My husband stays out late with friends pretty often. If I'm tired, I'll leave early or not go with him. I don't care what time he gets home; I'm not his mom.

What's wrong with the occasional guys' night out? I stay out til 2 a.m. sometimes too - it doesn't mean I'm up to no good!

It depends, if its a boys night once in awhile its no big deal- i do it w/my girls too! BUT if it happens almost every night, or more often than not..well that is a little different

If it's an occasional thing it's no big deal (I have a hard time seeing my guy last past 2am anyway). However, if it's every night, or the majority of the week, and he's in a meatmarket scene I would certainly have questions. At a certain age you have to wonder about priorities when your significant other is staying out until most people get up to go to work.

If he goes out til 2am, I'm not worried, if he goes out til 5am I might ask him what he was doing. If it was a weekly thing then I would start to suspect something. Usually we'll go clubbing together, I'll get tired around 1am so he'll drive me home and then he'll go back to the club and be home by 2:30 or 3:30 depending what time the club closed.

Besides, if he was going to cheat on me then he would find a way, regardless of whether he stayed out til 6am or not.

sorry ladies but i would have a HUGE problem with my husband being out late like that. We don't go out clubbing but i had ex boyfriends who would stay out late when i was home and i hated it

i wouldn't have a problem with my boyfriend staying out until 2am, because that's when bars close here, but if he was out until 4am, 5am, 6am, that'd be a little harder to put up with. also depends if it's a regular thing, who he's with & how he acts when he's out with me.

single right now, just going on how i felt & what i thought when i had a boyfriend...

I agree with princess_eab.. Once in a while is fine with me.

I'm with you, cbaby! Not gonna happen in my relationship... we aren't attached at the hip, but there is legitimately no reason for my man to be out without me that late.

Doesn't bother me. We're both in the entertainment business and are dating long distance right now... hes at the studio working all night, so I love when he gets to be out with his friends... take a break from working. I don't have any friends so i never leave my apartment haaha. When I'm with him though, I'd be pissed off if he LEFT me to go out with his friends (I only see him once a month for about a week and a half to two weeks right now.) But if/when we're living closer it wouldn't bother me one bit. He works too hard not to enjoy himself once in awhile (but if he stopped working and just Frat Boy'd all the time, I'd be pissed... waste of life!)

once in while its o.k I do it too....but if its more often its a big no-no!!

I have no problem with it whatsoever. Once in a while he'll go out or hang at a friends house and he's usually home no later than midnight, sometimes earlier. I'm actually the one who goes out with my friends and gets home around 2 am...

If its like a guy's night every now and again, then no big. But if he just goes out and doesn't tell him he's going out/going to be out late (like he just doesn't show up at home) then yeah, BIG problem.

I'm not his mom but I do prefer a courtesy call if he's going to be out late (usually he went out to drink w/ friends) if he's not going to make it home after 2 AM. And I have never had to ask, before he got home he always called me to let me know that he's on his way.

But so far, he NEVER goes out with friends until that late, he got tired at the latest around midnight (12 o'clock is pushing it for him) and got home and got all sleepy pretty soon. LOL. I stay up later than he does all the time.

i'm with most of the others here...once in awhile it's totally fine with me. BUT i just got out of a relationship where he wanted to go out and party almost every single night and it really got to me...i still need to know that just hanging out with me is ok too and he doesnt constantly need other people around to have fun. but yeah every once in awhile is cool, i do it too so who am i to judge

my beau goes out every other friday to play late night hockey with his work buddies and comes in after 1am. if he was getting sh*tfaced every weekend, i might have issues with it... but, we're both very much 'homebodies' so i tend not to worry when he does decide to go out and be social.

We stay up that late usually so those hours don't bother me. I don't care if he goes out with his friends late as long as he lets me know what he's doing so I don't wind up waiting up for him.

I agree with spiderlove and cbaby! I would definitely not be okay with it. Of course if it was once in a blue moon and it was do to a good reason (concert, hockey game whatever) then okay, but not clubbing.

I wouldn't have a problem with it as long as he wasn't out past 2am. Once the bars are closed what else do you have to do?! Seriously, go out hang out with your buddies, but once the bars are closed you come straight home.

No it's not okay for either of us unless it's a special circumstance. Two weeks ago one of his best friends was in town and he hadn't seen him in almost 10 years. So yea they were out till 5-5:30 friday, saturday and sunday and I was absolutely fine with that.

LOL... in the entire 8 years I've known my husband, he has stayed out later than me once. The one time it happened, it was in a foreign country and I got a little worried for his safety, but he came back safe. I don't worry about him partying late at night at all.

I go out with my friends and party all the time until the wee hours of the morning. I'm always a good girl, and because of that he encourages me to do that every so often (probably 4 or 5 times a year). I think Alex knew when he was marrying me that he'd have to deal with the habits of a party girl.

If it's without me and it happens on a regular basis, I wouldn't like it. My ex-boyfriend was a bartender and used to stay out until 5 a.m. or so after he got out of work for the night...this used to bother me a lot, as it happened about 4 times a weeks.

Once and a while is okay. A best friend of mine was engaged and owned a condo with her fiance he would always be out late (at least once a week) while she was home sleeping with the cats in the condo they owned. Seemed weird - he was cheating for 4 years..they're not together anymore and hoping to sell the condo.

Maybe once every few months would be okay with me. Luckily I have a bf who works his ass off at work and doesn't have much time for partying except for special events like bachelor parties. I've never been attracted to the hard core guy's night partier so I suppose that works out for me.

every night. he works third shift. where he gets out at 7-8am. but if he didnt work late shifts and went out late i would still trust him. I trust him. but if he ever did anything he knows i dont give second chances.

Every so often, my husband will go hang out with his guy friends that he doesn't see regularly at work and they stay out til midnight or 1 am. As long as he eiher walks home or has a DD/cab ride home, I'm okay with it. I'm not the one that has to have the hangover the next day. Plus, I know his friends and they're all cool guys. All they do when they hang out is look at each others' cars and other toys and talk about work and go to the bars to eat braunschweiger and onion sandwiches and drink Hamm's and tap Miller Lite. I definitely know he's not cheating, so why not let him have a little fun? He works really hard during the week and I figure he earns it.

i live in miami and clubs don't get good until 1-2am so my bf and i usually stay out untl 4 or 5 so when he goes out with the boys i try to be understanding as long as he doesn't do it all the time!

no worries if he lets me know beforehand, and doesn't disturb me when he comes in.

As long as it's once in a while, not four times a week

Depends on if I can trust him or not, and how much booze his friends will ply him with.

Hmm. In Whitney's situation, I would probably have raked my guys over the coals a little bit too.

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On a rare occasion without me is fine but other than that I'm not okay with it.

I trust my boyfriend. Period. I mean, it is nice for him to let me know if he's going out, so that I don't make plans involving him or wait up late thinking he'll be home earlier, but I don't get upset or jealous. I have been worried before, but that's because we're in college and it was during Greek week, when a lot of drunks are out late.

Don't care. Just let me know you won't be home.

I trust my bf and know everyone he hangs out with and vice versa so I don't worry as long as its not habitual.

I've been with my boyfriend for a long time and I am surprised at how many people are saying "once in awhile is okay but not every night." As if there is no middle ground.

I think if my guy went out every night and stayed out til 4 or 5am, that would be odd - mostly b/c I wouldn't date a guy that didn't care about things outside of going out.

HOWEVER, once in awhile is NOT all I would "allow" my guy. In my opinion, just because a guy is dating me or even married to me does not mean he can only go out and stay out late with his guy friends once in awhile. Serious relationship/marriage should not equal becoming a homebody with your significant other and going out with your buddies once in awhile or once every few months.

I don't get it. I'd be fine if he did it even twice weekly if he wanted. I trust him 150% and want him to have fun, however late it is.

My boyfriend doesn't stay out late so this isn't an issue. I wouldn't be happy about it though. I like my sleep!

My BF usually is out doing gigs, recording in the studio, or doing security so I don't worry if he's not home by 3 am. I party with him sometimes with the same group of people so no worries. He usually is home by that time because he prefers to be anyway. I just don't fall asleep to quickly when he is not in bed so its feel funny.

What if your 33 year old husband got out of work at 6:00pm but hang out with his brother or friends every night until midnight everyday? Is that normal? In a month he´s home before 9:00pm maybe 5 days, and I know he´s just hanging out with his brother and dinning out, or sitting at a bar. more than 20 days a month. Is that normal?

If it's occasional - I don't see a problem. If it's relating to something professional/career I don't see the problem. But honestly, I can't imagine any reason in the world why anyone would want to stay out late, night after night, after night like you have not one single care in the world. And one would have to question your priorities if you are stepping into the house at an hour where everyone else in the world is getting up to go to work.

I recently became an Rn, so my man doesn't alot for me that he use to. So I kind of believe that he is just enjoyin sending money on whatever. He has been staying out past 3 every night. We don't do anything together, so not spending anytime together, so I figure I am not important enough. So now he doesn't have a key, but comes to my house as though he can get in at anytime. So now I am in the processing of purchasing a new home and he is not welcome. Stayin out and playin reverse psychology as though i am not understanding cost him his family. It's all about respect.

Iam Not Worry Abt It.. We Always Txt Or On Thee Phone Awhile He Out In His Place With People Who Grew Up With Him.&& I Could Be Home Sleeping Or Here On The Computer. Hehe. && I Trust Him Too..

we aren't attached at the hip, but there is legitimately no reason for my man to be out without me that late. Especially if you have KIDS! Kids do not need to see Mommy OR Daddy coming in the door as they get up, or hung over and cranky. I seriously think that when your in a relationship trying to build a FAMILY, then you go out together...or be home at a decent hour.