While I'm all for being completely yourself with your significant other, I also think some things should be off-limits in front of each other, and going to the bathroom is at the top of my list. Yes, it's natural and we all do it, but in order to keep the romance alive, I strongly believe in a closed bathroom door policy! Some couples I know, however, think it's no big deal, so tell me where you stand on going to the bathroom in front of your significant other.
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I don't have a problem with peeing in front of a significant other. Anything else, though... that's too much.
1Because I know DearSugar, this question makes me laugh...
2I don't like it. that's definitely over the privacy line for me.
3I pee...thats all lol.
4My bf will go number two with me in the bathroom though...but thats because I hog it lol.
No, never ever. I think there needs to be SOME mystery left.
5Anything that comes from the bum is a no no but we pee in front of each other. It's no big deal.
6I'm with you, Dear. It is entirely possible and normal to have a closed-door policy ALWAYS. I lived with my ex and I was grossed out that *his* ex had had an open-door policy. Yuck. Some things are private.
7#2 - NO WAY - for either of us, no way, never, i don't care if we've been married for 60 years...that's too much and so unecessary
but #1 - i don't have an open-door policy per se but i HAVE on occasion peed in front of him when necessary (i've been drunk most of the times and some of the times he was in the shower so behind a curtain and not staring at me)....and he doesn't seem to mind either cuz if i'm brushing my teeth or something he'll just whip it out...but like this isn't a general rule, it's happened a handful of times
8#1, *shurg*
#2, kinda weird....can couples even stand either other's poo spell?
Well, depends on how it's done I suppose. If you're upstairs in in bed and one goes down to use the toilet...is the other gonna follow to come watch? I don't see the big deal if it's during shower time?
9I used to think it was no big deal. My ex and I were so open about EVERYTHING, but as the relationship started to wane, I realized that there are some things that should continue to be a mystery, and if you're so open in other aspects of your relationship, perhaps leave other things private. At least that's what I've learned.
10Going Tinkle, Going the Numba two? no problem with either. we leave the door open to talk to eachother, heck he comes in if i am taking a bubble bath just to hear me yell at him!
Its not for everyone but we are very close.
11Peeing isn't a huge deal for me. I don't do it in front of my SO, but if I have to pee before we hop in the shower in the morning, I'll wait until he gets in, then I'll pee. Depending on if he moves in with me, he's going to have to see me pee. My cats simply will not stand for closed doors - I don't like them scratching up my floors. At my old apartment, if I just left the door cracked open, no one could see in. But in my new apartment, if you're in the living room you can see the toilet if the door is cracked open! He doesn't pee in front of me, but if he moves in, I imagine he will.
12I don't think the no.1 (pee) is a big deal. I'd do it in front my hubby, BUT, he's not comfortable doing any of the no.1 or 2 in front of me, so yeah, we just don't do that to each other. Heck, that's a compromise I totally can do LOL.
13no. we looked at a house once where the master bedroom had a platform where the bed went. off to the side some stairs went down to the bath area, tub, sink, toilet. i asked if it was a single woman that lived there. the listing agent said no, that the bath was designed in a fully open way to "promote intimacy". no thanks. it was like the bathroom was the stage, so weird.
14NO! For either. It's just not necessary, and (I know I'm going to catch flack for this) entirely classless.
15ha ha - I even (still!) turn on the faucet before I pee so he won't hear it. I know it's wasteful and ridiculous, but that's what I do to get a little privacy. I don't think I could pee at all with him in the room.
16*shrug* Doesn't bother me.
17I'm with you luna08, I'm just more private I guess
18Luna, the definition of "class" as you call it means "Admirable behavior; elegance" Because I do the "deed" in my own home with my husband present has nothing to do with class. Is it considered unladylike? maybe, is it anything you would do outside the privacy of your own home, No, thats a no brainer.
I have Class, and Manners, and your incorrect by saying that I dont. Just because I do something you wouldnt doesnt deem it classless. unless the world revolves around just you.
I also pick my nose around him, and pass gas, oh and every once and a great while I will make him buy me tampons, super absorbant.
19I'm okay with #1 but #2 no way.
20Urinating is fine -- we've been living together in a tiny one bedroom for almost a year, so it just became no big deal. #2 wouldn't ever happen in front of each other. I guess for us that's a nice balance between some mystery and actually dealing with our day to day realities. Besides, there are many other ways I keep mystery alive with the fiance that have nothing to do with the bathroom. But to each his/her own.
21I have no problem peeing in front of my husband. I will sometimes even leave the door open and if he walks by say "I'm wizzin with the door open" Like Homer Simpson did in one episode.
22How is it classless to pee in front of your spouse? It's not like i'm sitting in my front yard doing it in front of my neighbors.
23i think it's fine. i don't think it's a big deal at all. \
caterpillargirl - doing the deed in front of you SO/Husband is not a big deal at all! i totally agree with you pov
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25I'm kinda ok with peeing in front of my bf. He is totally fine peeing in front of me. I could never take a crap in front of anyone. I need total solitude to even consider going #2 and I would never want to watch someone do it either. My policy is if the bathroom door is closed it stays that way. If I wanted you to come in I would have left it open.
26no, no, no, no! i feel like the bathroom and shower is about the only 10-15 minutes a day i get to myself. leave me alone. you don't need to share it with me. i don't care if others do it and it really doesn't bother me. i personally like my space in that department
27Doesn't bother me... maybe because I'm so anti-American culture... you should see some cultures... public restrooms without doors on the stalls... its interesting. Some of you need to get out more.
28i don't do it cuz i need privacy. the bf does it all the time though. doesn't phase me.
29No way! I don't want to witness any guy doing his business in the bathroom and I don't want any guy to witness me.
30I've seen many people use the bathroom while working in the nursing profession. I can't bring myself to do that in front of anyone I'm just to modest. It's something I prefer to do alone. I don't even like doing any shaving or brushing my teeth in front of my other half.
31I don't think this is okay.
32No. Keep a little mystery there. Bathroom time is not sexy.
33I personally know how to keep my sex/intimate life seperate from the other parts. When you are married there isnt any mystery anymore. My hubby has seen me puke my guts out, trip and fall in our courtyard and have to go and get stitches....are these things sexy? no, can he look at me after all those things and say "she is still hot" why yes, therein lies the beauty of love!!!
34With #1, we pretty much usually leave the door open because it's seriously not a huge deal.
#2--I usually close the door and run the fan and my husband takes it one step further...he warns me that he's going to use the bathroom, he lights a candle in there, AND he runs the fan. It's not like we're embarrassed about doing it around each other, it's just that we want to minimize the smell as much as possible, lol.
35I used to pee in front of my exes but not in front of my current boyfriend.
To each his own. What's too close for some is just intimacy to others. I don't think there's a right or wrong here, just personal preference.
36I believe in the closed-door policy all the way.
But if he wants to watch me wipe my butt and stuff...I mean, I don't want to see *him* do that, so...that's just not sexy at all.
37i don't think there is anything wrong going to the bathroom in front of a significant other.when you are in a relationship you shouldn't be afraid to do things like that.i don't have a problem with it.
38peeing yes pooping no
When my husband & I first started dating, I lived 3 houses from the beach in a small studio with the bathroom door RIGHT next to the bed. Apparently the first few times he stayed over if he had to poop in the middle of the night he actually WALKED DOWN TO THE BEACH and did it there b/c he was shy about sounds/smells that early in the relationship.
While I am on one hand disgusted by the environmental implications of that (hey, I SWIM there!!) I thought this was absolutely hilarious esp. b/c I had NO idea.
Sometimes now that we've been together for 6 years I wouldn't mind if he walked a few blocks away but no such luck....
39Ewwwwwwwww!
40lickety split -- I'm with you!! I once looked at an open house where the master bath had no CEILING on it - it was essentially just a walled off section of the bedroom but all sounds etc. could certainly be heard.
Gorgeous house but there was no way I could live there.
41personal preference- I'd rather not be in the room for either. I'm okay with hearing my guy pee, but I DO NOT want to see him do it, let alone go #2! unfortunately, he still pees with me in the shower all the freakin time.
42only if one of us were gravely ill or non a nonfunctioning limb
43Otherwise, I always lock the bathroom door and i don't barge in when he's in there
I don't judge other people who do it, I just wouldn't be comfortable with it.
le romantique they had/have bathrooms with no stall doors here too, when I was younger we were driving cross country and I went to use the bathroom and there was no door.
44My BF has no filter when it comes to bodily functions. He keeps the door open no matter what he is up to in the bathroom. I, on the other hand, am much more modest about things, so I always shut the door. One time, he accidentally walked in on me while I was peeing, and I FLEW off the toilet. I'm talking, airborne. He told me he'd never seen anyone jump so high and so quickly, lol.
45Look, i can barely stand the smell of my own cat's urine and excrement. It's just not going to happen.
46He doesn't seem to mind it but I do. I can't stand to see him use the bathroom, he is a really gassy person. When I am there, he will stand and open the door on me. The farthest it has ever been was when he walked in on me and kissed my forehead. Weird. He told me that it doesn't matter what I do, he will still kiss me.
47no. my pee time is my private time. i dont want to be TOO comfortable with someone where i pee in front of them. and i dont want to see them
48peeing is ok, but no dropping the kids off at the pool in front of them, i dont know how you could, id be too nervous lol
49I'm with party. I'll never let my boyfriend see me do my business and I'll never watch him do his. Even if someones behind a shower curtain it's still a bit gross.
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