Oh yeah, I always wear my regular rings on that finger (I'm not engaged or married) and I have had some friends say that I shouldn't because that's my ring finger with a judgmental face, but I just don't care.

I wear a ring on that finger. It's the only one that it fits on. I really don't see a problem.

I wear rings on any finger I like. And sometimes if I'm traveling alone, I wear a "wedding ring" so that nobody hits on me.

Sure, I believe in wearing whatever you want whenever you want. You can wear the ring on that finger, but don't be surprised or upset when people ask you about it. It has a lot of symbolism, and it says a lot really quickly about a person's relationship status.

i think that no ring should be worn on that finger unless its an engagement or wedding... call me old fashioned

I never really wore any rings before my engagement ring. . .but if I did, then I probably would have worn one on that finger. Why not?

"I never really wore any rings before my engagement ring. . .but if I did, then I probably would have worn one on that finger. Why not?"

Me too Leila!

I dont usually wear rings on that finger. None of them fit!
I do have a dummy ring for when I go out to the pub or when I'm at work so people don't get any ideas.

Do you really refer to men as "dudes?" Is this some new "we're all bisexual and edgy and will blur the gender lines until we're all fourteen-year-old boys" angle? What woman, who's not still in high school, would say "dude" to refer to a guy?

Sorry, trying to keep an open mind, but I miss Dear already, and these first few posts from Tres are seriously disappointing.

I think you can wear a ring on whatever finger you want - you just have to be prepared to field questions.

Ha, I call men (and women) dudes all the time. Also, in high school I used to wear a ring on that finger, but it wasn't mistaken for much at that time.

I have always believed it brings bad luck to wear a ring on that finger without engagement.

My aunt did it and her grandma said that you will never get married that way - and she hasn't.

Mr Right could pass you by when you are wearing "engagement ring". Great guys don't hit on taken women. ::

I always thought it was very bad luck to wear a ring on that finger (I guess if you're not into getting married, then it doesn't matter).

Personally, I would assume you were engaged or married and I don't know where you're from to think that someone asking you that question would be weird.

I wear rings wherever they fit, really. And if we're talking about a big chunky ring like the one in the picture (pretty, btw) I see no way how that could be confused with an engament ring. I don't believe in diamonds for everyone, something classy would be enough, but I guess I'm not *that* open-minded, lol.

Heather from Dooce doesn't have an official wedding ring & always wears chunky rings on her ring finger as her wedding ring.

i only wear rings on my right hand, so my left hand is free, clear, and calling for a diamond! it's prepared, like The Secret taught me to be

leene - your last line is genius!

I don't...it feels wrong somehow. Plus it avoids questions. The only time I would do it is if I was alone in a dodgy country...

I think you should wear rings on whatever finger you want.

That's the only finger that rings feel right on, I've tried to wear them on my right hand but it always annoys me. So I guess when I finally get engaged I'll have to stop wearing all my fun rings but until then why not?? I don't wear any that could be mistaken for an engagement ring and no has ever asked and I'm taken so if it wards skeezy guys off then that's even better!

In my culture, the engagement ring is usually worn on the left-hand ring finger, but the wedding ring is worn on the right hand (often it's actually the same ring, or rather a simple wedding band, just with an added engraving). I don't see any problem with wearing a ring on your ring finger (either one!) without being engaged or married.

I think woman who wear a solatare on their wedding ring finger want to have a wedding ring on their finger.
I use to wear one before I was married and it was to keep the creapy men that would hit on me all the time away.
It is something that a lot of good men look for so if you are lonely and looking for the right love I wouldn't wear anything on that finger!

Before i became engaged i would wear rings on that finger, i don't see anything wrong with it. and the only time i think that someone is engaged is if they have a diamond or band on that finger.

I'm married and hardly ever wear my ring. This doesn't offend my husband (I ask him almost every week). I think the concept of that finger being sacred and is only for your wedding ring is old fashioned. And assuming anyone's availability/unavailability based on it is risky.

I think if you were a ring on your ring finger other people are going to think that it means something. Do what you want, but be prepared for questions or to not be asked out by that really cute guy b/c he checked your hand first!

Good idea Bella! I never wear a ring on that finger, but not because of any real reason, just because I don't feel like it.

I don't wear any rings on that finger but I don't object to women who do. I do have a fake diamond ring though that I used to wear on that hand when I was a cocktail waitress. It made the night a lot easier.

And Tres, feel free to say "Dude" as much as you want. I say "Dude" and I'm not in high school. Anyone who calls you out is just lameeeee!

Let's see. When I was engaged, I wore my ring. We both decided NOT be engaged since I wanted to wait a while before getting married, and he wanted to buy a different ring, etc. Basically do it over again, haha. I still have the same ring and wear it on that finger, as a symbol that I am committed to someone I intend on marrying. He wears a ring on his finger too for the same purpose -- or did, since now his finger is a size and a half bigger than what it was then!

i say wear whatever you want, just don't be surprised if men ask what it's all about.

the only risk you take is that some shy guy might steer clear for fear of hitting on a married woman. remember that most guys probably aren't thinking about what style of ring it is. the distinction between a cocktail ring and a diamond solitaire is not something most guys think about.

the upshot is that it could be a conversation starter.

Nope. Before I was married or engaged, I always wore rings on that finger (as well as other fingers).

However, personally, the only time I wore a DIAMOND ring on that finger was for engagement/marriage reasons. My other rings on that finger were non-diamond ones.

my bf gave me an antique garnet ring for my birthday, just as a nice thoughtful present not as any promise or engagement ring or anything. It fits on both ring fingers, and I am constantly switching hands depending on how many other rings I am wearing. It's just as meaningful to be wearing something he gave me, no matter what finger I have it on.

i never ever ever wear rings on that finger. if my boyfriend wants other guys to think i'm engaged, he should just propose!

I wear a pave diamond band on my left ring finger and a green amethyst/diamond ring on my right ring finger. I'm in a long term relationship, but not engaged yet. People always grab my right hand and ask if we got engaged, which is strange, but whatever. Maybe it's just because it's on "their left side." Regardless, I don't think it matters what you wear or where you wear it, but like everyone else said, people will ask questions.

i wear my torqouise ring just cuz it only fits that finger. am i engaged? no i hope i dont meet a man that cheap to give me a old beat up ring. lol

I do the same as bellasugar. But one of my ex got jealous when I wore an engagement ring of someone else on that finger. I mean it's someone's engagement ring and it has no sentimental meaning to me whatsoever but it's a very nice diamond ring and to me, why not?

P.S. size of someone's engagement ring only fits on that finger.

i belived that you should wear a ring in that finger only if its an engagement ring, because it will bring you bad luck if you put any other ring there, so i dont want to take any risk so i dont wear anything yet =)

i have had bad luck even when it was only a wedding ring on that finger. who cares what hand you wear a ring.it's 2009.if you're not married or engaged you shouldn't be afraid to wear a ring on your finger.

I went without wearing anything on that finger a long time. I still don't wear anything there except on occasion, when I'm in the mood to wear costume jewelry.

You can definitely wear a ring on any finger you want, but if you're single and looking, you might miss out on a lot of guys who do the 'ring check' before approaching you.

I think that the rise of nontraditional engagement rings really makes it confusing to wear any ol' ring on the left hand.
Personally, I think it's a ridiculous custom, but it's what we know.

I used to be superstitious about this - but then I said screw it! I'll wear my bling any old place I want to!

If you aren't wearing a diamond, it doesn't make you "not engaged" there are other precious stones out there. I for one have a sapphire and diamond engagement ring and no one mistakes it for a "fashion ring".
I also wore a pearl and diamond ring as a promise ring on my lring finger and did get questions about it , so be prepared to explain yourself if you do wear a ring on that hand.

i wear rings on either my ring finger or my index finger, because they're the only fingers that rings look nice (on me)..
but alot of my guy friends told me to stop wearing rings on my ring finger because guys who might be interested in me would probably think i have a boyfriend and not come up to me.. i mean. i understand if i'm wearing like a simple band ring or something, but i wear cocktail style rings.. which would be impossible to mistake for a ring thats shared with someone..

I've been thinking about this obviously because I wore 2 rings on the ring finger on my right hand the other day & none on the left hand...it looked kind of cute actually! Some days I wear no rings at all (I just forget).

I wear a ring on my left finger, because I am "unofficially engaged". Complicated, I know. XP We're going to get married someday, we just haven't really told anyone yet because some of my family doesn't like him, and we're too young. Hahahaha. I know that they'd all laugh at me, anyway. No one has ever mentioned that I wear it on my ring finger. They just comment that it's a cool ring, and know that I always wear it and he bought it for me. (We laugh or asses off, because it's literally, a 25 cent ring from walmart, and i know a guy who bought an extremely similar ring for 400 bucks.) I occasionally wore rings on left finger before, but now it's the only ring I really wear anymore.

Avoid wearing anything on that finger if you don't want to give off the impression you are taken imo. Keep in mind that men don't know anything about jewelry, and if they see anything on that finger no matter what it is, they are likely to assume things. I mean, the article writer's own experience is proof enough of that.

Of course no one can stop you from wearing a ring there but, you have no right to complain if men don't approach you because of it. You do have 9 other fingers after all.

Before I was married I wore a single pearl ring (my birthstone) on my ring finger. Yes, I got quite a few questions about it, but I had no problem explaining why I wore it... I wore that ring as a promise to myself to never compromise my standards again. It was a good thing for me and reminded me to take an objective look at who was asking the question.

It didn't bring me bad luck either! I've found my match, and now my wedding rings go there... Initially he asked me why I wore it and when I explained it he actually had a lot of respect for my reasoning. Now I've got a fire opal ring and plain band that are sometimes mistaken as 'just rings'. The fact that I forget them pretty regularly probably doesn't help (or make the hubby mad)!

Leene, what a great comment! I Love that!

I always wear alot of rings on that finger. I'm married and I never wear my band. My husbands complains but I don't see why I have to wear it. What do u guys think about that??

"And sometimes if I'm traveling alone, I wear a "wedding ring" so that nobody hits on me."

I do this, too! It's so convenient, you automatically don't get any of those snarky, "So, do you have a boyfriend?" comments.