he was my bestie but now he lives in another state, but he's still a close friend and of my friends, he is the one i'd consider my "gay best friend"...he rocks

i can talk to him about stuff you just can't talk to others about and say stuff you would only say to each other

I suppose so, but I don't think of him as my "gay friend." He's just a good friend of mine who happens to be gay.

I hate this. Yes, I have a gay best friend and I hate the comments on how hip that is and every girl needs one. I've known him for 12 years, long before he even knew he was gay (we were 11 at the time) and I love him as person, not because he gives me advice on men or shoes!

Yes, I do. I'm with Whiplash -- my dear friend happens to be gay.

Also, I would like to add that I known this friend for most of my life.

Not any more. I did for about 9 years then I started getting healthy and began to rethink our friendship. I realized that our friendship wasn't healthy or productive and that he was incredibly selfish, a liar and had no redeeming qualities so I ended our friendship as best I could. But of course he's bitter and vindictive so it will never truly be over.
His being gay had nothing to do with my reevaluating and ending our friendship.

my best friend is gay, but we were friends before i ever knew he was gay (we were friends since we were 14 & he didn't come out until we were 21)... but there's no way he'd ever give me advice on shoes or dating.

calling someone your "gay best friend" vs just your "best friend" is so reductive & kind of offensive, in my opinion.

yes but i don't think of him as my gay best friend, just my best friend period. we've known each other for like 10 years and considering we are both 20 thats half our life

I agree with a lot of the comments here, that calling him a "gay best friend" is offensive. I've known this guy since we were 13 and he didn't come out to me until 4-5 years later. I didn't become his friend because it was hip or edgy, or because he gave me fashion advice.

Not really. One of my best friends is camp, a lot of people think he's gay, but he's not
And I agree with Whiplash, the label is very offensive. It's making them sound like the latest accessory or something.

How wonderful for Thomas Rogers to be the newest 'must-have item'! ~shaking head~ I never really 'got' the 'You're gay?! We must, must, MUST be best friends, here and now!' attitude I see so many women wear. They're probably the same silly fashionistas who carry around dogs in huge bowling bags and teeter on no-heel heels!
I have friends who are black, white, Indian, etc, straight, gay, confused, etc. Who cares WHAT they are as long as they are a true friend? Good for Thomas Rogers for rolling his eyes at this one.

And another thing! Does that site really think straight women lust after their gay best friends? What's going on here?

i have a gbf!! the gbf relationship is really special because there are no competitive feelings you may have with girlfriends and no sexual tension you may have with other men. it really allows you to have an intimate friendship without other things getting in the way

I have a best friend who happens to be gay. He wears glasses, is a democrat, and works in a winery too. These are all simple facts that have nothing to do with what kind of person he is or how good a friend he is. Though, I will admit we just went through a lot of time where my husband had to travel and he stood in for some events, and we called him my "gay husband."

I do have one.. but he used to be simply my best friend until about a year ago.

actually, the majority of my friends are gay men and i'm straight.

Yes, and I also agree with Whiplash.

Well he's not my best friend, but he is a good friend of mine who happens to be gay.

I don't think that it's unusual for a straight woman and a gay man to become close friends (as I felt the article insinuated), it just seems like there are so many common things to discuss. I have a few gay friends (both male and female) that I care deeply about, but wouldn't ever refer to them as my gay best friend. They are definitely not a "must have accessory" LOL.

Like Whiplash, my BFF happens to be a gay male. He's not a commodity or accessory. He's just my bestie.

I am so sick of the whole...gay men have good fashion sense. That is not true. Everyone is different, not everyone who is gay knows about fashion. I've found that most of the ones I've encountered dont know much about fashion.

I once did, but the drama surrounding him was just too much. I liked him as a person, but I felt like I was too good to be drug into all the crap that he and his pals stirred up.

My best friend is a sexually confused male. He's 27 and still trying to figure it out. All he knows is he's not straight. I've known him almost my entire life and we've been friends forever and can can anything to each other. I don't think it has anything to do with his sexual preference though. We're just a couple of big mouthed people that happen to get along well.

I do. I love my friend, no matter the orientation. We do sometimes joke about this concept but we know that it is only skin deep. I couldn't imagine my life without him. Friends shouldn't be accessories.

not my best friend but i have a very good friend who is gay

i'm a lesbian and have gay male friends. i can't stand the thought of being reduced to one facet of my being (my homosexuality) and i can't stand it when it happens to gay men. you're either cool with people or not, their sexuality should be incendental not stereotyped and then coveted based on an asinine, isipid stereotype.

I don't have a gay best friend, nope. I also agree with the commenters who say that having a gay "bestie" seems like the new accessory nowadays. It's really dumb.