i sort of understand you canceling the first time, but ignoring all of his subsequent emails is just mean! what's the harm in spending 1 or 2 hours with this guy? is that you're not ready to date anyone yet, since you're just out of a relationship? i don't see why you're going to such great lengths to avoid him.

and that is why i canceled facebook - people take it too seriously. GET RID OF FACEBOOK AND START A REVOLUTION!

I think you can be forgiven for canceling the date, but not for ignoring his e-mails. It would have taken you no effort to just respond and say you are not ready to date yet so soon out of your relationship. The whole Facebook thing makes it a bit more complicated, so I am not going there.

I have gone on blind dates set up by people that didn't know me that well, and it has never worked out. Usually the only thing I have in common with these dates is that we are both single.

I don't know why married or coupled up people assume that just because you are single, you want to just go out with anybody.

Jeeze, you sure went through a lot of trouble... Couldn't you just have told your friend you changed your mind and aren't ready to blind date? Then she could have informed him. What a mess you've gotten yourself into, don't forgive.

I said forgive because I quite possibly would have done the same thing. However, I would respond to his emails and let him down nicely. Or, suggest a meeting less loaded than dinner - maybe coffee or a glass of wine? He might surprise you.

Forgive - blind dates are miserable anyway (I've been on too many) and can seriously be a waste of your time. I'm actually glad Facebook exists for situations like there. Honestly. I'm so jaded about being mismatched!!

Oh, but you should politely e-mail him back and say you're not ready. I think common courtesy demands that. It's not like he's some criminal. You can be polite.

Like everyone else has said, you should e-mail him back.

I'm kind of going through the same thing right now. I had a date with a guy earlier this week, and now we're facebook friends... I'm a little weirded out that he has the SAME birthday as my ex-boyfriend, just one year older. Isn't that weird? Of course, I'm looking past it. But still.

Forgive for sure, but DO email him back, I guess you owe him that for agreeing to see him right? It's okay though since you just got out of a relationship and don't see him as your type. Tell him you're not ready to start dating again.

Forgive, but just be honest with him. Respond to his emails politely telling him that you're just not ready to be dating.

you can be forgiven since your just out of a relantionship but you shouldn't judge his facebook cover as him. all my facebook info is just the rather bland/cover stuff, either email him saying your not ready or give it a shot with maybe just a drink that way you can scadattle quickly out there if need be!

I say Not Forgive. How would you like it if someone did that to you? The least you could have done was told him beforehand that you are not ready... not to mention apologize to the friend who organized it.

Just e-mail the guy, tell him you're not ready to date. Then tell your friend thanks but not anytime soon because you're not ready yet for any blind dates.

Good luck.

Forgive, it's your loss if it turns out his facebook wasn't representative of him as a person and you would have gotten along fine.

MY facebook reveals as little as possible about me, you certainly can't make a judgement on somebody based on their facebook page.

I don't forgive the facebook judgment, or the stringing him along... you should have the decency to let him know you're not interested.

Heck ya! I probably would have done the same thing. You should write him back though and let him know that maybe you just 'aren't ready'

i agree with almost everyone, forgive on cancelling, but email back and be honest that youre not ready for a relationship, etc

I think cancelling is forgivable, though I think that the way you cancelled isn't forgivable. If nothing else, keep in mind that your co-worker has to keep a relationship with her friend! it's not just some random guy you're blowing off, it's the colleague who set you both up.

I said forgive because there's no law saying that you HAVE to go on a date with some guy your coworker set you up with. However, you probably should at least email the poor guy and just tell him that he sounds like a great guy but that you're not his type or that you're not really ready to date yet. Who knows, maybe you guys could email for a while and you'll find he's not so bad and maybe you might even decide that you want to go on a date with him sometime.

Forgive. You're not obligated to go on the date, but just be straight with them. You're not interested.

I guess I see this from a whole different angle. If anyone judged me by my Facebook page, they wouldn't get even the slightest idea of who I am, so I guess I have a problem with you being so quick to write someone off. You may not look so great on paper either, you know.

But the bottom line is that exactly waht Pistil says: You aren't obligated to go on the date. But be straight with them that you're not interested.

Do unto others as you'd have those do unto you.

lol, i think you did the guy a favor. you don't sound like a very fun date right now. relax, one date does not a big deal make. forgive.

this guy should take the hint and stop emailing you!

I said not forgive not because of canceling but because you're ignoring the poor guy. Just because he's not the type of guy you're looking for doesn't mean he deserves to be ignored when he hasn't done anything to you.

I think you know yourself better than anybody else and if you had a hunch then I believe you made the right choice. Maybe phone calls would work first if you do change your mind at some point. Anyhow, trust yourself first.

PS.

you are not obligated to explain yourself to any one. People also need to take the hint and stop being so pushy. Tell them you thought it through and decided that flying solo is what is right for you at the moment and close all cracks at future sets for good so they don't keep asking. Also, be nice about it. good luck

she doesn't know the guy - she isn't obligated to email him back! don't worry about it.

Not into him is not into him. She doesn't owe the guy or her coworker anything and besides, fresh out of a relationship may not be the best time to date someone by extention. If it didn't work out, which it probably wouldn't, it could be awkward with her coworker.

You would probably wouldn't feel that great if someone was doing this to you.

You called in sick to work b/c you didn't want to go on your blind date that night? Amazing. Simply amazing.

Like the others I can see you not wanting to go but "man up" (or is it woman up?) and just be honest. You're not in junior high.

I say forgive. I also do not think you owe him an explanation. You didn't just "blow" him off, you properly cancelled. Quite honestly, this guy must be pretty dense if he hasn't gotten the hint yet...seems you haven't returned any his e-mails? Maybe I'm cynical...I just experienced something similar. I went on the date, and it was miserable. Unfortunately, the guy didn't seem to think so, and he called over and over and e-mailed..uggh..finally I had to put my foot down. So I guess my advice would be that you don't have to e-mail him, but you should, just in case it turns into a more difficult situation.

pff blind dates...

you can email him you know? it is only an email "I don't thinks is a good idea to reschedule.". Well, now is kinda late, if the guy doesn't get by now that you don't want to reschedule, he's kinda dense.

and next time if you don't want to "waste" an evening, say no to blind dates.

maybe harsh... but depends. i think sometimes you just might luck out and the person could turn out to be so much better then you thought. i guess you weren't ready. sometimes ladies get so desperate that they'll take any date and that is not a bad thing. you have to kiss a few toads... that's how some of my girlfriends found their SO. they just went out with any guy and in two years they were engaged