you get PAID to party?
your name should be partying paris...
anyway...we need a little more info...you say you party a lot and get invited out a lot and everyone knows you...but how do you get paid for it?
maybe you need to calm down a little bit, at least when you meet a guy you like...show him you can settle....and let him know you have future goals that don't include partying, if you do...

sounds like a promising chick novel=perhaps you should switch careers.

more info please

There is definitely hope for you.First stop being the paid party girl(whatever that is?).Get serious and have some real direction in life other than socializing 101 and you might start attracting the type of guy who will see you as something other than a party girl and a f*ck buddy....

A paid party girl is generally someone who gets paid to show up to a club or event and bring alot of friends with them or generate alot of interest. They are usually the people who are taking pictures and telling every person they know about it. They sometimes collect email addresses so they can send out mass party invites before an event as well. It's kind of like a club promoter except less formal and you generally get hired on a contract basis by a club promoter.

You must be very social, generally good looking and always having fun. Also, you must be able to convince a good amount of people to come with you and show up at these events.

I'd say take your career to the next level. Become a promoter or someone with an actual title instead of just "generic party girl". Also, stop trying to meet guys at the party events you go to. Take up an excercise class or some other fun hobby and meet people there. When you meet a guy you like, DONT sleep with them and tell them your job is something you take seriously. If you come off as an immature party girl then they will treat you like one. If you come off like a professional club promoter who takes her job seriously then they will take you seriously too.

In the mean time, enjoy you life because unless you start getting serious about moving this all into a proper career then eventually you will expire. No one wants to party with a 40yr old club wh*re.

Good luck!

of course, dear changes the details again to make our comments look stupid, haha - for new people reading this, she said she got PAID to party and people invited her out all the time

Could you go into a career in PR or Marketing? Which is basically the formal, grown-up version of a club promoter.

As far not being able to hold down a guy... the types of guys who you will meet in a club/bar, usually aren't there looking for a relationship. So i would say it's more them than you.

i definitely agree that you should find some other interests and try meeting guys in different places.

What I have in my head is the image of a girl who wears too much make up, not enough clothes, and parades around bars promoting the latest new hard liquor. Am I right? Of course no guy is going to want a relationship with you. You make a living putting yourself on display to sell alcohol. And your in bars 5 nights a week.

I know it's a tough economy, but it's time to look for a new job.

Sounds like you need to compartmentalize your work and real-life. Try some new non-party activities in your real life. Don't go out; throw some low-key dinner parties for friends, join a league sport or take a college class.

Seems like there are multiple issues here, the first one being that you don't like your job. I would recommend quitting if it's leaving you exhausted and unfulfilled.

As for being single, I know a lot of people are single and wish they were part of a couple. These people are doctors, lawyers, receptionists, consultants etc. You get the idea. In other words, being unhappily single isn't tied to being a party girl.

Grow up, get a real job (you can try to turn what you're already good at into a career as a promoter or PR person or something) you have to be a little more serious about your life and career before you'll interest men who are serious about their lives and careers. I always think you should strive to have the qualities you are looking for in another person.

From one party girl to the next, I feel you! That being said, there are plenty of ways to turn it into a career. Be like me and teach people how to throw fabulous parties. Take pictures of everything you make and host and keep notes on what works and what doesn't. Get into event planning.

I don't think any guy wants to be serious with a party girl. At least, that's what I saw going through college.. and even now! If you turn it into a career, they'll take you seriously. I think event planning is a wonderful idea, to be honest. It's fun and creative and more serious than just attending parties.

Obviously it's time to tone it down if you're exhausted AND disgruntled. This is usually the moment when people working 8-5 quit their jobs for another. Figure out a way to parlay your social skills into a more "normal" (ie. 8am-5pm) gig. Also, as other people have said, don't look for potential dates at parties unless they are intimate and set up by friends. Most guys who frequent bars and clubs are looking for something quick and easy. Getting new hobbies and meeting new people during regular daylight hours is probably your best bet for a more relaxed lifestyle.