Bachelorette parties come in all shapes and sizes (as do male strippers). Some brides want relaxing girls' getaways, while others go for wild and crazy Vegas-style parties.
A wedding calls for a celebration, and the bachelorette party is an opportune time to spend some quality time with your good friends, but celebrating a friend's impending end to singledom could be time-consuming and expensive if it involves going somewhere. There's the cost of the flight out, hotel, dinners, drinks, cabs. . .
So I'm curious, have you ever skipped a bachelorette party you were invited to because it didn't work with your budget or schedule, or do you always make them a priority?
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Derek Lam
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I'm wondering if you can skip out on a bachelorette party? I'm not in the wedding party and I have had other plans for awhile on that same weekend. Is it rude not to go? She was my college roommate but we haven't been close for a few years now. Will she care? Not forgive me? I will attend the wedding of course.
1Anonymous, I think its totally ok if you are unable to attend. Simply tell the bride that you have other long-standing plans for that weekend and that you are so thrilled for the actual wedding weekend. it's not rude at all, you have a life too!
2This is interesting because I am a bride who is going to have a bachelorette party at some point. I've only been to one so I don't really have any experience with how expensive they can be. I'm not a conventional bride, so I don't think my party would be very expensive. But that's something I should really keep in mind.
3hey i would not go...
4I really wanted to skip out on a bachalorette party because I knew I would not have any fun (because honestly I didn't like the bride but was the MOH, I know dumb) but she decided she didn't want one so I didn't have to plan it or go yea!!
5once i was invited to the bachelorette party, but not the wedding. i obviously skipped the party.
6Since I've only been invited to two, it was pretty easy to make them.
However, some
of them sound so extravagant, it seems like you'd have to be understanding if people couldn't make it.
7Nope - but I've only been invited to a handful and they were all for good friends.
8bluepuppybites--lol! I've skipped one because I didn't like the bridesmaids, and they were all big partiers and I'm really not, so the idea of being in close proximity to a bunch of really drunk loud girls that I don't like was not really my cup of tea.
9For the first time I had to say no to a bachelorette invite...the whole thing is by far the most expensive bachelorette party I'd ever been invited to and right now I'm in the middle of buying a house...it's just not in the budget!
10I skipped out on one and I was in the wedding party. It was SUPER expensive and the MOH went way over the top. I couldn't afford it and I bailed out. I still feel bad about it and I feel like I missed out but I just couldn't do it.
11I didn't think Bachelorette parties were such a big deal, unless it was your best friend's or something.
12I've only been to two, and there's always some expense, whether it's ponying up for a lingerie gift for the bride or paint-your-own ceramics. My soon to be sister in law had to decline a party because they were doing a whole trip out to Atlantic City with gambling, trips to the spa, the whole works. Fun yes, but I think maybe my fiance and I will do a joint Jack and Jill cocktail party at our place so our friends can have fun without having to dole out on bar cover charges or strippers (so gross and disrespectful of the couple's union, IMO)
13I have one coming up that I'm skipping. She is a good friend, but her and her bridesmaids live a 1000+ miles away and scheduled the party for a Friday night, not very convenient for out-of-towners. Since I have no plans to moving back "home" anytime in the near future, I have a feeling that I'll be skipping out on more and more. I'm okay with it, and I think the brides are too - the ceremony is the most important thing. Of course maybe it'll come back and bite me in the a** when I don't have anyone show up at my bachelorette party....
14I've only skipped one, and I still feel a little guilty about it!! But the bride's fiancé didn't invite my husband to his bachelor party, which was the same weekend, and I didn't want to leave my man all alone overnight knowing that all our friends were out having fun.
15The parties are upping the anti too much these days. I had a budget concern for party for a friend of mine a few years ago. I tried to make the costs lower, and another friend kept making expensive choices. She wanted a location and a whole weekend of it. I had to be honest and say I thought it was too expensive. In the end the other friend covered a lot of the costs for us which was extremely generous. I still wonder though if she regrets doing it. Wow. She spent the Big Bucks in South Beach. It was completely unnecessary.
16Yes- i just did. it was out of town, i was expected to bring a gift and pay for her dinner/drinks all night. it was not in my budget to even purchase a plane ticket let alone a gift and hotel room
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