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He sounds like a cold, self-involved jerk and you're better off without him.

"Those who cannot learn from history are doomed to repeat it"

That sucks.

I just wish he could have at least called me once ... even if he wanted to end it ... but blocking me off everywhere and disappearing ... isn't that so childish ...
a part of me wants to call him, mail him, contact him but I know its goin to be useless right??

Makes me wonder what happened during the relationship that he felt he had to block you 100% from his life with no warning. Did you go a little psycho on him?

lol luisa

Dont contact him, then you'll just come off as needy and clingy. The best thing you can do is find a good distraction and just move on from the relationship. He's just a jerk. No use wasting anymore time on him! I know it's difficult but trust me, you'll feel so much better about yourself if you just move on and find your own closure. He just wasnt the one. That's it. So move on to bigger and better things.

"Those who cannot learn from history are doomed to repeat it"

lol thats what I am wondering ... I was so supportive and understanding ... well I tired to be as much as I could ... and as we both had very busy schedules I was the only putting in majority of the effort to drive down to see him and work around his plans altering mine ...
then why did he just decide to disappear all of a sudden ... and block me completely out of his life ... ughh I can never understand men

Maybe because you were just too easy. You changed you schedule to fit his, you drove to see him etc etc. There was no chase for him. Ambitious guys like that often crave the feeling of chasing a woman. You were too kind, too accessible. For him, that didnt work but for the guy you're SUPPOSED to be with, you'll be perfect. Dont change who you are because this guy didnt appreciate how selfless you are.

Dont give men more credit then they deserve, they're pretty simple creatures and not all of them are kind. He will be single for a long time but eventually he will meet a woman who drives him crazy in enough ways that he will be totally infatuated with her. Dont worry, it's him not you

"Those who cannot learn from history are doomed to repeat it"

Thanks so much fallen
And thanks for telling me that I shouldn't contact him ... its too tempting just to look for closure but I have my work n career to keep me busy

Oh that sucks! Sorry, doll. Just don't contact the guy and move on, Fallen is right, it's him not you, try not to give him any reason to think you're 'psycho' by seeking for closure while he's the jerk. He sounds like someone you shouldn't be involved with anyway. And just move on to the next guy.

lol it took me an year to find this one ... but hopefully I will find someone sooner than later who isn't a complete jerk ...

If that's what happened it's for the best? If that's all there is to it (the way you laid it out in the post), then he doesn't sound very mature. Move on, you'll find someone else, there's 6 billion other potentials.

By the way, the loser probably still thinks and you and is probably in the corner of his room pining over pictures of you, but is trying hard to be a tough guy, lol. Be a rock star, who still has her rock moves, and doesn't need him, and you know what? Have more fun, cuz know you're done, don't want him, tonight. You'll be alright...

Oh man, what a jerk! I don't know what kind of closure you're looking for, but I'd say you got it when he blocked all communication channels. At least it wasn't ambiguous.

Seriously though, do NOT contact him. It will make you look desperate.

In situations like this I always tell my friends to make up whatever story they want to get closure, because lord knows the guy isn't going to provide it. Seriously, just pretend that he's gay and switched for you for a few months but then couldn't handle it and had to block you completely so he could forget all about it.

In the end it doesn't really matter does it? I guess it's easier to think it was something external so we don't feel as rejected. But you know, who wants to be with a guy when you're last on their priority list anyway?

Good luck - you'll feel better soon.

Haha GScott love the Pink song.

LoL, couldn't resist. It'll be okie.

But seriously, pop's right, don't contact him and start pining over stuff, it really will make you look desperate. It's also a turn off and you make yourself seem pathetic when you do.

So when is the broken heart pill cure going to be ready again?

He can suck it. Im sure someone somewhere will do you a favor and punch him in the face.

Thanks guys,
that does help me feel better ...
just wish men would act a little more grown up sometimes ...
I am going to suck it up and get on with my life and never contact him ...

Yes, he's a jerk, and yes, DON'T contact him. I agree with the reader who said you were too accomodating, suggest you read John Gray's "Mars and Venus on a Date.

Relic...most people will never act grown up, usually because they never do. Sad huh

You'll feel even better about yourself than you ever have soon enough.

Thanks Scott ... you are awesome ...
hope that soon comes asap ...

My ex boyfriend did that to me a few weeks after I broke up, and I wasn't even in contact with him! Turns out he got with another girl.

Several months after, he regretted it and wanted to back with me again, but some guys just aren't worth your time.

You deserve to be happy, don't let any guy make you feel less!

I got dumped via text by a guy who I was with for 2.5 years. Don't open a can of worms. He was a jerk and that's what all we need to know. There's nothing else you can do now. It is over.

I am so sorry mn ...
Guess some guys are jerks and cowards ...
but we have to learn to put them in the past and move on

At least it wasn't a post-it note.

Just move on. Delete his email--there's your closure.

That stinks! I agree with javmav, your best closure is going to be deleting the email.

I did it ... I deleted that email ...

some people are just jerks, there is no way around it. you can go into a situation with the best of intentions and still get effed over for no reason. you should be comforted by the fact that at least u were genuine about ur feelings. blocking and ignorning is the worst! especially when all you want is closure but if he doesnt want to act like a decent person eff him! BLOCK HIM from your life too. It gets better everyday..

earlier this week a girl was forced to kick her boyfriend out for being a free loader and now we're complaining about guys that are too career-oriented and too ambitious? c'mon ladies.

it sounds like a classic two-month 'he's just not that into you' deal. and considering the fact that he blocked you from all social networking devices i'd guess that you're not 100% innocent.
if you are innocent the answer is simple: delete the email, spend no more than one day fuming about his ridiculously childish behavior and move on with your life.

if you feel this sad after just two months of dating, then I bet you were too clingy for him.

"and I couldn't have asked for a better relationship; other than the fact that he was too career-oriented and ambitious and always put his work first" well, then you CAN ask for a better one it sounds like!

if your giving mixed messages like that, he will be getting them too and no man wants that.

Well, we don't know her situation, but then again, it's still immature. If you can't talk it out with someone, you're...immature (I had some choice words). Mature human being don't block people completely out of the blue because they're a coward. Unless they cheated on you I suppose. This just sounds shady. No matter how "career oriented" you are, just because your relationship isn't working out for life, be mature. But then again, being the exception to the guy rule as Fallen put it in another post, I can't expect all guys to be like this. Most are dirtbags. (I really think I was supposed to be born a woman sometimes -_-)

Just don't get desperate and lower your standards. I dated some super nice guys but there was always a "but". "He's a great guy BUT he's kind of clingy. He's a great guy BUT he never has time for me. He's a great guy BUT he's super conservative." you get the idea. I felt like I was in the Seinfeld episode where Jerry (or Elaine?) broke up with someone for eating their peas strangely.

I thought, maybe I'm just too picky, so I dated a couple of guys who had "but"s for a while and after a couple of months with each one they drove me NUTS! I went back to being picky and met the greatest guy ever! The funny thing is that my friends pointed out that he does some of the things I complained about with other guys (like calling a ton) but with him I don't even notice or think of them as "buts". No one is perfect but when you find the right person for you, you just don't focus as much on the "buts".

I thought I would share because your first sentence "and I couldn't have asked for a better relationship; other than the fact that he was too career-oriented and ambitious and always put his work first" the "OTHER THAN" sounded like me from my phase of trying to make the "buts" work. Stick to your standards, join things and meet people and you'll find the right guy.

I'd kill him. Just move on, he wasn't worth your time anyway.

Unfortunately, you won't get closure. Just remember that karma is a B*TCH - you're better off without him.

What a tool.

When time goes on, you will be glad that it ended after investing only 2 months. Think about what it would have been like if you had spent a year or more with this guy? His douchebag behavior would still have been there, but you would have lost more time.

I like what Fallen said.."don't change who you are because this guy didn't appreciate how selfless you are". I agree that guys like a chase, and women shouldn't seem readily accessible because of that fact ( I am assuming you were not clingy). However, there comes a point where you wonder..."I have treated this person with kindness and have given my love and made an effort, I wanted this person to be happy, why wasn't that enough?"

Believe me, I have been in the situation where I really gave to someone when he needed it, and I ended up getting left behind. It hurt, and I questioned all of the kind things that I did for him. I finally realized, that is who I am, I shouldn't regret the fact that I helped someone, even if things ultimately didn't turn out the way I would have liked.

I think as others have said, when you have met the right one, your selflessness will be appreciated and returned. Just because this guy wasn't it, it doesn't mean you were "wrong". I agree, though, you should never be the one who makes the lion's share of the effort, because I have learned the hard way, that NEVER works out.

Good luck to you and I am sorry he hurt you like that.

BTW to all wondering...this post was edited. In the original post, the OP talked about working her schedule around his, driving to see him, etc. That is what I was responding to about her making most of the effort in the relationship. Fallen talks about that as well in one of her posts.

I wish these weren't edited.

Oops, my bad...the OP posted that info in the replies...sorry sugar!

Relic - Sometimes when I have gone through break ups that don't have closure (or even ones that do!), I will sit down and make a list of all the things qualities in him that I would and would not like in a future partner. Like:
career oriented - check.
makes time for me - not this guy, but important to me in a relationship.
That way, not only can I feel a little control over the relationship ending, but also make my next pick closer to what I want. Afterward, I always feel a little more empowered. Plus, sometimes I surprise myself with things I thought were important, but end up being lower on my list.

well i think that you should just forget him and move on.if he blocked you that clearly means that he's moved on and ready to mingle.it sucks and probably hurt,but hey life goes on and i'm sure you can do better,by contacting him you will just sound crazy.hang in there girl

I'm still convinced the OP did something crazy. No guy blocks every girl he breaks up with for no reason.

For whatever reason, things didn't work out. But there is a nice way to do everything, and going online and breaking up with you that way is cowardly, and makes him look like a little boy. You need and deserve a real man! Someone that has enough respect and balls to do it at least over the phone or in person. I've been there too! There might be a chance for closure. I was in a 6 month relationship, it ended on his end over facebook without warning, and then 7 months later he is contacting me in every way he knows in order to get back together. There might be a chance for you to tell him that what he did was wrong and cowardly!

I wish I had done somethin crazy luisa cuz at least that would have given me some closure ... but alas I didn't do anythin crazy ...

Well, we're not talking about every guy, we're talking about one guy. And really, there are a lot of crazy people out there. So this is very believable.

Wow, it was only two months. Why so attached?

Because I was single for more than an year before that ... n I took my time trying to find someone worthy ... and then he acted like a dirt bag

I would be tempted to confront him, if nothing else so that he doesn't think he can treat women like this. If you ever get reconnected, say "The way you ended our relationship was very cowardly and pathetic. You should be embarrassed."

Oh my goodness. This reminds me of what happened to Sophie Calle. I find it so immature of the guy to do this to you, Relic. You'll be all right, I assure you. An ex actually broke up with me through voice mail. =/ You'll find someone better!

that sucks. i know you wanted closure. no body deserves that kind of disrespect. hes just a coward.