parent's religion. How can she have an identity crisis that way? She gets both the full picture of her heritage instead of something one-sided AND eventually gets the freedom to decide what kind of person she wants to be. I think there is something very beautiful about that.

I agree. I have a ton of friends that have done the same thing and their kids are just fine and not only that but they are more aware of the differences in the world!

there is a sect of christians called jewish christians...basically they believe in jesus and do the christian stuff but also honor all the old jewish laws and traditions as well...shoot for something like that...you don't have to pick one or the other...i think honesty is the best way to go...

...why not let her choose ?

explain to her
why you feel the need
to have this or that faith
...and let her choose

or she may choose not to...

oooooooooooooh good suggestions-- i never thought of the "jewish christianity" thing... that sounds like a great choice! the best of both worlds!!

That is one reason I wont marry someone of different faith. I have respect for all religions but when it comes to marrying and raising a child with someone it has to be pure for me. I'm not very religious myself but still have values and morals that I carry with me that come from the book and want to raise my child same way my parents raised me. I need my child to know who he/she is. You can't be both at the same time and every religion will tell you that. Practicing two religions at the same time nulls both of them, so there's no point of getting your child to do that. It might seem like the right thing to do but it's isn't that simple. How is the child going to make a choice between religions, grown ups have a tough time with that one let alone a child.If I was in the same situation I would not initiate teachings from either religions but wait until the child grows up and is able to make the right decision for him/herself.

Adriana normally I would just drop the whole religion conversation with anyone but YOU ARE SO WRONG. You say you have respect for other religions but you do not sound all that open to any idea other than your own! Religion isn't the only thing that will define who a child will become. That is the parents key role not the church. I have many friends that are raising their children exactly like CortneyLynn and they are the most amazing, accepting children! By not celebrating differences within a family how do expect children to accept differences within our world?

Who's to say....I'm half Jewish and my husband is Italian....we both believe in the same God.................Let your daughter choose in time...*

I could not do it personally.

I have many friends who grew up in two religion households. They grew up learning/attending both and chose which one they wanted when they were old enough. Christmakah was popular!

I can't agree with adriana.
Be accepting.
Learn about differenr faiths.
Raise your children with a knowledge of both faiths - let them know their heritige.
Let them make decisions for themselves - that is the best way to make your child into a happy, free and loving person.
And are you saying if you met somebody and you two just clicked, and the more time you spent with them, the more you thought "This might be the one I want to marry, and maybe even have children with"....and then because he's Jewish and you're Christian, you walk away?
I could never do that.

You are so right MsRoyalTee.

My mom just told me the other day that even though I grew up not practicing my religion very closely (we celebrated holidays but I wasn't all that involved by choice), I "turned out great." Ha, I found that funny, but I know what she meant. My point here is that you can choose to be the person that you are no matter what, and as a parent, you make certain choices that guide your children and how they will "turn out." For me, my religion is about my heritage, traditions, and where I came from. Although I am dating someone outside of my religion who I hope to marry in a few years, the traditions and heritage is what I will pass on to my children. I want them to understand us both. I can't deny that it is more difficult for more religious people than it will be for me. But does it mean you shouldn't love your husband, who is a good person and who "turned out" well, no matter what his religion? And your child can't embrace more than one thing and choose what beliefs to subscribe to? I know religion is usually based on heritage, which is something that makes me feel close to mine, but isn't it essentially supposed to be a choice?

My friend who also happens to be Jewish has taught me a lot about Judism. Her mother converted when she married her father. Before or after, I'm not sure. Traditionally, in the Jewish faith, whatever the mother is, that's what the children are. I would say incorporate both faiths, but the only problem with that is the actual beliefs. Incorporate traditions from both religions, and decide what you're going to primarily teach the little one. Let her decide what she wants to believe in. Good luck!