Its a don't for me. I can't see myself getting engaged to someone without being with them for at least 2-3 years.

Um, no. We all know amazing stories about people who married within a few months and have been married for 50 years, but for every one of those there's two quickie divorces. Marriage is so not something to take lightly.

My fiance and I got engaged after 10months, but we had been close friends for more then 2yrs before we started dating. Our engagement was 16 months- we are getting married April 18th! We started doing that like fake living together thing (spend every night together at one person's place) after 2months and then we moved in together after a bit over a year, we had been engaged for ~4months when we moved in together . . .

I think to each her/his own- it works different for everyone.

My husband and I got married after only 8 months (and 6 of those apart) and have been happily married for 5 years now.

A don't. I believe you never truly know someone until you live with them. I'm not married because I lived with my ex. He turned out to be a completely different person once we were forced to co-exist 24/7. I agree with Dear. Date, live together, get engaged, then get married.

I say it is a do. This works for some people. It wouldn't for me. My engagement was a year and a half. I don't think a prolonged engagement alone will reduce the probability of divorce.

when it fits it fits. we got engaged 7 months after we met. got married 7 months after that

princess_eab, I couldn't agree more! It sounds so romantic though doesn't it?

I think it's reckless and stupid.

It depends on the individuals.. Some people can make it work.

i cant see myself doing it..but my parents knew eachother for only 2 weeks when they got engaged and then got married 5 weeks after
theyve been married for 22 years

Wow agrepina and I thought my parents were crazy for getting hitched 3 months into dating That's amazing!

On the whole it's irresponsible and painfully romantic (I love the idea of it actually) but I have to agree with miss malone; it can work depending on the individuals.

Hubby and I moved in together virtually right away, officially after a few months. Got engaged after 9 months and we're perfectly happy.

I would never, ever do it, but I know a few couples that have done it and are blissfully happy. To each their own.

He if it works for whoever, then it does, me personally, I'd wait until I feel that I fully know the person before I take any engagement steps. Then even during the engagement, not rush into making any vows. Frankly, if someone can't stick to vows even before marriage, what difference does it make after. Some people's word means nothing these days. Oaths and vows mean nothing to some as well.

We were going to elope after 2 months together, we didn't when I found out I was pregnant and waited until she was over a year then had a proper wedding. But even if we had eloped I know that we would still be together.

My parents got married three months after they met. They are still together. If it's right, it's right. I don't think I could do the same, but it is one of my favorite stories to tell people.

Id rather wait 2 + decades, like letterman. Well, not really. But 2 seconds doesn't work for me either.

There's no right or wrong answer... it depends on the people. Personally, my husband and I knew each other 10 months and dated 8 months... and have been married almost 9 years with two beautiful kids... so hey, what works for one couple doesn't always for another.

I had to vote do -

my parents just celebrated their 41st wedding anniversary, and they got engaged after only 6 months.

That being said, I can't see it as something I'd do myself - I'm a lot more cautious and I don't want to end up with the wrong person!

It definitely is romantic though!

A don't. You're still in the honeymoon phase within the first few months... But it does work for some. But usually, it doesn't work.

I wouldn't but to each their own.

I def think there are those few that can get married after a few months and then last forever but I think there's even more that end in divorce.

For me though, it's really important that I lived with my fiance before we got engaged because I agree with others when you really don't know someone until you live together. Me and my fiance dated for a year and half moved in together and then got engaged 5 months after that, and we are getting married in September after 3 years of being together.

I agree -- to each their own.

As for me, we dated for several years, decided to marry (and did it quickly, as we chose not to have a wedding), and then moved in together. We've been happily married for several years.

well, a don't..
i still believe in the getting-to-know-each-other stage and having that person to be with for the rest of your life is a risk (but a risk worth taking for ).. so i personally would like to do what Dear suggests..
like what others said, it still depends on the individuals..

I'm going to let it happen in its own time, whether its tomorrow or five years.

Each to their own

It depends on the people. For me it just felt right. For the first time in my life I can say that I am really happy.

Im sure some people thought my DH were rushing things a little when we got engaged on our first anniversary, but our parents had been friends since before we were born, so its not like we were perfect strangers or anything. My parents went from blind date to married in 6 months and have been happily married for 32 years- but when DH and I had been together for slightly over 6 months my dad made a comment about my relationship with him (how it was still very new, etc) I said, "dad, I love him, hes it- seriously, hes the guy Im going to marry"
He kinda spazzed- my mom laughed. I pointed out that by this point he and mom were already married and he started to protest and my mom interrupted him and said, "Honey- think about it, do the math, shes right"
Everyone is different, but I would never advise a friend to rush into anything- no matter how many people I know that made it work- there are likely twice as many, if not more, that it crashed and burned (including me and my ex)

my marriage was a quicky.. we had been together for awhile though. We got engaged and then got married less than a month later due to immigration.

I've been with the same guy almost six years and I'm STILL learning things about him.

I couldn't say. I don't want to get married but I can see myself doing it quickly if I did. I think it depends on the guy and the situation.

I'm all about falling in love and moving in together quickly. Heck, even get engaged quickly. But I don't see the reason to get married quickly. What's the rush? I had a long engagement and I'm very glad. It gave us both a chance to be really really sure that we were in this forever.

I voted it's a don't, even though I married my husband after only 7 months of dating. I've never doubted that he's the man I'm meant to be with, but I do think it's smarter, in general, to really take your time and get to know each other as much as possible before promising "til death do you part" - breakups are rough, but they're easier than a divorce!!

You know I wonder if some of these shotgun wedding of parents and today are because they were pregnant...that's how it was with my grandparents, though she'll never admit to it saying that her first was a preemie. Some people are still old fashioned like that.

My husband and I got engaged after 7 months of dating and then got married 10 months after that! When you know, you know!

You know. I knew that my bf was it for me the moment I saw him. I waited for him to realize the same about me. He has and now we live together.

How about "get married when you're both ready."

However long that takes.

When I met my husband, I knew I was going to marry him. We married in only months and I don't regret it for a second. We didn't see the point in waiting for it to be "socially acceptable" if we were both comfortable and knew it was right for us

It depends on the situation and on the people involved. My husband and I got engaged after dating for only 6 months and got married 7 months after that. We REALLY knew that we were perfect for each other though...we'd both kissed enough toads to know that we would be perfect for each other. We've been married almost 4 years now and we're looking forward to many more. As long as both people are in the same mindset and have the same goals, I see no reason to postpone getting married.

I have to vote a big NO.
I married my high school sweetheart after dating for 4 years. We were married for 15 years and had 2 beautiful daughters together. He died of cancer when our kids were 3 and 5.
I dated my current husband for 3 years before we married. I can't imagine getting married to a person I had been dating for less than 2 years.

Eh not for me.

Definitely not. I am in the third year of my relationship and he is a completely different person to what he was to me in the first year. It is impossible to know in such a short space of time whether you can really create a life together with someone or not. Marriage is too important to rush.

We moved in together after a few months but we'd been good friends for over 2 years. We KNEW each other and didn't want to be apart.

I have no idea when the engagement and the marriage is going to happen. I am in graduate school and his job situation is uncertain. We've discussed it and agreed that it is what we want but it won't happen yet.

I don't think anyone should rush, but really believe that you WILL know!