Dear Sugar,
I feel like I've been on a mental downward spiral for the last few months and I don't know how to get out of it. Two months ago my company announced that there would be layoffs, but we won't know exactly who is getting the ax for another few weeks but the stress of waiting is starting to affect all aspects of my life. I tell myself how lucky I am to still have a job, but still, I'm unfocused and unmotivated at work, I'm depressed at home, and stressed out all the time.
Normally I'm a very active and social person but I find myself too tired to plan anything with my friends and lost all interest in meeting people on the romantic front. I keep trying to stay interested in my hobbies and my life, but I'm just so mentally wiped out. Do you have any advice? — Waiting Around Abbie
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Dear Waiting Around Abbie,
I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling right now — waiting for the other shoe to drop can't be a good feeling — but since you do still have a job, I'd try to keep everything in perspective. Remember that if you slack off at work that could in turn jeopardize your position, especially if they are hand picking who gets let go. And if you're really concerned with your future at this company, I suggest you start looking for other positions now, just in case.
While I understand that you're mentally exhausted, now is the time to lean on your friends and family for support so you can get out of your head. Push yourself to get lost in one of your hobbies or exercise a few times a week, and instead of hiding out from your social life, commit to going out even when you think you're too tired — I'm almost certain that you'll be happy you did once you're out.
This is a hard time for a lot of people so don't be too hard on yourself for feeling a little down and out, but if your overwhelming anxiety continues, I'd consider talking to a therapist. Good luck to you.
Missoni
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I agree with Dear - especially the looking for another job part. Having an exit strategy, should the need arise, is always a good, calming thing. Also, look at other options than just a job - like maybe going back to school.
1I know all too well how she feels. Sometimes it's tough to go to family and friends when they don't know what it's like to be in that situation...I know they are your friends and mean well but sometimes it makes me feel worse having people who no nothing about what it's like giving me advice.
2I'm SO in this position all the time. I could have written this, practically! The exit strategy is essential, as is a commitment that requires you to get out of the house and stop worrying for an hour or so! The stress does tend to sap a lot out of you, but talking over your Plan B with a willing friend and then going out to do something fun and active can help you to feel less stressed and supported so you can let yourself have fun!
3I can completely relate to this! My boyfriend was told in February that around 50-100 jobs would be cut at his company and his would be one of them! Right now they are interviewing the 50-100 permanent members of staff who have been displaced.
Once those interviews are done and if there are any jobs left he might have a chance at going for his own job!
It is HORRIBLE and I am really struggling to sleep right now.
He supports us because I am
doing my postgraduate. The irony? In a years time I will be earning four times his income right now. 
Just be strong and look for work elsewhere. There is no law against going for job interviews.
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