30-Day Sex Challenge: Would You Do This?

May 1, 2009

Pastor Paul Worth of the Relevant Church in Tampa, FL, has a novel prescription for both married and unmarried couples who want to get closer to each other. For the married folks, have sex every day for 30 days, and the unmarrieds . . . just stop. (Guess who has the better end of this deal?) Worth believes this will allow people to get to know themselves better, and as a result, to be better partners to their significant others. Would you forgo or go for 30 days of sex?

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sidra5397 4 years

Agreed, GlowingMoon.

smaine07 4 years

As an unmarried, I absolutely agree with this.. relationships can be based on sex if it happens too quickly, etc. and it can be pretty eye opening if you decide to hold out.. some people realize that they have nothing in common and that the relationship is never going to work! it is also healthy even if you are in a great relationship, because you can learn about the other person and their emotional needs.. i know guys and even some girls are really bad about skipping over that part:)

GlowingMoon 4 years

No, thanks. I agree with Margokhal -- sex is NOT the foundation of marriage. Sex is an expression of it. Personally, I could only have sex with my husband when we're close, and our marriage is in a good place. If we're not close, or we're going through a rough patch in our marriage, trust me, sex will NOT occur, much less mend the rift. Sex is great, but it's not the end all, be all of everything.

aimeeb 4 years

margokhal so true!

Midnight Harlow 4 years

If as a married couple you feel as though the intimacy has died and the emotional connection may help then go for it. And if you are a non married couple and are worried that the sexual connection is the only one that is working then not having sex is good for you as long as both couples are communicating.

chatondeneige 4 years

addressing singles in a way that's more than saying "don't have sex." and the unmarrieds . . . just stop. Umm, I'm pretty sure that "just stop" is a paraphrase of "don't have sex"!

Abbigail 4 years

I think that it's an awesome idea. I think everyone knows that the church sees sex outside of marriage as wrong, but at least this pastor has actually acknowledged that its become unrealistic to assume that no one is doing it. It seemed like they were tackling the issue from both angles and bringing singles into the mix rather than gearing this to just married couples, but also addressing singles in a way that's more than saying "don't have sex."

French Kiss 4 years

And the periods ? XD

spacekatgal 4 years

I'm a Christian, but I think looking to a pastor for sex advice is like asking your mother. It's just not chockablock with relevant information. It might be nice and well meaning, but it's just not helpful. I try to stick to the Charlotte plan from Sex and the City - three to four times a week. More than that? My downstairs co-commander needs a rest if I have sex for 3 days straight.

kia 4 years

My husband and I have committed to 10-day sex marathons before. And all I gotta say is F-U-N!

Autumns_Elegy 4 years

I wouldnt forgo sex for a month. Done that too often recently, with my partner travelling a lot and all.

margokhal 4 years

Whatever happened to communication? That's the real foundation of a relationship, I think. Good communication will help you in pretty much every other area, including sex. Sex is just one way for people to express themselves and become closer and understand their partners, but it's not the ONLY way. And working on communication is good for EVERYBODY, married or unmarried. ;)

bgorgeouss 4 years

I understand how 30 days of sex can help a married couple get closer, but I don't think 30 days WITHOUT sex can help an unmarried couple much. That's a long time without sex with your significant other! Of course, sex shouldn't be the only positive thing in your relationship, but I think people can be mature enough to realize that they want to be with someone for reasons aside from sex. You don't have to do a 30 day experiment to prove that!

princess_eab 4 years

I guarantee that having sex every day would help loving, committed people who happen not to be married, also. In fact I think not having sex would be detrimental for a couple who already has it as an important part of their relationship.

RockAndRepublic 4 years

This pastor is not that bright, im glad he's showing his a$$.

babysoftpink 4 years

I wonder why there are so few individuals commenting on this topic, yet there are many who have voted.

kty 4 years

it all sounds fun but like kythera said you should love who you are and love your significant other deeply before trying anything,but sex does help some in a relationship

kythera 4 years

I'm married, although just for 1.5 years, but been together a total of 5 years, and we used to have sex every day, but has dwindled down to once or twice a week (none during menstruation). That hasn't bothered our marriage, nothing is wrong and we are really happy, so I'm really thankful for that. We make sure to communicate and respect each other. You should know who you are and love that person inside you before you love someone else deeply. Sex isn't the only way to resolve a marriage or relationship though IMO.

tlsgirl 4 years

My BF and I tried this after we'd lived together for a while when our sex life dropped off a bit. It helped.

bluepuppybites 4 years

I should really try this since my husband and I haven't had sex in well I can't remember. Since I became pregnant I just don't want to have sex right now total opposite from my last pregnancy.

elizabethsosewn 4 years

I actually had someone recommend this kind of 30 days thing to me when i asked for advice about moving in with my boyfriend. it made a big difference, and seriously changed our relationship, and our views of the relationship (in a good way. i chose a great guy)

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