i guess it all depends on the situation and the individual. i've remained on friendly terms with an ex-boyfriend's parents and i think it's pretty normal. i had lunch with his dad a month ago. sometimes you develop friendships and it seems ok to continue to let them be after a romantic relationship has ended.

this is definitely one of those "depends on the situation" questions because all relationships are different and some die crazy deaths after 2 months and others die a natural one after 4 years. it just depends on how the break-up went and if there are still any hard feelings involved.

It depends...I tried to stay friend with my high school boyfriend's mom but he hated it and eventually we had to part ways, too. But I think if someone is married for a long time, and especially if you have children, then the families really do blend I think there should at least be an effort to remain friends and/or civil, especially if there are children involved.

yah, my high school boyfriend hated it too but that's not my problem. time for him to put on his big boy pants and realize that he cannot dictate who his parents are allowed to be friends with.

I think it depends on the breakup, but I don't think it is a good idea.

people that stick around after they get dumped by their ex's are called psycho-stalkers. being one of these is not a good idea for anyone. grow up and move on - there's more to life than being stuck in the past.

I suppose it depends on the situation, but I would have to go with "bad idea" on this one.

I don't think it's a great idea because to the son or daughter of the parents the ex is staying friends with, to me it would seem very invasive in their lives. Like...if my ex was still hanging with my parents and coming around to visit, I would feel like they're somewhat being nosey and spying on my life~ seeing who I was hanging out with or dating...and if he was ever "visiting" when I brough a bf home, how awkard would that situation be?!??! I just say it's a big no-no! Too troublesome and awkward.

Bad idea. A good friend of mine got a divorce and she still hung out and called her ex's mom. That caused major issues with him and his new wife so they cut ties with each other.

It's a bad idea. I dated a guy for 8 years, and became really close to his whole family, but specially his sister who, by the time I met her, was just 13 years. We broke up almost two years ago, and he got married to another girl and left to live abroad. This summer his sister is getting married and she asked me to go to her wedding. Obviously I politely refused to go, because its a family moment, and I wont feel O.K. at the ceremony with my ex and his wife. I have been in touch with the family by phone, and I 'm still e - mailing with his sister, but haven't been that close. At the beginning it just hurt my feelings to speak to someone who is naturally attached to some one that used to be very important to me, and now that I have a new relationship with a great guy it's time for me to make closures and build a new life also with my family's boyfriend. I will always care for my ex boyfriend family but it would never feel the same.

Think about How Angelina probably feels about Jennifer Anniston hanging out with the pitts lol. If the guy finds a new girlfriend its hard for the family to accept her because they are so used to you

Like many others, I think it depends on how long you were together and how bad the break up was.

And no, not everyone who remains friends with their ex's family is a psycho stalker. People who are adults in long term relationships often get close with other family members.

To me, it's a sign of graciousness and maturity that Jen Aniston and Brad's mom still get together. They clearly formed a bond and it's wonderful that they still cherish it.

sigh...sometimes i think i miss my ex's family more than i miss him

it depends... peoples feelings must be taken into consideration

In my situation it was better to just cut all ties...if we pass on the street we have a nice conversation, but we don't make plans to go out for lunch or whatever, we've all moved on

Depends... but in general, bad because it's probably not going to work.

I guess it depends on the relationship. I've stayed friends with some of my exes & their families and it's worked out just fine.

Sadly, there was always a communication gap between my exes parents and I ... so we never really did communicate much past, "Hi. How are you?" But then again, my exes really weren't worth the trouble of getting to know their families. haha

i think it's fine to stay friendly with them, but when you go out of your way to hang out with them is just a big no no.

such a bad idea.

my hs bf and i were together 4 years, and i kept moderately in touch with him mom -- after he followed me out to the east coast from the midwest. she got really really sick, and he never went back to visit, really. so i'd visit when i'd see my family over the holidays, but in the end, it was too much to deal with and i didn't feel like putting myself in the middle.

i did feel a bit guilty for a while, but that passed. it wasn't my problem. and, it's been so long now that if i were to drop by or whatever, it would be entirely too awkward.

so.not.worth.it.

It's both IMO. It is too close for comfort but the ex really should have anything to do if you remain friends with his family. Sometimes you develop close relationships that shouldn't end just because your relationship did. The only thing is not everyone is cool with that, so remember that when the next one comes around.

i think it depends but also its bad idea even stupid

"people that stick around after they get dumped by their ex's are called psycho-stalkers. being one of these is not a good idea for anyone. grow up and move on - there's more to life than being stuck in the past." WOW I couldn't have said it better myself! Dealing with one now... not fun! Just had to make sure I wasn't crazy and being a total b*tch. I'm glad I'm not the only one that feels this way...

I am also dealing with the same thing right now! My ex hangs out with my sisters, talks to mom, and hangs out with my best friend and her husband. It leaves no room for my friends and family to form a relationship with my current fiance! They have to choose who they are going to invite to get-togethers, and my fiance and I usually get left out so that my ex won't be uncomfortable...This is causing me to be distant from my family and friends and question their loyalty and priorities. I believe that if you remain close friends with your ex's family, then you haven't truly moved on, and are still holding on to some kind of hope. When you have a final breakup you have to close that chapter of your life and move on! When you break up with someone, you break up with the family (and any friends you did not have prior to the relationship) too! I'm not saying that if you see the ex (or the ex sees the family) in public that you should not be cordial, I just don't think it's necessary to call them up to talk all the time, or get together to hang out, etc...

Bad Idea - I'm in the same boat as Ananymous....The fact that my family hasn't moved on in the 11 years I divorced my ex has caused me to distance myself from any activities where he will be invited. I no longer question their loyalties or priorities....I know what side they rest on. I truly believe he hasn't moved on even though he drags his current, live in girlfriend to MY family functions.
I know what's wrong with him....what the heck is wrong with her??????

I'm going trough a tough situtaion.... My ex-bf and I still speak to each other and his family is still really close with me specially his mother, ever since my ex and I have broken up we no longer see each other or ask each other out we just e-mail or text each other on regular basis while his mother insist in keeping in contact by going out to dinner and being friends I honestly don't feel like that is such a bad idea I used to think it was crazy and psychotic to even keep in touch but why not, her son and I still speak and are in good terms plus his son is great friends with my sister and my family loves him very much. The thing that I'm confused about is that his mom has asked move in to her home to rent one of the rooms and he along with my family see nothing wrong with it and I kind do I guess it will be awkward but I kind of like the idea and everyone in exception for my girlfriends are fine with it. Question - Could leaving with my ex-bf mom and dad work out?