Watch it! Any relationship craves a little diversion once in a while. But it sounds like you've got too much to lose. Simply discipline yourself; do NOT give into this temptation. You can let your thoughts wander but do NOT act. It looks like you know exactly what's so great about your boyfriend. Keep reminding yourself of these qualities whenever you feel temptation.
Otherwise you'll be sorry forever for losing your wonderful boyfriend.

"Enough of a jerk to keep things interesting" wow - I'm glad I'm done with that phase of dating. Zero jerkiness is quite enough for me, thanks!

I agree princess_eab. That frightens me.

I'd have to say it sounds like you're just going through normal stuff. It happens to everyone. Just make sure you're not looking because your boyfriend is more of a jerk than you want to deal with and if that is the case get out of there.

If he's "just enough of a jerk to keep things interesting", maybe your wandering eye is a sign that you're telling yourself that the relationship is not 100% solid and you may be having second thoughts about it. You have to decide whether to stay with him and stop thinking about other guys, or get out of the relationship and move on to someone who won't make you think about your past lovers.

Non-related to the post.. why are the girl in the picture's nails.. grey?

I agree with Spectra...maybe it would be healthy for you to take a break -- even a month or two -- just to see things in a different light. Sometimes that's all it takes for you to realize either 1. you love him and can't be without him or 2. your eyes were wandering for a reason.

It's one thing to find other men attractive or entertain a fantasy every once in awhile, but it definitely should not interfere with your current relationship!

If you're thinking the grass is greener on the other side all the time, maybe it's because your own lawn is dead.

totally normal, don't worry about it. he thinks about other women, you can count on that. thinking about something, and acting on it, are very different things. just because you're in love and everything's great, don't think that's all you'll every want. we always want more, it's part of the human condition.

Hm the "just enough jerk in him" comment concerns me...

I'm curious as to what context are you reminiscing about your past relationships. Emotionally? Sexually? Perhaps those are the things lacking in your current one. Or do you only reminisce when your bf does something jerky?

I think it's completely normal. I've done the same thing. Obviously you broke up with the previous guys for a reason, and it doesn't sound like you're entertaining the idea of cheating on him or even contacting one of your exes. I'd be willing to bet that if you give yourself some time to enjoy those memories, ahem, they'll go away in a matter of weeks.

i thin ki might be the only one who actually understands your comment about him being "just jerk enough". lol my boyfriend sounds just like that. he pushes my buttons which i need. anyone who is too nice is awkward and makes me feel like i'm walking all over him. and you know what?

I get the same thing. but i just make myself focus on NOT doing what i have impulses to do. the one time i got even close i felt TERRIBLE, just for talking about wanting. it was bad. and now i'm happier than ever.

flickster, I too think I understand what she means - I want a really nice, sweet guy who will do anything for me, but I don't want someone who is boring or a pushover. I totally et that. as for the wandering eye, I'm the exact same way! it's like, as soon as I get into a relationship I'm thinking about someone else. I know it sounds bad, but I just can't help it. now don't get me wrong; I've never cheated, but it is hard for me to stay focused on one guy. don't stress about it; just remember that you want to be with your boyfriend and don't indulge any of those temptations...

I have to say that I'm in disagreement with most of these people. I have a wandering eye myself, and I frequently think/fantasize about ex's. I wonder what if. The rational part of me knows that I am so lucky to have what I have. And people are a package deal. You get the good with the bad. I disagree with everyone's fear about the "just enough of a jerk" business. I know that while I think I'm a good gf most of the time, I can be a super b*tch sometimes. No one is perfect. Humans are selfish, that's part of our nature, and it's logical when looking at evolution/survival. Anyway, I've yet to meet any one who's not a jerk every once and awhile. It is this idealization that we are going to meet the PERFECT mate that has caused the collapse of the institution of marriage. You have to take the good with the bad - and weigh them. The bad should not out weigh the good, of course. Anyway, I've found that when I'm particularily unhappy in my relationship, a rocky patch or so, it's a whole lot easier to pursue someone else, than deal with the issue in the relationship - another reason marriage is in bad shape. I will admit, I love to flirt. I love the chase. It makes me feel awesome to feel sexy and wanted by someone new or different. I've also found that if I go to far, I don't even enjoy myself. I feel guilt, because I know I love what I have at home. Early in my present relationship I had to make a choice between the new guy I was dating, or the old guy who told me he was moving on, but then changed his mind. I enjoyed his pursuit of me. It ended in his bed, and I ended that before it finished. Because while I loved the attention from him, the actual intimacy part - I wasn't feeling it, and all I could think of was how the new guy didn't deserve this. 3 years later now, and we are engaged. I havn't slipped up in awhile, but I have kissed others when my fiancee and I were not getting along the best. It's hard to make a monotonous relationship work in a society that doesn't support that. And the exe's are always the easiest, because while it is something different, it's still comfortable and familiar. I do agree with what a lot of people have posted. It's ok to look, ok to fantasize. And I think it's ok to flirt. When I feel it going to far, I have to stop and be rational. I remind myself what I love about my fiancee. I think about how my life would be without him there. And then I remember all of the 2 month flings I've had in my life, and think about how so many men out there arn't really able to commit to one woman and work through the obstacles. I am greatful for what I have. And I remind myself I don't want to ruin that.