The View was filmed at The Walt Disney Studios in LA this week, and every morning, a different Disney character escorted the ladies on stage. This of course sparked conversations and nostalgic memories about the women's favorite fairy tales from childhood, but it also brought up some food for thought. Though the stories of Bambi, Pinocchio, and Cinderella are all moral tales, their lessons can be both sad and scary, and they also have the ability to send the wrong message to kids — as we all know, not every tale ends in happily ever after.
I loved watching these movies as a kid, and I look forward to sharing that experience with my kids one day, but tell me, do you think fairy tales such as these send a bad message to kids?









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no - i don't understand why everything has to be contraversial...disney movies are great fun. kids need to be kids and they will learn hard lessons as they go. they don't need fairly tales taken away from them for fear that they will be recieving a "bad message"
1Fairy tales are way outdated. Same for reading "The Classics" or old movies 'romanticizing' events. Like the one military quote: 'Old soldiers never die - they just fade away.' This should apply to fairy tales, as well. Besides, we have enough "real-life" fairy tales at the present to more than make up for make-believe ones! LOL
2In what way..? I mean sure, I've heard the racist Disney allegations but other than that I've always thought the stories were wonderful. I'm pretty sure little kids aren't going to sit around analyzing them to death like people do these days. Personally, I still get giddy about them like I did when I was 5. I guess as far as presentation's concerned, as a kid none of them really bothered me that much. I didn't really get the whole picture til later into my childhood anyway--when I understood it was just a story. The only thing I remember that reeally bothered me when I was little was that one scene where Dumbo's tripping out and seeing pink elephants on parade.
But see, I didn't even realize he got drunk in that scene til I was like 12. I dunno, maybe I was just thick.
Otherwise I love them. So sad they don't make classic fairytale
stories anymore.
3That damn Cinderella always relying on others, her fairy godmother, the mice, the prince.
4Oh my god, maybe that's why I'M so reliant on my fairy godmother, mice and my prince.
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5(Half serious too..
I grew up loving Disney movies. The Little Mermaid was my favorite because she had red hair and lived in the ocean. However, I have never liked that the female characters are always having to be rescued by a male before they can live "Happily Ever After". That the poor girl has to marry her prince but never the boy next door. So, I see the negative messages they can send about gender and class roles but with so many terrible events going on in the world children need to hear the good that can exist, even if it comes from a Fairy Tale.
6For me, watching those movies gave me an unrealistic view of love. The Prince Charming was always SO perfect. There was nothing wrong with him. And once they overcame the obstacle they were always so happy and everything was always so damn perfect. I get it now as I've gotten older but when I was in my teens, I never dated because I had such a high standard that no one could come close to measuring up to and I definitely think that fairy tales are a big part of that. No one can be that perfect and you have to find the one that comes closest for you.
7Real life IS sad and scary sometimes, and children eventually have to learn that fact. Sad but true. As for the happy endings - they ARE still children. Let them have the happy endings now while they can. And if parents are there to temper the message, the way they should be, children shouldn't have any sort of hang-up from a kiddie movie.
It's not like anyone's advocating reading the ORIGINAL fairy tales to the kids, because those are creepy. Did you know that in Rapunzel, the original version, Rapunzel's banished to the desert for 7 years and the prince gets his eyes clawed out? And that's a TAME ONE!
8Fairy tales can be appreciated at different levels. When I have kids, I won't shield them from fairy tales I think are sexist or otherwise offensive. My biggest issue with most fairy tales is that female characters don't actually DO anything. They're waiting around to be rescued.
And not to mention the fact that they usually get metaphorically sexually initiated right around the time these girls are hitting puberty. It's a little creepy when you think about it. Sixteen-year-old Sleeping Beauty, for instance, gets pricked by the spindle of a spinning wheel and bleeds, then has to be woken by a prince's kiss of true love. These women are also often protected from such "awakenings" by their fathers who lock them away, as in Rupunzil. Think about it.
9The original fairy tales are absolutely nuts. That would be way worse than watching one of the standard fairy tales, where the princesses get rescued and nothing bad really happens. I think that children wouldn't get an unrealistic view of love from movies. Maybe they see a movie and think "maybe that can happen"...but more often than not, you get your view of love by your parents relationship or lack thereof. That's what you see all the time, so that is what is going to have the most impact on you.
What is really sad is that when you get older you think that maybe, just maybe you can get someone who is perfect in every way...and the way you lose relationships and get disappointed is by not accepting that it's not reality. Fairy tales are fairy tales. If you're concerned about your kid growing up to believe that mr. perfect exists --- then you need to be very clear and say "this is not real. things like that do NOT happen".
I was realistic as a child. I never believed fairy tales were remotely real. I never through Prince Charming existed -- and I was right, he doesn't. Love my boyfriend to death, but he's not perfect, and I'm not either.
10Fairy Tales are a form of entertainment. We use forms of entertainment to escape reality. Its not harmful... there is MUCH worse out there!
11As a kid watching those movies, honestly, I didn't even notice any of those things that I re-notice now that I am older. Let them watch them.
12It kind of always bugged me that most of the characters had dead parents, but hundreds of years ago, being an orphan was probably one of the worst things possible. No orphanages, no foster care to help out. And for girls, there was no hope or employment or ownership of property. Fairytales were probably a nice escape from reality for those girls who had no other way out of poverty than a miracle marriage to a rich guy.
I think if parents put stories in perspective for kids, they don't do any harm.
13No. Now if you'll excuse me I'm going to go watch some reality TV.
14No they dont send a wrong message, they arent meant to be taken as mirroring real life, they are for entertainment only.
15No, I think they are still wonderful. Kids should be able to enjoy these classics
16how about instead of blaming Disney or "inappropriate TV" or whatever else, why don't parents start parenting -- if your kid has a question or concern, talk to them about it!
17My daughter loves Disney movies. She really loves Sleeping beauty with the dragon because she actually likes to be scared! I love to watch them with her, and I love trying to hunt them down. They are great movies and I also will be reading classic tales to her, like Hansel and Gretel. It's sad that the classics kids and adults are dying out.
18As I recall, I watched Disney movies and enjoyed them immensely as a child (mostly because I loved to sing along), but they never influenced my thinking in the real world. As parents it's our job to help kids through the transition from unreality to reality.
19let them watch disney movies! or lets just start telling them the cold hard truth about the world at 6?
20when children grow up their gonna learn eventually stories like this arent real. let them watch cute happy movies before taking that away from them huh?
my second grader's class is doing a section on fairy tales right now. they are talking about the magic in the story, the hero's reward, repetitions like groups of 3 and predictable phrases. fairy tales are a specific style of story and children progress through the different styles as they age. it's appropriate that they begin with something simple and fantasy based as are found in the patterns of fairy tales.
21I wrote my thesis on gender roles in Disney movies, so I'll be brief:
In the mid nineties, there was a study conducted of young girls (ages 7-9 I think) who had just watched Beauty and the Beast. Growing up, this was one of my absolute favorite movies; I always wanted to be Belle.
However, there's one part of the movie that kind of freaked me out. After her father was captured, she tried to rescue him and failed. Then, the Beast let him go, isolated Belle, abused her, and she eventually turned him back into a prince. I remember being scared of this quite vividly.
Anyway, the researchers in the study asked the viewers questions about their feelings after the movie. Many of these centered around the themes of love and the scenes in which Belle is imprisoned.
One of the questions was, "If you were Belle's friend and you saw her in that situation, what would you tell her to do?" This was referring to the kidnapping/abuse/isolation scenes. Most of the girls replied along the lines that they would tell her to keep being nice to him. If she tries her best to be really nice, he'll change and love her.
It sounds to me like that easily translates to attitudes towards abusive relationships--that it's the victim's fault, and he/she should stay with the aggressor and just keep trying really hard to make the aggressor change. It's a really common, tragic way of thinking.
Now, I'm not saying that Disney movies are evil. I'm not saying that this idea always, 100% sticks with kids who watch them. I'm just saying that this can be more effective in those who are susceptible. And that can hurt long term.
Okay, so I wasn't so brief. Broken promises, I guess.
22I like Disney fairy tales. They're fun to watch. However to categorize all fairy tales under Disney isn't fully correct- there's the originals to consider (anyone else remember the Little Mermaid gaining a sole because she couldn't kill the Prince, even though he unknowingly sentenced her to death? or Cinderella's evil step sister cutting off their toes to fit into the glass slipper?).
23All fairy tales usually have a good message in them, and Disney's done a good job of making them kid-friendly and promoting that message. Some of them are a little twisted (I do agree with the comments on Beauty and the Beast), but for the most part, they're fun.
I don't like the message they pass to young girls about body image- all of the main characters are impossible skinny. Also, I don't like the fact that there are very few good mother characters in them (mostly evil older women). And there is the always the theme that a man will save you and being with a man in the end is the only way to be happy. How about saving yourself?
I am not saying ban all Disney movies, but I am saying be aware of the way that they are socializing young girls to behave and think. (BTW, most of the writers and animaters at Disney are men). It is just important to be aware of the messages we are being fed and how it can affect us.
24pioneers and janine22, i agree completely. so many of disney's fairy tales are demeaning to women -- which isn't so surprising if you take a look at what society's views were when they were made (even what they are today). i don't care about the supposed "scare" factor of these movies or of them being harsh, but i would definitely take a good look at how the movie portrayed it's heroes and damsels in distress before showing it to a daughter or son of mine.
while i'm sure it has it's problems i would definitely let my kids watch bambi, it's one of my all time favorites. and someone said that a five year old wouldn't sit there and analyze a movie but they don't need to -- they pick up things from movies and TV subconsciously all the time. all they do at that young of an age is soak in their environment and things they see and hear.
25In my opinion, no.
26Oh lord...I think they're fine. What kid doesn't grow up watching all those Disney movies?? People over-analyze EVERYTHING.
27Okay, seriously, WTF? Enough of this. It's a fairytale, and one cleaned up by Disney. There are some parts that are scary -- the evil witch in Snow White, the priest in Notre Dame -- but they are supposed to be scary. The reason there are all these evil step-mothers is because the original stories were written with bad *mothers* and people wouldn't accept the concept of such complicated love/hate relationships between mothers and daughters.
Kids don't analyze. They accept. Go read "The Red Shoes" by Andersen, in which a little girl has to have her feet cut off and the woodcutter gives her wooden ones. Adults think that's horrific, and kids go "Hey, wooden feet. Can I have ice cream?" They're not traumatized.
And the "feminist" readings -- FFS, how about reality? Beauty and power are still currency for women and men, respectively. You may not like it but it's true. Little girls grow up and realize they are not rescued by princes, and if that's your biggest tragedy, that's great - you learn to be self-sufficient and meet someone nice and that's that. Yes, they ARE all thin and beautiful. The recent video game "Fat Princess" provoked so much agita, I'm not surprised. Really, I mean, come on. Basta.
28designdebuta, so since you think "beauty and power are still currency for women and men" is that an idealism you want to eternalize? fairy tales such as those have perpetuated that stigma for decades, should we not try and change society's way of thinking rather than allowing the next generation to take it all laying down?
not to mention, i find it hard to believe (for your sake) that while discussing the appearance of the anorexic disney princess archetype your argument is to say that a video game entitled FAT princess was badly received therefore all princess characters must be skinny and beautiful or everyone will be outraged? do you honestly have the inability to discern the issue of projecting an unrealistic body image to young girls through silent example and the blatant physical degradation of an icon characterized only by their farcical appearance? don't you think if cinderella was called "skinny princess" people would be just as agitated?
29I know that when I have kids I'll sit down with them and watch "Beauty and the beast." Not only is it my favorite and I ALWAYS cry at the end, but it taught me a to never love someone just because they're pretty, but love whats really inside.
I think kids should be told and shows fairy tales, they're fantastic stories.
30My fairy tale came true the day I went with my ex to go ring shopping. That was the best day of my life but unfortunately fairy tale became a nightmare. So no, fairy tales are soo opposite from the real world now. It's not good.
31I'm actually taking a class in folklore right now, and I have to say I find the subject very interesting. It's been decided by folklorists that fairy tales often map onto a process of maturation or courting. There's the stage where the character is separated from their home, they undergo some kind of trial, and then they come back to their community in a newfound position worthy of respect.
Of course, this is traditional fairy tales, and not necessarily the Disney versions. However, we learn that the fairy tales that stay current in a society are ones that mirror a society's moral ideals. Think about it though: how many Disney movies did you hear the stories to before you saw the movies? I think many of these movies are based on stories that USED to represent the way people were meant to act, but they've fallen out of circulation (at least in America) because we no longer agree with them.
So, fairy tales in general, I think, are good. After all, they're chosen and retold (whether we're aware of it or not) to teach our children how to act correctly, and what it's like to grow up (through metaphors, of course). Disney movies, not necessarily. Many of them are based on fairy tales that we no longer agree with, they simply made for entertaining movies.
32Children these days are way too sheltered. Disney movies don't send a bad message. They are stories!! Kids can tell the difference between real and make believe if you take the time to explain it to them instead of limiting what they are exposed to.
33Their cartoons, let's be real people.
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