Ooh. The only Don't I'm guilty of is I always say it's OK when it's not, but it's actually pretty terrible 'cause I get more pissed off when he doesn't realize it. Haha. Good pointers.

I think I should follow this but sadly the only thing I fought to my partner about was him being wayyyy to nice to women and them getting the wrong idea. He's a good and humble guy and he is a perfect listener and that is a true blessing but unfortunately allot of women misunderstand and think that he is interested in him when he really isnt. I think that was all we fought about other than some personal family drama I dealt with. Now that I think about it really had nothing to do with our relationship just outside problems that had nothing to do with both of us. I might read these do's and don'ts everyday. It could help me.

The do's and don'ts we ALL know -- it's like, yes, I shouldn't do x, y, and z, but you do anyway. For me, I do bring up past issues -- because somehow the issue we are having at the present time is in some way caused because of a past unresolved issue. I definitely yell, it sucks, but I feel like he doesn't listen -- and when I'm yelling, he actually tunes me out. I never leave anything left unsaid -- I don't have the capability.

I don't understand the definition of fighting "fairly" -- especially when the other person is a d*ck.
I think about thinking before I speak -- but don't.
I admit when I'm wrong.

I'm a horrible fighter. So I try to have as little fights as humanly possible.

don't hit!!!!

oh yeah!! that's kinda important

I hate when people bring up past issues in arguments. So not worth it. I try very hard not to do this because it always opens up a huge can of worms. Past issues are in the past for a reason and you should leave them there during an argument. All those do's and don'ts are basically common sense but I agree in the heat of the moment it's easy to let them slide. The best thing to do in an argument with your significant other is to remain calm. That helps me the most and if you need time to get calm take a break. Nothing wrong with taking a break to get your wits back and calm down before trying to work out a disagreement.

& no personal attacks! I am guilty of this, when u know someone really well u know how to really get to them and its really not cool especially when the attacks have nothing to do with what ur arguing about..i can be mean

I *HATE* it when people fight in public. It's so trashy and uncomfortable. My brother and sister-in-law visited me and my boyfriend last month (Valentine's weekend, no less) and got into a really petty argument over v-day dinner. My bf and I felt really awkward. There really was no point to their fight, either.

pppssssh...When you have a fight DON'T USE PHYSICAL VIOLENCE but everything else is fair game haha.

Those are good tips.

I am guilty of interrupting. I have to consciously shut up and let him finish speaking.

I suppose this is relevant for fighting with a friend as well? I've had some fights with this friend of mine and it's caused trust issues. Now I'm always afraid a fight will erupt and I won't now how to handle it...anybody have any tips other than these?

The rule I always try to use is to start sentences with "I" and not "You", because then it makes it accusatory and the other person gets defensive and it's impossible to get anything done.

Example: "You never help me clean the #&$*@ kitchen!" vs. "I feel like I've been doing most of the cleaning lately"

I know it sounds pretty stupid but I've done it forever and it really prevents yelling because you're not escalating your voices with the whole "You are this" "Oh yeah, well I'm not that but YOU are SO this!" thing. I learned it in HS and I always mocked it until I started having roommates/the bf to argue with!

By the way, the kitchen thing really happened yesterday lol.