My boyfriend and I recently broke up and I've been devastated ever since. As a way to cheer me up, my girlfriends planned a night out on the town to "get me back out there again." They told me I could pick the place, which is where my confession comes into play.
Since the split, I've been following my ex on Twitter and he posted where he was going to be Saturday night. I didn't tell my friends this, but I chose the same place for our girls night. We did in fact run into each other, and it was an unfortunate nightmare of an evening. It was all my fault, I'm totally aware of that, but I'm feeling incredibly guilty for ruining the fabulous night my girls had planned for me. I learned my lesson — I will never follow my ex again — so can I be forgiven?
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melissa
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1If you have learnt your lesson and promise you won't do it again, I can forgive you!
I know it's difficult... but try to forget him and start looking for other guys!
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2Unfollow him on twitter, move on... please!
3I hope you feel better soon.
forgive.. i understand your hurting so its understandable. but do try to unfollow him, its healthier for you. feel better!
4Everyone does some level of this after a breakup - it's totally forgivable. Now that you've learned your lesson, it's probably going to be much easier to move on. Good luck!
5forgive. feel better soon
6Child we all stalk or at least have thought about stalking our exes. Some ppl internet stalk, and some people actually stalk haha... the point is you are always interesting in what your past is doing and how they are getting along without you. But at some point you have to move along as well.
7Thats pretty crazy. I would not want to run into my ex's. Im friends with my last ex but thats an odd story. I have never had a friendship with an ex before. I tell my friends and they say if I can be friends with an ex well I can get married to him too bc a relationship that can be friends, bf/gf, and etc is truly a relationship. But he has completely blocked his feelings so I cnat be the one to judge for that. Just stop reading his twitter msgs and u will forget about him but dont torture urself.
8The fact that the evening turned out to be a disaster for you is punishment enough. I'm sure you learned your lesson.
I voted forgive and I hope now you can heal and move on with your life.Good Luck!
9Sigh
You poor thing. It was a mistake, you know that, and so you've (hopefully) learned from
it--now stop beating yourself up and set up another date with your girlies so you can make up for it and really start healing. Feel better sweety.
10of course forgive!
11this is such a typical thing to do. this is the kind of thing that people try to talk you out of just because they know how it'll turn out, but you do it anyway and pay the price. as long as you learned your lesson!
At least now you know. I avoid exes like the plague, especially if I'm not over the relationship. After that, if I see them, it's pretty much a chance to gloat!
12The crazy things people do for relationships...
I wouldn't have tried to bring my friends into the situation at all. I can see where you're coming from, though, so...undecided.
13It's understandable, but you need to cut him off, trust me, just stop following him on twitter, take him off myspace, take him off facebok, off hi5, off youtube, off xanga, off livejournal, off your cell phone, off your email, off of everything. Don't care whether or not you ever see or talk to him again. Just try it one day. Try your best to not think about him. Then do it again the next day. Trust me, it gets easier with each day that passes. You will feel a lot better with yourself, that you've gotten rid of a toxin from your life.
Just do it. Nike!
14Your friends planned a night for you and even let you pick the place. You didn't go into very much detail but you described the evening as a nightmare so it must have been bad. Your friends were trying to be nice to you and get you out of your funk. They tried to make you feel better and you not only ruined your own night but you ruined their night too. I voted not forgive. You own them an apology. I'm glad you learned your lesson. Nothing good will ever come from stalking an ex on the internet on in real life.
15forgive. give yourself time to heal, no more twitter and eventually you will forget about him because you wont know him anymore. and realize you can do better. im the total opposite i avoid exs like the plague. you should too!
16Forgiven, cuz us chicks are soo fckn crazy. And I can very well see myslef doing that. Its not healthy, and we know it will make us sick. Just try to move on sweetie.
17You're not alone, I would have done the same thing...
18Forgive. I know I've done something like that before. Though, I did it to try and prove to my ex how happy I was with out him. I ended up looking like a fool because I went to his friends party, and every one knew I just went to see him. So yeah, forgive, just don't do it again. I hope you learned your lesson (I know I learned mine!)
19Forgive! I know how it feels like. Don't worry, you'll get over it in time. Just let yourself feel whole again, how you were before he came into your life. Sweetie, it's not healthy if we don't let ourselves get that one chance post-breakup to purposefully run into our ex. Maybe you're just trying to see if there's anything left that you feel for him. When the time comes that you can see your ex with another woman, and not feel jealousy or anger, that's when you know you've let go. I wish you the best! I know just how you feel.
20Forgive. Even though it's a little creepy. Hopefully you will stop it.
21It's hard but it's the only way: NO STALKING! In a recent blog post about surviving a breakup I suggest the following:
Take his number out of your phone (I know you know it by heart, but it's symbolic)
De-friend him on Facebook.
Block him on AIM.
NO drive-bys or spying!
You must sever all contact to move on. I'm sorry you had such a horrible evening.
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22It's hard but it's the only way: NO STALKING! In a recent blog post about surviving a breakup I suggest the following:
Take his number out of your phone (I know you know it by heart, but it's symbolic)
De-friend him on Facebook.
Block him on AIM.
NO drive-bys or spying!
You must sever all contact to move on. I'm sorry you had such a horrible evening.
www.HookingUpSmart.com
23Forgiven you live and learn.
24Basically, you did the exact opposite of what your friends wanted for you. They probably wanted to take you out and help you to get your mind off of him and flirt with some new guys. I don't get why you did this, it is pretty unlikely it would have turned out well. I feel bad for your friends and also for you for thinking this was a good idea. I hope you are honest with your friends about what you did and they forgive you and you are able to move on. Good luck to you.
25I know the feeling. Hope you get out on a really nice night and meet someone new. Maybe in front of your ex.
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