I've never faced the dilemma of liking someone who sucked in bed. For some reason, I imagine that the qualities that drew me to that person would make them magically attentive, creative and fun in bed.
I hear it happens though (don't hate me for being lucky!), and Lily Allen's single "Not Fair" is pretty brutal about someone who's not only selfish, he just doesn't know what he's doing. “You never make me scream," she sings. "It’s not fair, it’s really not OK.” Ouch. Have you ever dumped someone for being bad in bed?
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I've only been with one person, and I was his first as well. So we were both equally awkward and bad at the beginning. But we learned what we were doing and how to please each other. Maybe it doesn't apply in every situation, but shouldn't you be able to instruct the sub-par partner in what gets you off?
1Nope. However, if you dump someone for being bad in bed because they aren't doing exactly what you want -- I say learn to communicate first, and if that doesn't work, then you can complain.
2bad kisser? yes.
3I got totally turned off by a guy because he had a really small penis. I'm talking like the length of my thumb and slightly thicker. We were never officially gf/bf so I didn't have to dump him. He was a really great guy, but I couldn't get over his size. It just didn't do it for me so I just gradually started accepting less of his dates and now we're friends and we joke about his penis size. Funny how things work out sometimes.
4I have dumped someone for being absolutely terrible in bed. Here's the kicker though: I told him what I liked and he was too stubborn to give me as much consideration as I gave him. He also had time, as I was with him for an entire year and never got off. He got offended if I tried to "take matters into my own hands" when he couldn't do the job, so I was incredibly unfulfilled. In the case that you tell the person what you want/need and they don't at least give it a shot, then I don't see what's wrong with dumping a bad bed-parter.
5I've only been with one guy and he is good in bed, so my answer is no. Hopefully we stay together, because it is a fear that I will end up with someone who is small or not good. Especially when you're used to something big and so good.
6Never have, but I had one boyfriend I might have dumped for being bad in bed if I'd had more experience at the time. Otherwise, never say never.
7I've only ever been sexually intimate with my fiance. And AFTER we got engaged. First time for the both of us. It was awkward at first, but then things took off pretty smoothly.
I'm content.
8I've only ever had sex with my boyfriend.
But if he didn't listen to me in bed, I don't think we could stay together. Because if he can't listen then, what does that say for the future?
9I've dumped someone for being a bad kisser. I *would* dump someone for being crappy in bed. It's important, and I don't feel like I should have to teach someone what to do at my age (27).
10I've definitely ended things when he wasn't showing any improvement or just didn't do it for me in bed. Having a mental/spiritual connection with someone is great, but that's what friendship is for. If I'm going to have a RELATIONSHIP with someone, I need that physical connection as well.
On a side note, I've been listening to this song for awhile so it's great to see it released as a single.
11I think that dumping someone for being bad in bed is shallow, and I do like my sex. I think if you are with someone you care for and they are bad in bed then you try to teach them. If they refuse to learn or listen then you aren't dumping them for being bad in bed you are dumping them for being selfish and inconsiderate which is a valid reason to kick anyone out of your life
12i never have, but that doesn't mean i never will. i have to have that connection or else i lose interest very quickly.
i have dumped guys do to size though. shallow, but i can't help it!
13It does happen, incredibly handsome tall man and incredibly wrong in bed. Seems he may have been trying to hard ..perhaps... men also get nerveous I expect ..by the way he is german
14omg i've been wondering about this for weeks. my bf is a great guy, a little immature but he tries to be more mature around me. lately i've noticed he really is not good in bed. i almost fell asleep last time! he's read books about it, he's watched xxx movies for ideas. but nothing helps! all he does is touch me enough to get my body stimulated then he asks "are you ready yet?" which.. btw is a big turn off! i realize he was a virgin before me, but its been months.
15and if you are supposed to dump someone after months of trying and not getting anywhere. how do you do it? i dont want to be horrible and say "sorry the sex sucked bye" he'd probably be traumatized and stay a monk the rest of his life!
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