No kidding, how would he feel if you asked him to set up a beach day with his friends bc there was one friend in particular whose package you wanted to ogle in swim trunks? Your boyfriend is ridiculous and insensitive and its also obvious if hes willing to tell you he wants to drool over your friend, that hes definitely checking out other girls all the time (and I would wonder if he would be willing to take it farther then just drooling from afar)

This is the worst thing I have ever heard, I would dump him!

Wow...how long have you been dating your boyfriend? That seems like a really insensitive thing to say. :/

Guys say insensitive things all the time (they can be astonishingly dumb), but this clearly crosses the line. Any guy who'd say such a thing is either trying to find a way out of this relationship - or should be informed that the relationship isn't going to last, so he should move on, perhaps to the bikini-clad friend of yours (as much as that would hurt you).

What. A. Jerk.

I was surprised at how mean your boyfriend is! Say no to the beach, and no to continuing your relationship! Dear is right, you have enough to worry about without him making you insecure, too! You deserve so much better. I'm sure you're NOT doughy and uninteresting, don't ever, ever let a guy make you think that! Any guy that gives you the impression you're less than SMOKING hot to him is not worth your time!

xo

What an A$$HOLE! Seriously, I would drop him in a heartbeat.

That's not nice! Dump him.

What a horrible thing to hear come out of your boyfriend's mouth. He needs to go. Sorry.

This guy sounds like a creep.

Wow, that's so insensitive! Having said that, if your friend looks like the girl in the photo then wow! But still, even if I thought it I would NEVER say it, or be so blatant about trying to make it happen.

If he will say that and not care about hurting your feelings, or having the testicular fortitude to just not care, what else will he do if you let him get away with it? If you just can't dump him (which is more forgivable than most would be) then fight back! Let him know that he cannot treat you that way and keep you!

Tell him youll be going to the beach but sans him and sans him in everything from now on. kick that jerk to the curb and def let your friend know! She can help you get over him have some fun nights with her instead!

omg...if i heard my boyfriend say that, i would SMACK him SO hard, my handprint will be on his face for the next week. and then i'd dump his sorry ass. you do NOT deserve to have to put up with the insensitivity this guy is giving you.

DUMP HIM!!! I had a boyfriend just like yours and we didn't last 3 weeks. Guys like that you learn to stay away from I guess all this happens when you don't know you boyfriend as much as you should because that how I got into the same situation.

He should go... Not a keeper at all.

Well i say he needs to hear how you feel and see if that helps!!

What an a$$hat! Lose him immediately! I wouldn't even waste my time talking to him about it because it's obviously not going to change a thing. What's next??? Is he going to ask you for permission to sleep with her too? Some people are just way beyond stupid and he's one of them.

this guys a creeper. and a horrible boyfriend!

Jerk. I mean, I know that my boyfriend looks at attractive girls if they cross his path, but they are nameless and one time only. I look at man candy on the street. But your bf had a specific girl in mind. your friend. That's beyond disrespectful. Consider chucking him.

Maybe you should hit the gym and try and get in better shape if you feel so insecure?

Excuse ME?! What a jerk! What, your going to set a day at the beach so he can flirt and check out your friend? um no......please do yourself a favor and get rid of him. He obviously has other things on his mind!

The good news is, your boyfriend is the honest type. The bad news is that what he confessed to is beyond ridiculous.

I have no doubt that most/all men will scope out other girls in the same way I scope out other guys, which is to say that I can admire a nice one. However, your BF has taken this a few steps too far.

I would feel HORRIBLE if my BF said something like that to me. And he would no longer be my BF.

thats totally outta the line. how would he feel if u do the same thing to him? i would dump him cos i cant live with the insecurities..

I think it's insensitive to ask that way. However, my husband and I are very open about which friends of each other's we find attractive. The idea itself wouldn't bother me (nor would it bother him if the roles were reversed) but being asked to set up a meeting specifically for that purpose is rude and insensitive.

I do like that you boyfriend is honest, but there are something’s you should not be open about! Your boyfriend made the big boo boo thinking he was talking to one of his guy friends about his little fantasy instead of his GIRLFRIEND!

I know my guy sometimes looks at other women with a thinner body, bigger boobs and a tight butt than me. I look at guys too. I am more than comfortable with our relationship to toss him the Victoria Secret catalog. Of course this makes me hit the gym harder but still at the end of the day I would hope my guy wants to see ME in a bathing suit! But I know he won't tell me point plank that he wants to see MY friends in a bathing suit!

What your guy did was wrong and you need to tell him. He wants YOU to set a day where he can see YOUR friend running around half naked? NO thank you! You need to have a serious talk with this guy or worse find a guy that wants to see you and ONLY you in a bathing suit. No beach day and maybe start getting fatter friends. (I am kidding on the last part!)

I hope you can work this out sweetie. Good Luck.

i agree with all of dear sugar, what a pric, i do think that if he makes u feel insecure about urself, u can find somone so much better. u dont want to spend ur life feeling like sh*t coz hes a perv and over ur friend of all people. i think u should just do what makes u truly happy and if that means dumping him so be it. its fine to like how somone looks but if hes trying to set up somthing like that its a bit weird and a step too far.

Wow, this is so outrageous. I am so glad I don't have to deal with some *sshole like this. What a f*ckin' prick!

1. Find a picture of David Beckham in his itty-bitty speedo online.
2. Copy.
3. Bring image of Becks to local Kinkos.
4. Have said image blown up to poster (possible larger-than-life-proportions)
5. Pin somewhere conspiculous where boyfriend will be sure to see, above the bed, shower or on the back of a door.
Unless he is extraordinarily dense (no offense, he sounds phenomenally immature) He should get the idea!

6. Then, DTMFA! Find a better-looking guy who can make Becks look doughy by comparison and live your new, dumb MF boyfiend life!

Okay, if he saw her in a bikini and made a comment about her having a nice body, that would be nothing to get upset about (though would still spark some insecurity). The fact that he's trying to get you to set up a time for him to see her in a bikini is absolutely ridiculous!!! Get rid of that guy. He's definitely the kind of creep that is only going to break your heart. Sounds like he has a lot of wild oats to sow and a lot of growing up to do!

Sorry Girl but your he's an a**. NEVER let anyone make you feel bad or insecure about yourself!

EWW what a CREEP! What was going through his mind when he asked you that! That's really insulting and nasty..not only to you but your friend. I really do hope he was joking because if not, I dunno how you can stand to be around him knowing he's sharing THOSE thoughts with you and whoever else! That was HORRIBLE of him to make you feel that way!! (even if he doesn't know it does, it was still rude to point out that he wants to see your friend at the beach)

If my boyfriend ever said that to me, there woulda been a HUGE argument!!!

If you're not the type of girl to argue about it, you could always slyly get your point across by saying something to the extent of: "only if you invite your hott friend __namehere___. I really like his toned arms ...I'd like to see his abs!"

...if your bf doesn't have that model body of course...

This post makes me laugh. Sorry but it really does. Your boyfriend is acting like a school kid. I have no idea how old he is but sorry it's something you just don't tell your girlfriend. It's insensitive and it's stupid. If I were you I would start looking for a new boyfriend.

What a jackass!

I really hope your boyfriend is under 15. In any event, the fact that he's nagging you to get him around your friend in a bikini is just creepy. You can do better!

Dump him NOW! He's not worth your time.

he made a HUGE ASS of Himself... lose him if he isnt worth the time... you can talk about it and see where it goes..

I can't believe he even admitted to you why he wanted to set up a gathering at the beach. You are better off without him!

Jerk. I think you're under-reacting to this. You don't deserve his crap.

Break up with the *sshole.

wow that is sooo dump-worthy & i can't believe this guy has you thinking it could be YOU who's wrong in the matter!!

seriously if i were you i'd dump him a.s.a.p.but before i'd dump him i'd do some reverse psychology,like i would seem interested in one of HIS friends and see the reaction.

DUMP HIS LOSER A*S

Please listen to us all... You're worth more than that.... Don't settle for his bullsh*t.. There is someone who will crave to see YOU in a bikini~ This guy has no concern for your feeling and that's just not right.