Even the most beautiful and seemingly perfect women have insecurities about their bodies, especially in the bedroom. I guess it's just part of life as a woman! For some, it's relatively simple to embrace flaws, but insecurities can be crippling for others. Since body image issues affect everyone differently, I'm curious. So tell me, have your insecurities ever affected one of your relationships?
Isotoner
Shu Uemura
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Howsabout putting in the option "No, but my relationship has affected my body image"?
1I'm not insecure... so no. I love the way I look. No one is perfect, etc, etc... And if I was to worry about how my boyfriend/husband thought about my body then why would I even waste my time with him? Women are stupid sometimes...
2Is it me, or does this pic get used quite frequently? lol I'm pretty insecure though.
3this picture does get used a lot...
4Not really. I've only ever been "intimate" with my husband and even though I have my fat days where I feel less than spectacular, I don't let my insecurities get in the way of things. My husband usually tells me he likes the way I look...it actually makes me feel a lot more secure about how I look.
5No, never. Of course, I have days when I wake up in the morning, go into the bathroom, have a look in the mirror and scream at the ugly person that's facing me, but I never get "intimate" with anyone on those days.
Seriously, when your partner gives you a reason to feel insecure about your body, it's time to get a new partner.
6Nope. I may feel fat (because hello, I am, and working on it!) but that doesn't really do anything in my relationship. My BF likes me just the way I am. I'm not the biggest in the world, but I put on a lot of weight, so I just feel blah. The most that has done is make me kinda like "ugh, why have sex with me?" but that's it.
If my BF made me feel bad about myself, then I would dump his ass. Simple as that.
7I have body insecurities but I'm not about to subject my hubby to it LOL, I never did express it to my exes too. I don't know, it's just something I'm not going to be complaining about to men. If it's amongst women, I'm more comfortable discussing about it, when the time comes.
8I have had a few guys tell me that they would rather go to bed with a woman with a few extra pounds on her that is fun and enjoys herself and her partner, than with a skinny hottie who acts like she is doing them a big favor by sleeping with them.
I think if you are confident and into pleasure, most normal guys don't care about a few extra pounds. We as women are usually harder on ourselves about out weight than they are!
9Jazzytummy, I love your comment! its so true!
10Men always tell me (i have 3 brothers who also say this) that any man would prefer a woman who has a bit of meat on her then someone whos bones stick out. There is nothing un-sexier than a skinny woman.. as she is then channeling a young girl vibe.
I had an eating disorder when i was younger and suprise suprise i was single.. so it didnt affect my relationships as i had none. When i got better the attention from men came back! Of course i have bad days.. but men are nowadays trained by their mothers and sisters to deal with 'fat days' and 'bad moments' so.. no my insecurites dont affect anything.
Mostly he tells me to shutup and eat something!
11No, I'm really proud of my body. I think I'm even sexier naked! Rawr!
I do have a goal of losing 1-2 inches around my waist, but I am certainly not insecure about the way I am now. If I do lose them, I would have achieved the so-called 'Golden Ratio' and that just gives me a kick
12I have the "golden ratio" .70... and i'm a "bigger", curvier woman... people still call me fat (which I think is ridiculous, people are insane), but it doesn't bother me... I'm very Kim Kardashian/Beyonce' esq. I think men like that... at least the men I date, which is good since I am similar to that figure... haha
13How about "maybe"? I kept losing more and more weight in my last relationship to try to get my ex to desire me, and it just didn't work. It was then shocking to discover someone who loves me for me and doesn't care if I'm a size 2 or 12.
14ive had the opposite problem. i think my body-image issues have kept me from being in a relationship. im a curvy, normal weight girl but im always saying things like,"that guy thinks im probably too big for him". particularly skinny guys who i just assume might be into skinnier chicks. but the important thing is that actually women are the judgmental ones when it comes to body-image, not men. most men could care less about how much you weight. your the only one obsessing about your butt.
15I happen to have that ideal waist-hip ratio, too. My measurements are 34C-24-34. My top happens to match my hips, so I'm a true hourglass.
Ironically, I'm petite (yet surprisingly curvy), like Salma Hayek (with no pregnancy weight). I am size 2.
As far as my body image and relationships, I haven't had any problems. I am content with myself, and so there were no issues.
16My little bit of fuzzy hair on my body leaves me insecure sometimes, otherwise just like GlowingMoon I love my hips and I feel in proportion with the rest of my body. I'm very tiny and petite which I quite like.
17Yeah, but I'm working on it, body confidence is a working progress along with the fat days
18i'm not nearly as secure in my body image as say, austerity
but it has never affected my
relationships
my bf now is so awesome to always tell me i look hot and am sexy...more than other guys i've ever dated and it's lasted more than a month or two!...it's nice
19I am not very secure but I don't hide either... I said Yes but it hasn't caused a rift.
20Never. My boyfriend loves me, and I'm pretty happy with myself too. Occasionally I'll get those days where I'm not, and if I say something he'll say, "Babe, you're beautiful and I love you just how you are. But if you're not happy, do something about it."
21He's so fabulous.
I don't think it's "just part of being a woman". I have no body insecurities. I'm not perfect, but neither is anyone else and I like the way I look. I work hard at it.
22It was one of many factors that affected one relationship.
23Never affected my relationship. There are certain things I love about my body, and others I don't. There are parts that I can change (that I'm working on), and others that are just genetic. I just learned to roll with that I've got. Besides, always harping on insecurities is about the least sexy thing a girl (or guy!) could do. My finance has his own insecurities, but I find him extremely attractive, regardless.
24*fiance, not finance. bleh.
25No my insecurities aren't THAT bad...
26It used to affect my relationships but after I had my kids I got over it. I have small boobs and I used to complain about them a lot but I figured if I could feed my kids with them they must be great. I hated being so slim but then after I had kids I could still wear all of the same clothes I already had with in a month so I felt better about my metabolism. I have finally gotten to a place where I can happily say that I love my body. I know that there are things that I could tweak but I don't feel bad if I don't.
27My bf now loves my body. He has helped in a lot of ways too.
28Yes, unfortunately. Except it's not really "body" so much as my face... dealing with a really long, unpredictable and extremely unpleasant bout of hormonal acne (at 25! so unfair!) has made me extremely self-conscious. I do not even like to be close to my fiance, even though he loves me regardless =/
29If never having had a serious relationship at age 19 counts as affecting your relationships... yeah, I guess :/
30le romantique ~ I would KILL for a Beyonce/Kim kind of booty. You go girl!
31I wasn't quite sure what to pick in the survey because I've found that being in a relationship has often improved my body image. When someone else is appreciating my body without complaint I feel better about myself than I normally do. Not to say that I don't have days when I feel like I look better than others, but on a whole when someone is appreciating my body I find myself less likely to find faults with it.
32Nope, and quite the opposite actually. I have my own little insecurities, but 1)I always feel that if a guy likes me enough to ask me out, he doesn't care if my waist is an inch larger or narrower, and 2)I guess I've only been people who were really sweet boyfriends who made compliments on how I look and never had a negative comment on my physical appearance. It actually really boosted my self-esteem!
33Pretty much every single one I have been in. There was initial damage done in the first relationship (I had no weight issues before then) and they have carried through. I've had therapy and feel better now but it's not amazing.
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