Fighting is just a part of life -- so knowing how to fight fair is crucial. To learn some vital tips, read more
- When you fight, keep your argument relevant. Don't bring up past arguments or gripes that have nothing to do with your current discussion
- Try to keep your voice down. You're much more efficient when you talk versus when you yell
- Be sure to have your argument in private, away from family members, children, friends, or co-workers
- Be direct and honest. Get whatever it is off your chest and deal with the issues at hand dead on. The person you are arguing with isn't a mind reader so don't let anything go left unsaid
- Listen to what your partner has to say just like you want him or her to listen to you
- Don't hit below the belt -- low blows could inevitably cause more damage than what was already done
- Be sure to own your feelings -- use "I" instead of placing blame on your partner
- Know when to offer up an olive branch. Fights shouldn't last forever. You're most likely fighting with someone you love and care about, so try to keep everything relative
As a personal rule of thumb, I never go to bed mad -- but do you all have any other tips you want to share?
Austin Reed
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L'Wren Scott
Sometimes when my husband and I are fighting, it's over something so stupid that if we go to bed mad we wake up having forgotten about it!
Or we wake up and realize we've been stupid and apologize right away.
1My boyfriend and i dont' fight. Weh ave been dating for over 5 years and haven't ever realy fought. I mean, we have gotten on each other's nerves, but we normally talk about it befoer anything escalates to the fighting level. i kind of miss fighting. haha. i fought plenty with my ex haha.
2Don't call each other mean names! They hurt.
3consider what the other person is saying about you before you deny it being true. I know i am flawed and not perfect but my bf rarely seems to consider his part in things. It's frustrating.
4yeah my boyfriend and i don't fight much either. most of the time when one of us has done something the other isn't too happy about ("you said you'd come home early.." /"no- for the thousandth time you don't look fat, stop complaining.") we usually talk it through and apologize. i also cry a lot which kind of stops any possibility to fight: i can't be angry if i'm crying and he can't either. it kind of works itself out.
5We have a rule when we fight - no sarcasm.
6I am totally non-confrontational, but I feel like sometimes my boyfriend WANTS to fight! Then I always give in first just to put an end to it. I feel like I should stand my ground more.
7My bf and I yelled and I don't think really heard each other for our earlier fights, we have slowly gotten so much better though and we both listen and just talk now. My tip would just be to make sure you get EVERYTHING that you want to say out there to talk about, because I would be upset and forget something or just decide I didn't want to talk about it because it might cause another fight. Then when we made up that one thing would still be on my mind and would really bother me a lot but I wouldn't want to bring it up and start another fight right after we just made up from the last one, so it would end up just being another fight farther down the road. So its better to just get it all out right away and get it over with.
8My BF and I still love and respect each other when we fight. There is never any name calling or swearing or anything. This is different than my past relationships and it's a refreshing change.
9always think before you speak, because once it's out there, it can't be taken back, and we all know we sometimes say thing we don't really mean .....
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