Did anything notable happen on Saturday? If not, it sounds like something is up.

Whether it's you, or something else going on in his life, I think time will tell.

It sounds like you've reached out to him a few times, so as hard as it is, I'd just try to lay low and see what happens next.

Make fun plans this weekend with some girl friends or on your own.

It is only Wednesday, though, so don't jump to too many conclusions. It could just be he's had a few busy or bad days.

6 words, honey: He's just not that into you. Seriously. If he wanted to call you, text you, email you, send you flowers, he would. Something happened, whether that's some other girl that he's into now, or him just not feeling you... either way, let it go and just hang out with your friends, do stuff you like to do. If he does like you and there were random extraneous circumstances that made him pull away (which I seriously doubt because men aren't that complex as we like to think they are, lol, they're not women), then he'll come around. Till then, just live your life and try not to obsess about it (I know, easier said than done. )

LOL, Latte this sounds exactly like that plot. Great advice BTW.

I agree with lattegoodness! My guy friends have told me a million times: guys don't do "tests". That is entirely a woman thing!

As for why he hasn't called you, we can't know, but 99% he is not "pulling back to see if you're interested."

I agree with everyone else. He is making some pretty clear signals that -something- else is on his mind. Don't wait around for him.

He did seem totally into her though, and suddenly not?
He was taking her out, exchanging emails and texts, no problem, So its not as simple as he's just not that into you.
Ever since that line, its like the go to when ever a guy acts like a dick.

Same result though, if he's not going to give a little, move on.

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Guys are simple thinkers when it comes to women. If he wants to be with you, he will call. I am not sure what happened, but I suspect he is interested in someone else now.

Step off and let him come to you. If he doesn't, just be glad you didn't invest more than a month in this tool. If he does, I personally wouldn't be so available.

As others said, no matter his reasoning, it's best for your sanity and dignity to back off and focus on yourself. He'll come around or he won't - chances are by that time you won't care either way.

I agree with all posters, think of it this way - he missed out on the privilege of making weekend plans with you because its already Thursday and you are booked solid by now (if you aren't, then make yourself be! Start making plans with your girlfriends or family ASAP) with other engagements. Even if he does come around tell him you already have plans for this weekend. If he doesn't come around, and turns out to be a tool, then at least you'll be busy through this weekend and won't be waiting by your phone.

I always have this unease feeling when I see posts like this. Why do everything has to be in the guy's hand? If the guy is acting a jerk, why can't we just call him out? Not being a b!tch about it, but just say, hey what's going on? Then move on.

I don't think 1 month falls is conversation worthy.

His actions are enough "talk", you know? Why ask a question when you know the answer, that sort of thing.

"falls as"

I agree with tomatoshirt, I don't see the harm in asking what gives without being a b*tch about it, the poster obviously notices a difference.
But if necessary move on, and try not to worry about it.

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My gut reaction is that he was crushing on someone else. Even if a guy is crazy busy he will still find the time to shoot you a quick email or text if he is really interested in you. He doesn't want to lose your interest and he wants to make sure you are thinking about him too! What you do depends on the type of person you are. You can either contact him and ask what's going on or you can just let him fade away and move on.

There are so many what ifs. True if a guy (or a girl) is interested, he/she will go the extra mile, but again, we are not him and we don't know both side of the story. Just ask him in a nonchalant way to at least get rid of your curiosity. this is not a breath taken love story just yet, i don't think we should over analyzing it.

Dude is not interested! Move on and find someone who treats you better. I just had something similar happen to me — dated a guy for two weeks, he started getting scarce, I filed him under "Dudes Who Do Not Deserve My Time," and then I find out he's started dating someone else. Hang out with your girlfriends and don't worry about this dude.

I've been down this road a few times, and EVERY time there was an ex-girlfriend involved. Do you know if this guy is on the rebound? If you really need to know you can send him an e-mail or text telling him that if he no longer wants to see you, then to just let you know. If he is a decent human being he will be up front. If you get no response, or some BS response, forget about him... he's not worth your time.

i hate it when men do that. it happens. wish they would just text saying i dont see it working and not leave women hanging like that.

come on he might be just busy, I mean if he's making all the first moves for the whole month, I think it's ok for you to call for once and ask if there's something wrong!.. Still if he's acting like a jerk maybe he wasn't good enough!..

I agree with sniggles - everytime I've seen this happen, there's an ex involved. Or somebody else has popped back into his life suddenly. Whatever happened, he's gone. Do you really want someone who would care about you so little? I hope you can move on to someone who deserves you.

forget about him and move on. if he wanted to come around then he would have-busy or not. he's got to sleep some time and if time was an issue he could sacrifice a hour to catch up with you. sometimes women spend way too much time trying to figure men out. some people are just sketchy and that probably isn't someone you'd like to be with in the long run anyways.

Time and patience has a way of sifting through what's going on with him. I would let some time go by and if you don't see that he's contacting you as before after about a week, put him in the friends category. If a guy is crazy about you, he wouldn't just stop contacting you, he'd want to make sure you always knew he was interested. He's not stupid, he knows another guy might come along and steal his great catch

I, too, have heard this scenario before, but without casting blame, I think it advisable to consider other issues. Primarily, you state that this man was "totally smitten with you" and generally that's a very good thing. In fact, I should say that this is either a case of a man trying too hard to convince himself of something in a relationship, (a talent at which women often excel, unfortunately,) or it was simply a case of a truly romantic bent of his. Personally, I don't think there is anything better than someone who loves being romantic... especially when it continues after you get married.

One question which I would like to ask you is this: given his overt romanticism for over a month, how were you reacting to his efforts? The reason that I ask this is that romantic men seem to have a shelf life without at least an equally effusive reaction of appreciation. While most women with whom I speak are surprised when I ask this, objecting that they did indeed appreciate the romanticism, discovering the details of their romantic reactions tells another story. When those effusive reactions don't come naturally, we just don't have them!

While I am not suggesting that this is necessarily like your case, it is something worth considering. I would begin thinking about how you reacted to all these hearts and flowers. If you were just smiling and saying thank you without showing him that you were worth the effort... and believe me, they are making an effort in this, then a man's interest peters out. I hate to suggest this but oftentimes, we merely bask in that glory of being adored. It is easy to do but probably signifies a relationship which isn't going to last, unless of course one is inheriting a crown in the near future.

When I use the analogy of a plant which blooms beautifully, I usually suggest telling one's friends how beautiful the blooms are and taking special care of the plant in return. What I am suggesting is that despite our many differences, men enjoy being taken care of for their efforts. Their needs may be a bit different, but they are alike in the need for being openly appreciated for their efforts.

If any of this rings remotely true, you have no way of gauging whether things have been irretrievably hurt at this point, but you can decide to make a new effort in the direction of appreciation.. unless it is uncomfortable for you in which case I suggest you merely let it go. On the other hand, in contacting him, don't suggest anything too drastic, but there's nothing wrong with suggesting an innocent tryst for a drink and then giving him some delightfully romantic surprise. Of course I'm not suggesting the lingerie under the trench coat (just yet!) but I think you can gauge what might be appropriate at this point.

As usual, I'm with jazzytummy.