i know that this sounds lame, but my boyfriend is mr. perfect - and i've had a number of sub-par boyfriends and i'm not super picky but he's basically perfect

tall, (blonde and blue but that's just a bonus), buff, good at hockey, good job with a good salary and good hours and very secure, raised catholic but not practicing, not flirty, no baggage, friendly, everyone loves him and respects him in his town, people at his job love him, amazing family who i fit in great with, sweet to me, complimentary, but a little rough aruond the edges (no need to be perfect...i need a little mystery, i like my men to be men), is super fun, funny, always up for an adventure, has a nice vehicle and a boat, similar hobbies to mine, always takes care of me, awesome friends, very reliable and trustworthy, loyal, very clean, same financial and familial goals as me, etc.

he's not perfect but he's perfect for me! i never had a list before i met him though, but he is a perfect package!

and is exactly my age and totally emotionally available...and honest

okay i'll stop now (although i'll be mentally coming up with stuff all day long!)

not to sound super cheesy but he would look and act just like my husband. I dated the guys I thought should be mr. right and there just wasn't a connection there. mr. right ended up being someone I hadn't seriously considered in the past and now we're happily married. (:

Like my significant other.

skigurl, you're list/man sound perfect!

luna, i'll be honest with you - he came to work in the city where i grew up and we started dating... i went to his hometown the other week and some girls there fully bullied me...i think they're mad that i "stole" one of the best guys they have...he is pretty perfect and i don't think i'm the only one who notices it! the bullying was pretty horrible though...i felt like lindsay lohan in mean girls!

My boyfriend! He's tall, great build, very edgy as far as his fashion sense and style, not average looking at all (thank God), experiments with his hair (coloring) and a great smile.

Good question, Dear!

I think my definition of "Mr. Right" changes as I do and grows and I grow. But I THINK these things remain pretty constant: being tall and athletic doesn't hurt, someone who is outgoing enough to get along with many different kinds of people and is patient enough to accept and appreciate that I'm naturally shy and work with that. Someone who is intelligent/well-educated and well-informed, but not didactic. Polite, cares about his family, will take initiative, treats me as an equal.

I feel like I could go on with this theoretical list forever...

Skigurl, that's awful that they bullied you, some people never grow up. But, hey, at the end of the trip you left with him! That always makes up for the mean girls!

Honestly the man I married is not the same man I had envisioned in my head. I wanted a tall fit guy. Dark hair, great with money (didn't necessarily have to have it or alot of it) either had a career established or was working on it.
The guy I fell in love with was tall had dark hair, smoked weed in his free time, a college dropout and an a former marine, though he wasn't quite fit anymore. But he treated me like a queen has given up so much to make our family work and keep us happy. He now has a great job and willing to do what it takes to send me back to school. I love him even if he's not Mr. Perfect, he's just right for me.

My boyfriend!!! I couldnt dream up anyone more perfect.

that woman has 43 REQUIREMENTS? poor thing. I had them too, for example, I thought I would NEVER marry (or seriously date) a guy under 6 feet. my boyfriend is 5'10" and is in every way my dream guy. I feel so lucky to have had the good sense to expand a little bit and let one of my "musts" go, because the payout is so worth it

My husband.

My aunt has been so unlucky in love because of her requirements. She sacrafices the wrong qualities for them and it has made her so unhappy.

I've always known what I want but would never actively list it. I mean, I know no one is perfect. My boyfriend is certainly my Mr. Right, though. However, had I put a list against him, I think he would have failed. Some of those requirements just don't matter..

I'm so glad I don't do that because I can't think of anyone better suited for me, and I would have missed out on something amazing! He's perfect to me!

I don't have a "list". My "Mr. Right" would, I guess, be an intellectual person, kind, family-oriented, stable, funny, with a broad, questioning mind and a love of travel. I have zero physical requirements other than that he be healthy, which my ex was not.

Luckily, I have all that and so much more in my boyfriend, who really is my perfect match. I'm a lucky girl.

Wow al lot of these girls like tall guys, I usually like the short, stocky irish guys. I am engaged to a tall asian guy though, and he is perfect!

Before I started dating my husband, I had a list of qualities that I was looking for, too. Generally, that list led me to date a-holes. My husband was, initially, nothing that I was usually drawn to: he was a bit on the quiet side, wasn't always cracking jokes or the center of attention, etc. But he grew on me, and four years later we're married and very happy. Just goes to show that you might think you know who your Mr. Perfect is, but you really have no idea.

My eye is automatically drawn to blonde-haired/blue-eyed men (Aryan race, all the way )...I think it's an effect of being part of the Pocahontas-watching generation. Some John Smith complex. But truly, what I find myself most attracted to is sparkly eyes. I find the sparkliest eyes come from guys who are comfortable with themselves. He must be friendly and open (not neccessarily outgoing, though...if he's a little shy, it makes up for my obnoxiously out-there self), Catholic/willing-to-be-Catholic, clever, and someone who will laugh at me.

Also, math is a big turn on. Maybe because I'm so inept at it. A man who knows his numbers is hot.

I've let go of most of my "musts" because I realized that most of them were too limiting but I still hang on to a few that I just think are essential, I have always fancied guys who are fun, intelligent and stable...I don't like too much drama. as far as physical appearance goes, I like taller guys, because I'm tall myself, and toned arms are always a major turn-on!

I don't have many requirements. He has to be funny - I just find myself attracted to the ones that make me laugh! Also, intelligent and a good person - kind, honest... He should also like to try new things, just because after a while we would never agree on doing anything together... That is all, I guess!

It's strange to me that some of these lists make their men sound like objects.

If I were to make a list of my man's great qualities, I wouldn't start with his physical characteristics and/or how others perceive him.

Anyway, I don't operate based on lists. You have to go with your heart. Someone great on paper isn't necessarily the right person for you.

btw, I didn't mean that my man doesn't have great physical characteristics.

I just wouldn't list his bank account or possessions as "assets". Seems awfully shallow.

I dated Mr.Perfect-on-paper... and I was so bored! My boyfriend may not look like the perfect guy - but he is loving and treats me so well -and the best part is that we always have so much fun together!

A "bear"! And my boyfriend is one of those. Mmm...

He's also kind, dependable and funny. Very important. He's my Dreamboat.

Aie yaie yaie!

I remember writing a Mr. Perfect list, but when the guy who filled ALL those qualities appeared, I totally didn't notice. In fact, I believed initially that it was impossible that this person would ever be romantically appealing to me.

The reality was, that finding someone so perfect scared me, and I soon discovered that I'd actually concocted a whole other superficial list in the back of my head, that I didn't want to 'fess up to. When I realized that this "secret version" of my Mr. Perfect was the only the image of what I wanted, that had no importance or relevance to the first list of all the true qualities I so longed for in a partner, I could own up to my self-deception.

And now, the real Mr. Perfect and I have a wonderful relationship, with a passion and an honesty that would have never happened had I not admitted (ironically) that he was not at all what I'd expected.

Honestly you can dream up the perfect guy but something has got to give when you do that. I just want someone who I connect with and treats me like I deserved to be treated. My bf is by no means what I envisioned to be the one for me. He is shorter and a lil more meater but none the less he treats me like nothing less than wonderful.

II want somebody that I'm really drawn to; this can happen because of all kinds of qualities that shine through. It's hard to explain.

However, I'm not going to pretend I don't have that little list in my head too we all do, some of us just keep it more flexible

My 'requirements':
- at least 6 feet (my height)
- a handsome face/a face that I find attractive enough
- preferably with glasses (don't ask, I just think the geeky thing is cute )
- very very educated and smart and intellectually curious
- an aura of culture
- a healthy dose of manliness, forcefulness/roughness
- a big heart, a sweet and loving character, a good sense of right and wrong
- Most likely, five to seven years older than me.
- Madly in love with me!

Aaah...I will find him one day

Oh and I have no preferences regarding hair/eye color etc.

wow. list-making seems a bit green. i want someone who is trustworthy and intelligent. done.

oh, and it's hard to find a trustworthy guy, so you girls who have other expectations might have to compromise on that one.

When I was fifteen, I started to write out a series of characters for a story set in high school. One of the characters was loosely inspired by my fifteen year old self. I thought to myself, "Hm, wouldn't it be interesting if I sketched out the perfect guy for me as one of the characters and a love interest to the character inspired by me?". So I did: he is tall, is not the mass media standard of handsome and cute but attractive in his own ways, has brown hair and green eyes, wears a black hoodie, and sleeps in class and lacks interest in school but loves computer graphics/science. I even planned out that he lived in a cramped apartment with his mother.
When I started to get to know my boyfriend, I remembered what I wrote. I later freaked out in my mind that mostly everything I wrote about this character, including his living situation, came true lol.

We just did an exercise like this in my Marriage and Family class! He let us pick 10 characteristics out of a list of at least 50 and then MADE us narrow it down to 10, to see which ones we could "give up" if we had to.

My 10 were- ambition/goal directedness, companionable/good company, demonstrative of affection, emotional stability, family values, kindess/compassion, love-making skill, reliability/responsibility, sensitivity/understanding, and truthfulness/honesty.

Then the 5 I ended up with, in most important to least important order were- emotional stability, trustworthiness, responsibility, kindess, and sensitivity.

I figured out that the reason I had those 5 was because my ex-fiancee was um...crazy, to put it nicely, and put me through hell. So emotional stability was definitely my number 1! Plus, he cheated on me and got the girl pregnant (while we were engaged!), and now they're getting married and all that, so trustworthiness and truthfulness are a must!

Funny, sincere, trustworthy, ambitious.
That's all.

Well, I guess I have two categories. The physical and then the non-physical.

Physically: Taller than me by 5 inches (I'm 5'0"), nice butt, proportionate from head to toe, and not too hairy.

Non-physically: Has to care about his family's history/heritage (know at least his great-grandfather's side), willing to make things work, wants a family and to potentially be a stay-at-home-father, has some sort of skill musically, be geeky with me.

My husband fits all of these qualities, and then some.

My husband's pretty close to my ideal man: smart, funny, tall, broad shoulders, nice square jawline. He's also very loving, caring, and a very hard worker. I didn't have any sort of "list" when I was dating; I guess I thought that was pretty shallow.

My boyfriend IS my mr right! Honestly.
I wanted a guy who had kind of brownish blonde hair, a good body, good abs, healthy interest in a sport, gym-goer, sensitive and caring.

This is a list I came up with BEFORE I met him and then forgot about. I used to run it through my mind occasionally. Then I ran it through my mind a few weeks ago and realised he matched all of my criteria!

It was actually pretty spooky considering I didn't even consider the list of criteria when we got together. =)

Definitely me too, sparklestar!
After my ex and I broke up, I promised myself that I wasn't going to date anyone that was far from the things I need in a guy. A passion for music is the most important, intelligence, someone that can hold up an argument against me, romantic, honest, spontaneous, a great sense of humour and an interest in most of the things I am. I always wanted to date a guy that was taller than me, with dark hair and light eyes.
I met my boyfriend in a Musical I was in the cast of and he was in the band. We are disgustingly alike, and he is everything that I've ever wanted in a guy. Absoloutly beautiful and an amazing musician. He sings to Les Miserables (my favourite musical, which i'm currently playing Eponine and he's in the band) in his car, surprises me with wine and dinner and watches Family Guy with me at midnight, when we gorge ourselves on snacks.

I suggest you make a list of what you want in a life partner. It might take you awhile to make your list. As you date different people, put on your list what you liked and what you didn't like. Eventually, you will have a list that perfectly reflects what you want. Then, do not go out TWICE with anyone who does not have every single thing on your list! This will save you having to kiss a lot of frogs. And eventually, you will find Mr. Right.

While I am typically drawn towards tall blonde fellas, as long as I find him attractive, that is what matters. I want someone who is sensitive, passionate, has a relationship with God, and shares similar values. I also have a soft spot for a great sense of humor!

god if you would have asked me this question a two years ago i would have said dark hair, brooding, tall, granola vegetarian birkenstock lover never have thought of the man im with now who is blonde, blue eyes, outdoorsy and very athletic my complete opposite. He was not my idea of perfect, but now I couldnt imagine myself without him. im complelty and utterly in love and blissfully happy!