
"It is possible to have sex and not be making love. The one-night hook-up after four mojitos comes to mind. It is also possible to make love and be having sex. Sometimes having the raunchiest, nastiest sex is a supreme act of love because when you love someone so much you can share that fantasy about your fourth grade teacher Miss Canfield, the class trip to the zoo, and the zebra incident, you’re displaying a lot of trust. And it is possible to be making love and not having sex, technically speaking, just by sharing a look, a smile, a touch."
— Brian Alexander, author of American Unzipped: In Search of Sex and Satisfaction









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I have never said "making love." I don't think of sex that way.
1TOTALLY agree
2Personally, I think 'making love' sounds so incredibly corny. I've never used it.
3I definitely agree with the quote. And I don't think the phrase 'making love' is cheesy - it doesn't describe all kinds of sex but for my boyfriend and I, it does describe some of it! It's a different kind of thing emotionally then a quickie before work!
4Love the quote!
I won't use "making love" either - it sounds like a 50s euphemism. I try to use the modern term of "freek-a-leek"ing.
5There is totally a difference between sex and making love. Sometimes the bf and I just have sex to get off or when we're drunk and horny. Other times we make delicious love and it's so much better than just having sex. I don't know a better term for it than making love, but I admit it sounds very cheesy.
6I'll say making love sometimes but I won't ever say Horny. ack I hate it it grosses me out. Anyway, I agree with the quote. Sometimes it's about feeling good and others its about showing each other how much you love one another.
7IMO, you don't/can't MAKE love. You give it, you receive it. That's done in a lot of different ways - sex can be one of them.
8I definitely agree with this quote. "making love" does sound cheesy, but it describes the act perfectly. BF and I divide up our sex into 3 different categories: f*cking, for the hardcore stuff. Sex, for the "on the fence" stuff, and making love for the really loving, romantic kind. Good to know I'm not weird.
9I've been with my husband for 7 years and I still don't think of it as making love. Yuck. It's like a bad movie phrase.
10I hate the term making love. It sounds horribly antiquated, like the term lover.
But during the moments when I am a ridiculous, hopeless romantic, it does the trick. I'm just happy that i've gotten less cynical as I've gotten older and not more.
11I agree with the quote and with xxstardust, Hiding55, and Chrstne. Even if you don't like the term "making love" (I agree it sounds a little weird), you can't really deny that there are different types of sex. Sometimes my bf and I have fast/hard sex with ass spanking and hair pulling. Sometimes we have the quickie sex. Then there are the times where we have the more gentle and passionate sex (aka making love). The last one is definitely my favorite because it's more emotional for me than physical.
12this quote makes a lot of sense. I like that he says that making love can be something like a touch, a smile, or a look. I found it somewhat beautiful.
13Freek-a-leeking is basically being a jump-off, spacekat. Enjoy the euphemism. I wouldn't.
14I never hear anyone use the phrase making love, I am 22. For the romantic or "making love", we call it having sex, and then there is f*cking, which is what the quote called "having sex" or what most people would call more hard core lol! I just think that making love is antiquated and calling it sex or saying "having sex" is no longer taboo in our culture.
15I ALWAYS use the term making love. I happen to enjoy the corniness of it. I also love the term "quickie". But "freek-a-leeking"? Uh, no thanks. Sounds like someone is taking a bowel movement when I hear that word.
16"Making love" has always weirded me out. It makes me think of my parents giving me the birds-and-bees talk. Or of a ponytailed new-age hippie guy singing a John Mayer song — like Tim Robbins' character in High Fidelity.
17Bellasugar that is hilarious. I agree. Action. ACTION with a loud hand clap is much better. My husband knows I love him. DO NOT tell me that in the bedroom. All guys say that crap and its just the heat of the moment. It means nothing unless they can say it somewhere else.
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