I guess if your safe and you don't mind if your reputation is thrown out the window, I wouldn't worry. But I think you're only fooling yourself, maybe try looking for some meaning in a person instead of just a good time.

i think if you are a grown woman that is being safe, do whatever the heck u want with your body (its ur body so i cant tell u what to do or not do with it) However, in your confession you say you are "settling" for casual sex...so it leads me to believe that this is not really what you want..rexamine things and figure out what you want and make it happen, dont ever settle.

Um...what?!

If you like casual sex, that's your thing, bad rap or not [personally I wouldn't do it, but that's me]. But from what I see, you like it for the wrong reasons, you're trying to fill a void in your life with behavior that can become destructive FAST.

I think you have BIGGER problems if you hate being alone so much that casual sex is the ONLY solution you can come up with. How about picking up a hobby? Getting some non-sexual-partner friends to just hang out with, watch a movie or a football game? Joining a sports team, a class of some sort? There's got to be SOMETHING better you could be doing with your time.

I agree that you can do what you want...but your history might come bite you in the butt when you do find a great guy. he might look down on you for the #. You never know. Just a thought.

well said margo!

You're an adult. You can do what you want. I don't think there is anything wrong with it and I wouldn't compare you to a hooker like the first poster did (how rude!). Just protect yourself and by all means have fun!

Yeah, just because you do it doesn't equal being a prostitute (not that there is anything wrong with a woman who does that either, if its for the right reasons too). I think if you like sex, go and get your freak on! BUT, my issue is that you seem to settle for casual sex as a means of feeling intimacy (which even you say is a false feeling). Maybe you should stop and figure out why you do what you do instead.

Oh, and you should probably see Margo, she has some great advice.

I said undecided because if you're being safe, you can do whatever you please. However, it seems odd that you're relying on random sex to temper loneliness. You probably know that isn't particularly healthy if you're asking for our reassurance. If I were you I would stop my casual sex addiction cold turkey and put that energy into making friends and meeting people - more lasting solutions to loneliness. And, when you find a friend that you want to date, hold off on the sex so the relationship has time to flourish without undo complication.

Yeah I think it's forgivable but really try to reevaluate your lifestyle habits - I think you're doing it for the wrong reasons too and it's only a temporary fix to a bigger problem.

And make sure you get tested regularly and use protection.

If you're protecting yourself, getting tested, and being honest with your partners I say go for it! Sex is fun.

However, the tone of your post leads me to believe that you don't feel good about it. Could you work out a friends-with-benefits arrangement with a guy who is good in the sack? That way you can get your libido satisfied and not have to worry about the repercussions of multiple partners. Do you want a relationship? If so, casual sex is probably not the way to go about it. If you don't want a relationship... well, we all have needs.

i don't really care, whatever works for you.

i find it odd, personally, because i hate casual sex! i even hate the first few times i have sex with a new guy because it's just awkward and not comfortable (emotionally/mentally) because i'm trying to be a bit more self-conscious.

Do it!!! Just be safe, ALWAYS. And don't be all slutty in the bars, save that for the bedroom. There is no better time than now for this, right?

Oh, yes, and NEVER tell a guy your number. That's a bit immature and not anyone's business except you. I know you say you are settling for casual sex, but maybe that is what you need right now before you are in the position for a relationship. I always want a relationship, but when I'm not ready it manifests as casual sex. Eventually you'll feel differently and portray yourself as the kind of person who attracts men looking for a relationship. Until then, I'm sure you'll learn a lot from your flings... I sure did.

it's your life. just be safe!

The first couple of times with a new guy are always AWESOME. I love the surprises and the changes and the new sensations.

Sigh, what can I say....I miss it (married 3 years, in the relationship for 6).

FORGIVE. Duh.

It's a total forgive if you're always using protection and getting tested regularly. The only way this would be unforgivable is if you were being irresponsible and passing any diseases off to your partners.

i fully agree with comments above that you should LIE about your # once you're in a relationship that's serious. I was single pretty much all through college and all those one night stands and vacation hookups should not count! i was completely honest with my fiance in the beginning about and it has since come back to bite me in the ass several times, particularly during fights. luckily for me, I don't regret any of the choices i made in the past and i had a damn good time making them!

To each their own!

Regarding the number... you could just not keep count. And later, when the inevitable, "How many people have you slept with" conversation comes up, you can honestly say, "I don't know the exact number, it's not like I keep a diary of it." And if the guy thinks that's bad, toss him. There are plenty out there that don't care.

Even if you do use protection, you're never 100% protected from STD's and especially herpes. It does sound like you're not entirely comfortable with saying that you enjoy the casual sex, so maybe you should look into finding something else that fills the emotional void you have without making you feel uncomfortable. Personally, I could NEVER have casual sex. I only enjoy sex when I feel very, very comfortable in the relationship. I disagree that sex gets boring after the first few times with one person...you can have great sex with one person for years and years and years...the trick is to spice things up all the time. Try new things, different spots, positions, props, etc. I just don't see how having sex with random guys that probably don't know how to give you a great orgasm would be good sex at all. JMHO.

Live your life and be safe about it. Nothing wrong with loving casual sex.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying casual sex, as long as you are safe about it

Of course it's forgivable. The thing is, you don't seem to love it as much as you say. You're "settling" for casual sex, and want "atention and closeness", and you're afraid of being alone. What you want is a relationship...

Even if you use protection, you can still catch things.

Err.. not saying don't use protection. Just be careful and selective even with your casual hook ups!

Sounds like she needs a hug, not d**k. But hey...its okay to be a slut as long as you are safe and getting tested regularly. Your body your rules. (just like that commercial)

dm8bri pretty much said what I wanted to say.

If you're safe, then who cares what other people think as long as YOU are enjoying YOUR life!! But it doesn't sound like you actually enjoy what you are doing...so try to make new friends and find new activities to keep you from being lonely.

wow khadeek, pretty harsh huh?

As for the confessor...I don't consider you a slut. Guys do this stuff all the time. Forgive for sure. However, maybe it's time to reevaluate the reasons you are doing it. I know I had a tendency to be a little scandalous in my younger years and looking back now I realize it was because of some underlying emotions. Just treat your body good.

I think as long as you're safe, then it's a very personal choice and there's nothing wrong with enjoying yourself if you're honest with your partners...

I do think though, that you seem to realize that it's not always going to be enough to satisfy you. Maybe you need to re evaluate your relationships and your attitude towards yourself, since you don't seem to really be enjoying it, only the emotional closeness it gives you in the short-term.

That being said, if you're happy with how things are, then go for it. No one should judge you but yourself

I agree with Margo. Have you ever heard of STD's condoms aren't foolproof.

As long as your safe who cares and if you start a relationship why lie about your number that's not a way to start/ be in a relationship you have to take into account with casual sex that your number is rising and some people may not be comfortable with it but I don't think you should lie, lie would imply your ashamed of what you're doing.

I think when you get herpes or HPV because you banged so many random guys whose sexual history you have no clue of, you will probably regret your behavior. This is NOT a value judgment, it is a health issue. Condoms are NOT 100% foolproof, don't kid yourself.

Your reasons for having all of this random sex are disturbing...what void are you trying to fill in your psyche? You sound immature to me because of this, and I wonder given your immaturity how safe you really are with your sexual practices. I also wonder how responsible you will be with getting regular testing. I am leaning towards not very.

I get that most young women here are all "you go, girl, f*ck as many random guys as you can, guys do it, why can't we, just be safe, get tested, blah, blah, blah......I disagree wholeheartedly. With the tone of your post, you seem irresponsible...I think you are a time bomb.

Hopefully you reevaluate your behavior before something bad happens...seriously. And by the way, I don't give a crap about your number...I am concerned about your health, mental and physical.

Good Luck.

okay, I chose not forgive, but not because I think casual sex is bad, but because I think there are deeper issues here. I'm not really willing to just toss you off in the 'samantha' pile- you don't have sex to have sex, because you love the feeling and you love penis. you have sex not to be alone. you're having more sex every weekend. this is dangerous promiscuity and can lead to stds, among other things.
I really think you should speak to a psychiatrist. someone who doesn't want to be alone would hang out with friends all of the time, or go to bars- it doesn't have to be all about sex. let me stress something: I am not trying to get you to get therapy because you like sex and like to have casual sex. that's cool, as long as you're protected, but I'm suggesting it because of the reason you stated: you don't want to feel alone.

Personally I don't have any moral reason for thinking that what you are doing is wrong. But several people I know have contracted genital herpes and/or HPV while using condoms. Are you aware that both of these things are easily transmitable even while using a condom and without symptoms or signs? The reason is because you still have skin to skin contact even with a condom. The more partners you have, the more you increase your chances of contracting them, even if you use a condom. If the condom breaks or slips off, you also have a chance at getting HIV and any other STI's. I have a feeling that you are the type of person that thinks 'it will never happen to me.' Well, you are wrong, because 1 in 4 people have genital herpes. and many do not even know that they have it. Also, I think that basically you are seeking something other than sex, which you describe as 'attention and closeness'. Well, there are many other ways to get this aside from spreading your legs for random dudes every weekend. I am not judging you, but I agree with the others girls that I think you have some issues and could really benefit from counselling. Good luck to you.

I totally agree jazzy tummy. It does have its emotional consequences, so I don't care how many of you ladies so "you go girl" and "as long as you're safe". Just because some guys are dogs doesn't mean we have to be. Woman who have sex with any guy who wants it, is probally the reason why guys are "dogs".

Just as long as you know the rules, dont get attached to FWB and be discreet. casual sex is your business. who needs people telling you thier options if its gonna bring you down?

I guess it's okay if you are fine with having no self respect.

I agree with jazzytummy and khadee.

Why oh why does it always come down to this faux-feminist "well guys do it and people don't look down on it, so we can do it too"?Just because a guy sleeps around and doesn't get called names and a girl does when she does the same doesn't make the behavior right.

Condoms don't protect from every disease, and by increasing the number of sexual partners every weekend, you're just increasing your chances of getting one 4- and 5-fold. All the people you're sleeping with, think of all the people they've slept with, that you know nothing about. It isn't healthy to expose yourself to things like that so frequently.

This OP is obviously having casual sex for the wrong reasons, to not be alone. Isn't there another way to not be alone that DOESN'T involve sex? I think the vast majority of people would say YES. That's all I was getting at.

Did daddy not love you...?

I think it reaches a point where some intervention should happen. Just BECAUSE you can do this, doesn't mean it is right or emotionally healthy to do so.

There is so much risk involved.

Everybody deserves second chances. But think about it, girl.. it is too risky on your health. Maybe there's some king of loneliness wrapping you up, go out and discover interesting things to do out there. Do workouts, find a hobby, play or get membership in whatever interests you.. so you won't resort to your 'escape' (i would call it 'escape').

And this way, I am sure that some Romeo's will find you interesting and you'll never know that you will already be in the arms of someone who would care for you than anybody else. And when you get into the sheets with this person, surely, the intimacy & closeness that you will feel is like no other.

Goodluck!

If you are safe and happy there's nothing to worry about

there's nothing wrong in it. u r free to do whatever makes u happy until it harms u or anybody else. it's ur life and u have to live it the way u want. it doesen't make u a hooker for sure. and don't care about what the people think ! it hardly matters. but still, to be on a safer side , try not to make things too public as some people(esp who dislike u, if any) might take wrong advantage of it in future, maybe! so use condoms, be safe and satisfied..chao !

yes this girl is immature !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
girl you know that you are growing up but mentally I doubt"

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life is a matter of choice its all uuuooop to you !!!!!
its all your lost, guy's enjoy just enjoy it!!!
and left you with a bias word which is "slut"....

so keep
enjoying if i just hope that one you will regret what are you doing right now!!!!!!!!!!!!

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