youre obviously not as ready as you claim to be if youre still questioning it, and youre only 17, and it's only been 6 weeks, give it time, younger people now a days are in such a rush to be grown ups, it's kinda sad.

NO! this guy is not right. if you have any doubts whatsoever, do not do it. you will regret it for sure.

if you have any sort of second thoughts about sleeping with this guy, then you shouldn't do it. i don't think it matters what age you lose your virginity at, but you should be sure that it's 160% something that you're certain that you want to do! make sure that you feel comfortable with the guy and that it's not something you're going to regret later on. best of luck honey!

God, society makes you feel like a damn prude if you feel perhaps being unsure at 17 is a good thing and avoid sex w/ this guy. Sex is not the problem; the relationship is.

I feel like teens have been downright radicalized by the pornification of society, in which sex is legitimate if only abusive or degrading for women. Hence, all the ridicule about any emotional factors and the high-fiving b/w boys in locker rooms about exploiting girls--or worse. If any girl is having such doubt, there's got to be a good reason why her body is sending her signals that this is a bad idea.

trust me on this one... don't give it away so easily. it's only been six weeks. also, when in doubt, your best bet is to not go through with it. get to know him more and when i mean more, give it a couple of months even half a year if necessary.

don't do it unless you are 100% sure and have no doubts

If you need to ask you are not ready. Trust me and wait more than 6 weeks to lose your virginity with someone.....

I agree with everyones comments. If you need to ask then your not ready. There is no rush. You will know when your ready,

As a 21 year old virgin who never had a relationship let me tell you the pressure is great on you. Most of my friends have lost their virginity and at times I do feel awkward about being the only virgin. Don't rush in. As much as I feel like a freak sometimes by society's standards I still deep down inside hope to give my gift to my husband or the man I trust and love deeply. Listen to your insticts because there's too many young baby mommas running around along with the risks of STDS.

please dont do it when you are only 17!! whats the rush?? everything may not work out in the end is it worth??

Don't do it! I didn't hear you say anything about why you SHOULD have sex with him other than he's an okay guy and you think you might be ready. But I DID hear you tell us a lot of reasons why NOT: you're unsure, he can act weird sometimes, you don't want to waste it, etc.

If you don't want to waste it, don't! I did it "just 'cause" and it wasn't a huge, life shattering mistake but I do know that my current guy insisted we wait until we really knew each other (ended up being about 3 months) and it meant SO much more and the sex was better than it had been with ANYONE else.

By the way-- the first time is always awkward and horrible, so don't expect the world when it does happen-- your best sex will be down the road regardless.

xoxo

It's very simple. If you need to ask anyone else, then don't.

6 weeks is NOT a long time to be with someone, and not long enough to be with someone you're going to lose your virginity to. Wait until it feels right. You'll know.

Don't worry about being a virgin. I'm 22, my bf and I have been together for five YEARS and we haven't had sex yet. We are intimate in many other ways (for example, we sleep in the same bed most weekends, and it isn't like he doesn't give me beaucoup orgasms), but there are other ways to show affection, be intimate, and be sexual without putting yourself at risk for STDs or pregnancy. Plus, it is meaningful to me to know that my husband will be the first person I have sex with. This definitely isn't the right choice for everyone, but it worked for me. Six weeks into a relationship with a sketchy guy could be a recipe for regret, so just don't rush yourself... I certainly didn't!

You haven't been with this guy long enough, and you aren't sure about it, which means he's not the one to do it with.

Listen to kkhh. I had sex before I got married and I have ALWAYS regretted it.

I gues by now u have already got ur answer!! i just felt that i should add my voice to this since abt 2 weeksago,i was in the same doubts only that i am much older (26) and beenwith bf for nearly 2 yrs!! However sometimes we feel we need to ask when deep down we know the right thing to do just for re assurance. I know deep downin ur hear u know u shdn't be doing this,, but knowing the right thing is different fromdoing the right thing. First f all its good that you areasking, having people give u their ideas can hep (the best way to learn is to raise ur hand and ask)!! Therefore i would wish/advise that you chose the right thing and wait, maybe for u it may not be marriage but atleast wait till youare older and haveknown the person for longer and aresure you have mutual love for eachother. Its very hard to get over someone u have lost ur virginity with and trust me having sex with someone u have known for 6 weeks is really not promising.
Take it like ur virginity is ur security against a serious long termheart break and even if u break up with someone uhavent slept with,,,it wont hurt as much.
All the best!!

6 weeks seems pretty quick. You're doubts are your body's way of telling you to wait. You'll know when the time is right.

I'm with everyone else. If you have doubts, you shouldn't do it.

how do you know it's right? well, for starters, it doesn't feel even slightly wrong. In this case, it does. It may be cheesy, but your first time is worth waiting for. It doesn't have to be all rose petals and candles... but make sure it's something you know you won't regret.

any doubt= you're not truly ready... don't do it... you'll end up regretting it... He sounds shady anyways...

if you have to ask then yeah uummmmmmmm no dont make the mistake! wait a lil longer until you know for sure.

i was the same age when i lost my vrgnity.. the same situation.. just do it already, i thought.. then when i met my husband, right after i dumped my first lay, i was sad that i couldn't share that great thing w/ him.. just make sure this guy is worth it.. i was still able to enjoy new sexual experiences w/ my husband, like being on top, orgasm.. etc. but it would have been nice to just have him as my first as well. i met him at age 18. just right after i had slept w/ that other douche for the first time.. think aobut it.

DOn't, it's only been 6 weeks, wait until it's a full commitments from the both of you.

if you have to ask the question. Then you are not ready. It really is that simple.

Like everyone else said, wait until you are truly ready. You will know when you are really ready.

And don't pay attention to the pressure you may feel from friends or peers. Losing your virginity is not a competition and there is no one right time. It's a personal thing and different for everyone. The people that may call you a prude are not worth your time and energy caring about them.

I made a guy wait two years before I lost my virginity to him. And it was still a huge mistake and he turned out to be someone I didn't know he was. I would wait if I were you. Things will get pretty crazy in college, but you don't have to have sex even then. Better to wait for someone you trust.

have any of the above posters said it was a good idea??? that would be a resounding NO!

we all speak from experience (or non-experience) and i think we can all agree that if you are not comfortable doing something, then DON'T DO IT!

i know it's easier said then done, so try not to put yourself in situations where you'll be tempted to do it. that means, try going out on group dates, going to the movies and hanging out at home when your parents are there. there will be a lot less temptation if you're in public or around your parents!

Are you kidding me?????
You're 17 and you only know this kid for 6 weeks... You shouldn't even be asking this type of question when you know the answer to it! and if you do need for people to tell you the answer is NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.
That's going to be a waste of your time when you could find a guy who's going to love you and respect you b/c he's only looking to get lade and that's it! Don't you get it!
What 17 year old kid is going to fall in love with you in 6 weeks... Grow up!

shayna,

i agree with everyone else up there, but it might help if you hear it from someone (almost) your own age; i'm 18, AND a virgin, and will stay that way until i'm at least engaged. I'm in a very serious relationship. I told my boyfriend from the beginning that i wanted to wait to have sex.

i didn't give him a specific time but as the relationship went on we both decided it would be best to wait until we have committed ourselves to each other for life. i haven't had sex, and i've only dated 3 other people, but i did fool around with them and i wish i hadn't even done that because i wish that only the person i loved had seen those parts of me (and vice-versa!) and believe me, there are a few things you can do to hold yourselves over until you are ready.

i'm a firm believer in waiting until engagement/marriage to have sex, but if you can't hold off until then, at least wait until you are a legal adult (not just the age of consent) because you are still under your parents' rules and i seriously doubt they would encourage you to have sex.

and, a tip for keeping yourself from having sex (if you are mature enough to control yourself, if you're not, then BE SAFE!) is just don't buy condoms! the way we see it, if there are no condoms around, we can't have sex. but when the time is right, PLEASE make sure you have one on hand.

Good luck making the decision that's right for you.

Well, if ur questioning it and doubting it then your obiusly not ready.... trust me don't do it, ul regret it later, and I don't want u to do it then afterwards feel like "crap I shudnt have done it" trust me itl be worth the wait, u shud wait until ur with someone who truly loves u, and feels the same 4 u as u to them, there shudnt be any rush to have sex. Why the rush? Wehn you have like 90+ years to have sex... ur only 17........ but do what ur heart and gut tell u, if u doubt it or are questioning it, then DON'T DO IT, u will regret it later on

No one has ever said they were sorry they waited. I, on the other hand, and I'm sure many others would agree, am sorry that I did not wait longer.

Then don't and wait a bit longer...

I agree with everyone here that said it is a good idea to wait. Six weeks may feel like a long time but that is barely anytime at all. I am 24 years old and am still a virgin. I have been in several relationships, many of them lasting over a year and still didn't feel it was time.
I think you should wait and be in the relationship longer before going for it. I have never heard any of my friends regret not having sex with some one but they usually end up regretting having sex with people there were not so sure about.

I Agree with everyone... It's obvious you are having doubts so wait and see if you get to a point where you have no doubts about him and you won't regret it. I'm with a guy who from the beginning has hinted on having sex and I'm 18 and altho I am fully capable of having sex with him I figure I've waited this long so I might as well wait until I am 100% sure he is the man I want to give my virginity to. Remember your Virginity is a one shot thing... so don't cheapen it by just giving it away to a guy cuz you are infatuated with him.

Noooooooo!!
You said he's shady
You said it yourself
Plus it's only been SIX weeks
Not SIX YEARS!!!
I've been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years and we are still virgins
I'm proud of that really

i think 6 weeks is nothing, u barely know him. ID i just think u should wait.!!

I lost mine when I was 17 and I knew somehow that it was just because I was curious and wanted it out of the way. These are the worst kinds of reasons for you to loose your virginity. I deluded myself that it was because I love the guy. But in hindsight I didn't. Although he was my boyfriend for a year I realize now that it was not a relationship that was healthy and I just stayed because I lost my virginity to him. So don't make that same mistake. They are two you would have to live with.

You will always remember the first and whether you like it or not it will be your yardstick. So best make it with someone you want to remember for the rest of your life.

I was 15 (he was a few months older), it was over 15 years ago and it was right for me and I never saw it as a big deal, I was happy.. BUT we are all so different and you must do what feels right for you, if you are questioning it then I think that speaks for itself. Good luck and take care. x