Dear Sugar
For the upcoming celebration of my boyfriend's birthday, I asked him to tell me his sexual fantasy. I said that if it were in reason, I would happily oblige and do what he wanted for his big day. He told me that he would absolutely love it if I gave him a striptease. I definitely feel like that's a reasonable request, but I have no idea how to do it. Do you have any ideas how I can pull this off? Generous Girlfriend

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Dear Generous Girlfriend,
What fun for both of you. Just recently, I took a strip tease class at my friend's bachelorette party. The lovely Jagger, taught us exactly what to do to get your man hot and bothered. Here's my How To Striptease Guide:
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WHAT TO WEAR:
- Dress up in the color that he likes best on you. It's preferable to wear a flirty skirt or a dress over pants or jeans (these can be much harder to take off in a sexy way.)
- Do your hair and make up to the fullest. Remember that you are performing for him, so you must look the part. When dancing, always pull your hair to one side. This shows off your neck and looks seductive.
- High heels or low boots aren't going to cut it. You'll need a pair of stiletto's baby. This is a hard and fast rule.
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SET THE MOOD:
- Put on music that's got a slow tempo so you can take your time getting undressed and dancing. Make sure it's not too slow though, and also make sure that you have some type of continuous music prepared on a CD or ipod mix so the song doesn't end in the middle.
- Dim the lights to set a romantic mood. Light scented candles to add to the ambiance.
- Handcuff your man with his hands behind his back and make sure that he is completely nude. How appropriate that he'll be wearing his birthday suit for his birthday!
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SHOWTIME:
- Start by gently taking off any gloves that you are wearing. Stroke your hands one by one and move them into your hair, your chest and down your torso.
- Turn around and lift your skirt or dress. This is a very tantalizing angle. Smack your bottom and smile at him... he'll never see it coming. Next, take off your top in one fell swoop. Practice this move a few times so it's as smooth as possible. You should be wearing a sexy lace bra underneath.
- Lastly, remove your bottoms (also in one motion) but leave those stiletto's on! Throw your clothing around the room, but not at your lover's face. At this point you should just dance for him and let him lick or kiss you. Dance for another five minutes or so and then uncuff him.
These are of course just the basics of one very quick routine. Put your own spice into it and remember to smile at him, always keep eye contact, and have fun! If you want to get a work out in while you are picking up a few more pointers, try ordering Carmen Electra's Aerobic Striptease here. Get your sexy on!









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I've done this!!!!! Danced to Rag Doll by Aerosmith and he loooooved it! I do one every year for his bday and he still can't get enough!
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1Uhh...never thought I'd hear the sugars telling me to smack my bottom while my man is handcuffed nude to the bed. Branching into some new territory here!
2The Carmen DVDs are awesome. I highly recommend them.
3hehee, looks your man will have a happy birthday!
4why wait for his bday?
5Carmens dvds are great!!!!! And a good work out
6But I cannot help but giggle at seeing smack your bottom on Dear Sugar lol Great Advice I hope he has a very happy birthday!
Reading this, made me really want to do one for my boyfriend..
So i think i would look silly doing a strip dance

7sad thing is.. I HAVE NO RYTHYM AT ALL!
Any helpful hints for people who can't dance?? lol I want to try those carmen videos since you guys rave about them..
When I saw this headline I immediately thought of Carmen's video. We play it at Bachelorette parties for fun. I don't see how this can be sexy I'd feel ridiculous doing this though.
8LOL mels...I was thinking the exact same thing. I can picture myself getting ready for a night of passion and getting everything ready: "Top hat? Check. Fishnets? Check. Motion Lotion? Check. Glow-in-the-dark rubbers? Check. Fuzzy handcuffs? Check. Okaaaaay, now, the Sugars said I should undress slowly, being sure to sexually harass myself in the process. Throw the clothes around the room, not in his face, yeah. Aaaaand...slap my ass, I think I'll shove it in his face for good measure. Ohsh*t...where the hell did I put the KY lube...?"
9I've thought of doing this for my guy but can't help feeling totally ridiculous and not sexy at all.
Maybe a bottle of wine first would help? lol
10LMAO Tor...............you so just took that whole thing to another level............I will definately not be able to do this particular 'tease' without thinking about this thread....too funny* I've done this kind of thing many times for my man, but now I will giggle without saying why I'm laughing........
11Hell, Mo, I think it's great advice if you're into that sort of thing. Of course, all the underagers on the site are probably scrunching their faces at the computer and going, "eeeeeeee-e-e-e-eewwww!"
12I've never done a striptease but this gives me an idea and i think i'll be ordering those Carmen Electra tapes and surprise my boyfriend, his b-day is coming up in a few months too..
13Def choose a song that really makes you feel sexy. I really like "You Can Leave Your Hat On" by Joe Cocker. Another good thing to do is have a DRINK before (or 2!) to ease those jitters. I did it for my hubby before baby #2, and it made him a happy, happy man.
14(heheh) i'm with kimmi up there .just relax put on the sexiest music whatever gets you into the mood and go with the flow.i've done this before and it's one of the best things to keep the fire burning.ooh ! and don't forget to put on the sexiest alfit..oh and one tip ,if your gonna wear heels put on a pair that you can actually move into..don't wanna fall flat on your face and if you do just play it off somehow ,think of Jammie lee Curtis in that movie true lies lol you can practice in front of the mirror first with whatever your going to wear.muuah! happy stripping ;p
15I don't think I have a sexy alfit?
16it's always great going to your nearest costume shop ,you can strip and role play at the same time
oh just thought about Demi Moore in the movie strip tease ,on one of the scenes she had this sexy tuxedo .
17thanks for the suggestion "you can leave your hat on"... my bf wants a strip tease for his bday too ahaha.
18nice.
19My bfs never mentioned wanting one but i know he wouldnt mind one. Problem is id feel awkward doing it. i dont know i guess its becuase weve been together almost 5yrs.. im 20 yrs old and ive never done nething like that so to start now just would feel funny. But im not saying i wouldnt want to try it. just trying to imagine my bfs face since weve been together so long and ive never done stuff like that. ahhh what to do .
20i'd feel so weird doing this and i cant dance.
21but! i think the men would be so in the moment that they wouldnt notice any mistakes in our dance. so i say girls go girl!
Hey Gals,
I bought a course (yes I did) online on how to give a lapdance.
Some of it was a little cheasy...but it was packed with good videos teaching the basics up to advanced stuff...and it had a section on how to look good naked...and how to feel sexy...that quite honestly were really good tips.
Even if you don't like buying things online it has a free email newsletter that will give you some good advice.
YOu can find it here: www.lapdanceunleashed.com
Hope this helps.
22carmen is hot but so is this chick:
http://tinyurl.com/5rbd8h
she teaches how to striptease and how to do many other things!
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