Pssssssssssssssst: i think you're right! and i think the rest of the men out there have done it at times too.

My friend's ex stated time and time again that she wasn't into porn (the whole I don't like it, I don't watch it, it does nothing for me). My friend had gone away on a business trip and I ended up at their place one night to hang out. She told me to find something to watch on tv while she went to do something. When I tried to flip back a channel the whole history was full of the porn stations.

I've become somewhat of an expert of finding these things out about friend's ex's as I know all the right places to look for information (especially computer wise), but what I've learned is porn is something that a lot of people have learned to be embarassed about. You two are in a serious relationship and shouldn't have secrets like this. Sit down and have a talk with him.

when i read the title of this post i thought: oh god, not ANOTHER "omg my guy is looking at porn!" rant..
but i think this is more of a trust issue here. i mean, like dearsugar said, you have a right to be annoyed if he's hiding things from you but maybe, if you show him that he has nothing to worry about as to your reaction, he'd come out with it and tell you himself without needing a confrontation.
you could offer to watch porn together or just start a conversation along the lines of how normal it is for men to look at porn.
the reason he's hiding it, if that is indeed what he's hiding, is that he's worried you'll turn into one of those weepy drama-queen types who will throw a jealous fit or treat him like a pervert. unless that is what you intend to do in which case i think you should rethink your attitude towards porn and men in general. just my two cents.

It could be a gift or something completely different but for the sake of argument it could be that he is hiding it from you because of your attitute about it, which can be read between the lines of your post. There is nothing wrong with men looking at porn and it does not make them perverts or less into you and watching porn is not cheating. he should be open about it but you got to be welcoming. BTw, most of them do like it or don't mind it -- most would be lying when they say it disgusts them unelss it is some religious issue (and I don't believe those -- LOL).

On another point, either way, the deleting his browser part sounds sketchy (which may mean more) but being that it is his PSP and you are looking at his history I think the problem is yours and he may be entitled to some privacy. I wonder why you have this trust issue and what makes you think is porn and nothing something innocent -- especially if he has given you no reason to doubt him? I recommend you figure this out before you go through with the wedding. Little trust issues only get bigger if they are not discussed and dealt with.

Guys and porn. Unfortunately the two go together. They're hardwired that way. The best thing to do is to not take it too seriously yourself and chances are he won't feel like he'll have to be so secretive about it. Secrecy though, in any relationship that is serious (like yours - you're engaged so I assume you've known eachother for more than two weeks) is never a good sign and can cause a lot of anguish. When confronting him about it, try your very hardest not to freak out and get really upset. As soon as you sees you freaking he'll shut down and not want to talk about it.

yes guys and porn go together like peanut butter and jelly!! haha... but hey could be be actaully planning something nice for you. You wont know until ...... talk to him about it

Didn't we do this one about a month ago? Anyway, once secrets come into play, there's a problem. Some people like porn and that's their choice. It's that he's hiding it that causes issues - if that's actually what's going on. Trust is key in a relationship. End of story. If either party stops trusting and starts questioning, there's bound to be trouble.

His secrecy might not be about porn though ...

Anyways,

I am not okay with my guy watching porn, and I don't feel like a hysterical diva b*tch for feeling that way. Which is why I despise the suggestion "why not watch porn WITH him?"

I think, is this another way that women are making themselves be okay with something, because they dare not be labeled drama queens by the men who want a free pass to this sort of thing?

Any time women raise their voices against something, it's called PMS, and it's dismissed.

If you are NOT okay with something, then there is NO reason why you should put up with it. A guy who who cannot understand why you consider this act disrespectful towards you, is not worth your time.

If some couples are okay with watching porn, then that's their choice and good for them, but never settle with something that does not make YOU happy.

So... you don't like him looking at porn?

My bf does it too and I can't help

Wish I could help besides suggesting you have an honest discussion with him. He is your fiancé after all. If you can't talk to him, there are serious problems down the road.
I used to have a problem with my guy watching porn, but then I realized it was pretty hypocritical, because I watch an occasional clip...

I find it so ridiculous that most women are permissive of their partner watching porn because they are told that it is a behavior hardwired into the male psyche. Society tells us that pornography is acceptable and we buy into that opinion too easily in order to avoid the social stigma of being "anti-porn".

If you are uncomfortable with him using porn, do not grin and bear it. Explain to him why you dislike it. If he is not willing to give up this behavior, you need to ask yourself just how important this issue is to you and whether or not you're willing to tolerate his lack of consideration for your feelings.

If it's just the secretive nature of his behavior that bothers you and not the porn itself, you should casually tell him that he doesn't need to hide these things from you after he returns from one of those 30 minute bathroom breaks.

Trust is a very important component to a healthy relationship.

Why do you assume it is porn he's looking at? I would be more worried that he's talking to someone online or something of that sort. But then again, porn doesn't bother me so maybe that is why it wouldn't cross my mind.

Either way, you need to ask him about it.

Just because he deleted the browser history doesn't mean its not there anymore. You can still find what websites someone looked at by going through temporary deleted files.

However, make sure you really want to find out the truth before you start looking. If he's planning some kind of surprise or gift for you it will really damage things in your relationship.

he's doing a terrible job of concealing whatever he's trying to hide.

I wouldn't be too worry about what he is doing. Most guys look at porn on any size screen. LOL. It is sad but true.

If there are no other problems in the relationship besides the hiding of the PSP and the long bathroom sessions, I wouldn't worry about it.

He could be planning something or he could be trying to get some alone time and the bathroom is the only place he can get it. After all, don't we (girls) spend up to 45 minutes in the bathroom just doing our hair and makeup? Guys need their time too where they know they won't be bothered.

Eh..porn....no biggie (unless he's like...uber obessed and it's affecting your sex lives for the worser!)

It's better than him going out on the town to watch some shows in a strip club or something!
Would you rather have him watch some unattainable girls he'll never get to meet in a porn tape in your bedroom, or him going to go to a strip club and do whatever with those girls anyday! See my point?

My advice~ you may be disgusted by it, and that's probably scaring your fiance into not telling you about it. If you're open and understanding (and as long as it's not an unhealthy obession of his), then just let him know you're okay with him viewing it it, you just don't want to see it with him. He hasta do it on his own time or something. That way he doesn't have to be all secretive and drive you nuts by it.

I'm not *too* into porn, and my bf isn't the kind that'll just sit there all day and watch it...he doesn't care either way, but sometimes we'll watch one together and laugh and make comments about funny stuff in it...and a lot of the time it'll lead us to have some fun ourselves...

yup...that's my opinion!

candy apple, i agree, my first reaction was the same.

If you guys are getting married soon...it could be something else...I personally have no problem with porn...humas are very sexual animals and he might just be hiding it from you because is a big problem from you....but just remember it might not be porn at all.

Lots of guys look at porn. So do women! Get over it or move on.