i guess if i had an exhusband and children (or if my boyfriend had an exwife and children) my opinion could be different - but as of now, i'm thinking i wouldn't be okay with it...but it would really depend on the situation...there's always the chance that the breakup was 100% amicable, you are all good friends, NOOOOO DRAMA and no lingering feelings and staying friendly for the sake of children...then maybe....but 99% of situations aren't that way and therefore there's a pretty slight chance i'd ever be okay with it!

(Ashton/Demi & Bruce are 1 in a million when it comes to this....can you name one other couple who are as close and have such a seemingly normal but unconventional friendship with their ex? i have one friend whose parents still spent holidays together for the sake of the kids but deep down, the dad still always loved the mom and wanted her back, so even then, it's shifty!)

Yeah, I think so. Definitely. I was invited to my ex's wedding btu didn't go... I was moving cross-country. Otherwise I might have gone, but I worried that I'd cry (as I always do at weddings). And then people would have thought, "Oh no! Bella isn't over him!" when really I am just so happy for him and his wife.

I think I'd invite some of my exes to my wedding. Why not? We're still close friends.

I wouldn't mind, but thats because my ex and I are very good friends. We only broke up because we wants different things in our lives at that point. No mess, no drama, no yelling. We are very happy for eahc other in our new relationships so I wouldn't feel weird at all. My boyfriend may be less than thrilled though.
To be honest I wouldn't want my bf's exgf at our wedding but not because of any double standard things. Mostly because she didn't seem to be too interested in respecting that fact my bf was in a new relationship.

No way! I think that's just looking for trouble. There were no ex's at my wedding. Even if you and your fiance are ok with it, I just don't think it looks right and people may get the wrong idea.

at the moment i don't think i'll be ok to have my man ex at the wedding....nothing against them but it's a special day and should be our day without the drama...just my opinion

hmmmm, she looks like a younger, prettier version of Demi...so maybe not!
Bruce & Demi are "1 in a million". I personally, would decline that sort of invitation. It's their wedding day; it should be all about them.

For one, I don't think my wedding would be that big enough that I'd invite many people outside of the family, let alone exes. Two, I'm only friends with one of my exes and that is very loose, we're more like acquaintances that correspond very rarely. I don't think I'd be ok with any of his exes attending, either. Just weird and awkward.

luna08-- I was just thinking she looks eerily similar to Demi! Guess he has a "type," haha.

It wouldn't bother me to have my ex husband attend my wedding or vice versa. He's an ex for a reason with no desire for reconciliation on either side. He knows me better than anyone. We were married for 9 years been divorced for 3. We talk on the computer, phone, or dropping off the kids. I don't think everyone can have that type of relationship after divorce. I respect him, want the best for him, but to still be with him no. Our children is what comes first and motivates us to do what's right like get along with each other. If you can get along with an ex you can get along with anyone I think. I wouldn't care what my new husband's ex wife thought either if she came.

I really don't know. I think that it totally depends on the situation. I mean with Bruce and Demi, it's really not a "normal" ex relationship. They're still so close, it'd be weird for them NOT to be there.

I wouldnt invite any of my exs only because I'm not tight with them anymore but I wouldnt be upset if my man did. Especially if they had children together etc.

I have met 2/3 of my boyfriend's post-college, long-term ex girlfriends. They were both fabulous. I'd love to have either of them at our wedding.

I would not have a problem with it at all but I do think my husband would have more of an issue with his exes showing up at our wedding....

Nope!

Yeah, if they were friends - and especially if there are children involved, I think it sets a good example. Why can't people be adults?

Completely depends on the situation. Demi and Bruce have maintained a great friendship, and she's been remarried for awhile - and Ashton is also great friends with Bruce! AND they have 3 daughters together. Why not? Where it wouldn't be ok with me is if I felt like the ex was shady or my husband-to-be wasn't over her...in which case I probably wouldn't marry him anyway.

HELL NO!! IF SHE SHOWS UP I WILL AX HER!!

Nope.

Both Scott and I are great friends with his ex, she was staying at oue place with her mother the day of our wedding.

if his ex was courteous and i was sure there was nothing to worry about, i wouldn't mind at all. in fact, i would probably be okay with my boyfriend's baby momma attending my future (and imagined) wedding. she can be crazy but i know i would want her son in my wedding.

We didn't really encounter this situation at our wedding because neither of us had ex-spouses or even long-term ex-boyfriends/girlfriends. But if my husband had invited one of his exes, I don't think I'd mind. If you feel secure enough in your relationship, it shouldn't matter who comes to your wedding. Unless they try to poison your champagne or something like that...so no psycho exes, I guess.

I think I'd be okay with this. I'm really good friends with my ex, so I'd want my SO to be okay with my ex there. I wouldn't hold a double standard, so if my SO wanted his ex there, that'd be fine by me (unless she still had feelings for him).

My husband was IN his ex's wedding !
... and one of mine was in ours !

..so, no

Yes, I'd be OK with that. I'd be marrying the guy, why would I be insecure about his ex?

It would be rather odd, as he hasn't had any contact with his exes in over 5 years. They just fell out of touch. I haven't had contact with mine either, but that's a conscious choice on my part, and I wouldn't want him at my wedding.

it would be fine.

No way in hell would I invite an ex to my wedding unless they were a close friend. It would just be too awkward.

It totally depends on he situation. When kids are involved it changes everything. I think it's great that everybody involved is so mature about it for the sake of the kids. I wouldn't want by bf exes at our wedding, because I'm weirdly jealous when it comes to his exes (while I'm totally not jealous with anyone else...and he has a lot of girls hitting on him in his job...) But we're still really young and non f our previous relationships were as serious as ours. So no exes please!

It totally depends on he situation. When kids are involved it changes everything. I think it's great that everybody involved is so mature about it for the sake of the kids. I wouldn't want by bf exes at our wedding, because I'm weirdly jealous when it comes to his exes (while I'm totally not jealous with anyone else...and he has a lot of girls hitting on him in his job...) But we're still really young and non f our previous relationships were as serious as ours. So no exes please!

Eh, yes and no.
My husband's ex DID show up to our wedding which was especially uncomfortable because it was a VERY small, intimate wedding with only our families. However...the weird part was, although they dated for a while, when they broke up, she started dating his very best friend who he DESPERATELY wanted to be his best man. They are now married, so of course by having him as the best man, we had to invite her. I was definitely worried of her opinion of me, if she would make things uncomfortable...blah blah blah. I hated having to worry, so on that point, if I did it again, I probably wouldn't want her there.
After realizing that my husband was there marrying ME and that was sort of the ultimate slap in the face to all his exes ( I WON lol) I didn't really care... and further more, after talking to her at the reception, I really liked her! She is a kind beautiful women and loves her husband just as much as I love mine. So really it was fine But there are some of his exes that I would have absolutely NOT allowed to be at the wedding.

I'm down. I'd love to show off to all of the ex's that he loves me and wants to marry me. It's a nice slap in the face.

Probably not, nor would I choose to attend an exes wedding.

I'd be okay with it... I mean, if I'm getting married to someone I am going to feel 100% comfortable with them and trusting of them. And I'm not going down the aisle thinking about anyone but him and me!

didnt tom bradys ex (briget moynyhan) attend his wedding with giselle? i guess its the comfort level of the couple with the ex

Nope! She'd better stay away! She only ever contacts him when she has something to brag about (her engagement, her motorbike) so b*tch better stay the hell away from my happy day.

However, MY ex is probably going to be the best man. Go figure...

No way. To me, inviting an ex is a weird move, like you're trying to prove something or rub it in their face.

I would be fine with it especially if we had children together. It is obvious they both moved on years ago.

Definitely, not an issue. They're your ex for a reason.

If I were in this situation (either side) I think an appropriate solution would be invite the ex but the ex shouldn't actually attend. I mean, unless you are "special" and still have a remarkable relationship like these two, there is no reason to see one another on your wedding day. But, from the other side, receiving an invite is nice to recognize.

I didn't attend my ex-husband's but mostly because it was awkwardly planned (and then they used my favorite color! lol) and I didn't really know her since it was soon after our divorce (not over soon enough lol) But if I got married I'd invite them and his whole family. It's my family on the longlist

Oh yeah... and all of his exes can come. Not a problem, he'd be marrying a secure woman, not a prison guard.

Depends on the ex LOL!
If they're still friendly and she's cool toward both of us, then, hey why not, but if she's not that nice, nope. Then again, if she's not nice, there's no way, hub will keep be friends w/ them anyway.

Hard to say. I have an ex who is friends with us and we all hang out in the same group. Although, I don't even like to know that my BF's ex is in the same city. I'm probably just being immature.