my husband will say just about whatever, good thing i dont mind!(most of the time)
the only time it really made me mad was when he said my face looked sunken in...that was during some issues i was dealing with. now its all compliments mostly!

my ex once told me i needed to "drop a few" before i could wear the dress i was wearing... yeah that didn't go over well.

My ex was a real jerk he would always try to tell me when and how to work out and point out problem areas. When he saw me eating something that he didn't think should be on my diet he would say something to make me feel bad about it. I had lost nearly 30 lbs before I even knew him and he tried to tell me the whole time I had been exercising wrong. I looked and felt awesome. I finally realized he was a controlling ahole and left the jerk.

Why do you have to be in a relationship for this?! Weight comments hurt all the time, but they hurt a LOT more when you're just starting to date someone or have just met someone that you like.

Guys I've liked have made comments about my weight. One [that I didn't like much] even flat-out told me that he wouldn't even consider dating me because I was "obviously" over X lbs. Males I'm related to make comments about my weight all the time. Some guys think they're actually *helping*, but a lot of them do it to cut you down.

Gah, it seems like I'm attracted to jerks that constantly put me down.

Yes, but frankly, I noticed my weight gain, and I didn't like it. This happened when I was on birth control pills. Due to its side effects, I gained some undesirable weight.

My husband was NOT negative. He just noticed my weight gain. He thought it was "cute." He noticed my small potbelly, and named it (to my dismay). He had a pet name for my tummy! He was nutty.

I finally stopped taking the pill for me. The side effects (other ones, beside weight gain) were collectively unbearable for me. My body went back to normal -- my abs became tight and lean again.

To this day, my husband still tells me he misses my tummy. He still refers to it by it's pet name. That man is so nutty!

Spill GlowingMoon... what was the nick name for your tummy?!

lol

Not in a relationship! But my dad has made some undesirable comments about my weight, even though I'm an average size; he's scared I'll get fat like him. Whatever.

Oh yes. And it's messed me up royally. I'm not with him anymore, but the comments echo in my head everytime I even think of eating pizza.

I've been fortunate enough to date men that love my body... probably more than they love who I am. My current boyfriend is the best though, he is the most genuine with his compliments. Many guys that I DIDNT date always said things about my "huge thighs" and butt... but hey, some guys like that, and luckily my current bf loves my body (and mind.)

I can't believe that in this poll (so far) more women have had men say things to them... disrespectful.

My ex used to comment on my weight all the time, he would get pretty mean about it. I'm not a skinny girl but I've been the same size since I was 13 and have never had any problems. I work out but only to stay healthy, not to lose weight. The night he met my parents we got to the restaurant there was some weird sculpture of a pig, he said "wow, you two must be related" and since I was 18 and f*cking stupid I just got mad at him but didnt leave him until i caught him cheating on me a few months later. He was insulting me and making me feel worthless so that I would stick around thinking that he would be the only guy to ever "love" me.

Now I'm engaged to a guy who absolutely loves everything about me. He is 6'1, muscular without an inch of fat on him and soooo gorgeous but he looks at me the exact way I look at him. Also, he says to me on a constant basis "God your body is SO f*cking sexy!" hehe I traded up. No man will EVER make me feel bad about myself ever again.

Im skinny and hes getting fat, if he says anything it would be a joke.

"Spill GlowingMoon... what was the nick name for your tummy?!"

No, I'm keeping this between hubbie and I. It's a pet name he used in private. I blush just thinking about the name. I hope you understand.

Luckily no! They all had better sense than that -.--

Yes. "Pork Butt" was a nickname I did not appreciate. I weighed all of 115 pounds at the time. A-clown.

For all: Just wondering, is it the same when it guy comments about your weight than when a woman does? I'm talking about same exact wording, same tone and everything. Do you take it different, or the same? I know as a guy, I try my best to stay away ever commenting about a woman's weight, even when they ask me a question pertaining to it, I try to stay away from responding about it directly. So just wondering, is it just as bad when if a woman were to respond. (Some guys also have issues when commented about their weight too...and body in general).

G Scott, to answer your question, if a woman were to make a comment about my weight, I would just think of her as a snide b*tch and pay no attention.

If a random guy does the same, I feel the same.

If a guy you really care about makes a comment, it stings and stays with you.

For me, it wasn't weight, it was the fact that I was 7 years older than he was.

He was a guy with whom I developed a very close friendship with, and fell in love with, and one night when he had been drinking, he picked a fight with me and yelled " I don't want to date an x-year old!". Wow, I can't tell you how much that hurt.

Since then, he has wanted to re-establish our friendship, he is dating a younger blonde, and I am miserable about it. Dating others, but still miserable.

So long story short, for me it hurts way more when a man you love criticizes you and is hurtful.

a guy (boy, actually, since this was in high school) i went on a date with once did. it was a blind-date set up to see if we'd get along well enough to go to homecoming together. i thought we had a great time, but i wound up going to the dance with someone else. i was disappointed, especially when i saw that he'd gone with someone else. at the dance, i found out from that guy's date that the reason he didn't ask me was because i was "too fat". only she didn't know it was supposed to me. she was bragging and said, "yeah, i guess he said his other date option was too fat to show off in front of his ex, so that's why i'm here. who do you think the fat one is?"
it was kind of ridiculous of her to be used like that, and a blessing in disguise that i avoided the same fate, but also, kind of insane that on his part i was so skinny she didn't know i was "the fat one". but at 16, stuff like that seems really important and damaging to your self-esteem. anyway, he was a jerk. i decided to build my self-esteem back up by joining cross country and kicking his a**. totally did too. it was great!

yep...thunderthighs....made me feel like a millions bucks..

iTS AMAZiNG, H0W A L0T 0F PE0PLE HAS G0TTEN CRiTiZED F0R BEiNG " 0VER WEiGHT " I USED T0 ALWAYS GET CRiTiZED F0R BEiNG T00 SKiNNY... & I ALWAYS TRiED T0 GAiN WEiGHT BECAUSE 0F THiS, I'VE FiNALLY REACHED MY G0AL WEiGHT ! & iF ANY0NE CALLS ME FAT I TELL THEM, YEA... IM TRYiN T0 PUT 0N A C0UPLE M0RE P0UNDS ! ... I REALLY D0NT CARE WHAT THEY HAVE T0 SAY ANYM0RE ...

Actually no, I've never been overweight or even close to it. When I got too thin though, my boyfriend at the time obviously noticed and showed concern and encouraged me to gain weight back to be healthy. I did it for me, though and I love my figure.

I've always had a small frame, and recently went from about 118 lbs to 111 lbs (at 5'6") due to stress of starting grad school. My sister has told me she thinks I look better when I weigh a little more than I do now, and when I asked my man what he thought he said he prefers me at a slightly higher weight as well. He says it's because it's healthier, but I'm pretty sure he misses my boobs haha. Either way, he still thinks I look good, and I'm trying to get back up to 115. He did make a comment about how my boobs had gotten smaller without me mentioning my weight loss, but it wasn't in a negative way, it was just in an "oh, this is different and a fact" way, so it was hard to get mad.

Opposite of a lot of girls here, but I thought I'd share anyway.

When I was dating a restaurateur, due to his schedule, we always had huge dinner at really late night. Eventually, I ended up gaining a couple kilo, and he made a comment about how I was getting a little chunkier. Nonetheless, I wasn't offended by it because I knew he was just pointing out the truth, and he said that in a sweet way. Also, I was nowhere near being chubby.

Im not fat, Im not skinny. I'm "thick" I guess, my bf loves my body, but when I eat he may call me "fatty mc fat fat" but I know he's playing around. Btw..Glowingmoon...that is really cute. Sometimes other guys say I have "FAT ass", but I think its supposed to be a compliment.

My hub is almost 100 lbs heavier than I am, so no way he can make fun of any weight gain I've had (esp. after baby). And no, he NEVER makes any comment about weight around me. He always compliments me whether I was thinner or thicker.

I said no because I've never been in a relationship but I have always wanted to go out with a "big-boned" guy and exercise together. Then when he got really hot I would set him free, but after dating around awhile he would realize that he was in love with me after all . The End. Look for it in theatres near you.

This kid pointed out that my right breast was bigger than the left and this one kid asked me "what happened, you used to have a six-pack." I was more annoyed than embarrassed.

I have. I had an ex that when asked, said that I wasn't FAT, but that I was chubbier than I had been when we started dating.

Then, I had another ex who called me Boombers (this is an Aussie joke, not sure if you have the term 'fatty boombalada' in America - it's just a funny name for someone who is fat - and Boombers is like a shortened version). I got pretty annoyed about that too.

As an Aussie size 10 (roughly a size 4 or 6 american?) I'm hardly obese... and even if I was, I don't comment on my bf's size or shape, and I expect the same courtesy.

What annoys me the most is how they still expect you to eat all this junkfood (with them - as they're stick thin and have super metabolisms!) they don't want to go jogging with you, AND... I even had one bf who said my 40 min weekly jog was pointless as you have to do more than an hour's exercise several times a week to have any weightloss effect - well, hello! SOME exercise is better than none - this guy totally discounted incidental exercise altogether - for him, if it wasn't a marathon or a bootcamp, it was pointless.

My current bf has never said anything about my weight at all.

Never, but then again I only weigh 85 lbs. (and no I don't have an eating disorder. I've always been a very petite person & I'm in fact trying to gain some weight).

Yes, but not a guy I was romantically involved with.

no, but i've been with women when a guy has made comments like "hey fat ass" and it's always been because they guy was rejected, AND there was no truth to their comments!

I've always been overweight since I can remember. Two years ago I decided to change that. I've lost 52 pounds since then. Went from 210 to 158 now. And I still aim on losing 8 more pounds. I dated a guy before I decided to lose weight and although he never commented directly, he would say lots of things indirectly. And it hurt so much. However now my fiance loves how I am doing all of this for myself and is proud of me for becoming who I want to be. He does miss my boobs though. I went from a big D cup to a small C cup now. But at least I'm happy.

Umm, yeah. My ex, the one I was with for 7 years was pretty much a dick. I gained some weight a few years out of high school, partially because I stopped throwing up everything I ate, and one night we were wrestling and he said "Get your fat ass off of me!" and I just stared at him for about five seconds, and then left his room, went back to my room (we lived in the same building... ah, Greek life!) and bawled into my roommate's lap for hours.

I once had the nicknames "cankles" and "thunder thighs" despite the fact that I am a healthy weight and have a reasonably healthy diet.
This boy, now an ex, would also tell me that I had to do 150 situps and pushups a night to start to lose weight. This was just after I'd shed 10 kilos.

My partner now has commented on my weight, and I told him that I refuse to be a skinny b*tch because I feel that he should love me for me, and not for my dress size. The message got across.

My first boyfriend used to tell me I had thunder thighs and a big ass and stuff. I was too young to know that this isn't acceptable. He really messed me up and tipped me into an eating disorder that I still struggle with.

I've been told that I could "stand to lose a few pounds" by a few people. A gay friend actually told me that this MORNING? I am the skinniest I've ever been right now and I really don't think I could afford to lose anything else without being grossly unhealthy.

Why can't people realise what a "real" woman looks like? A real woman doesn't have to be fat... just a few pounds here and there isn't a bad thing!

yes but i don't think he was trying to be mean per se...he was telling me about what his friends thought about me and and the end result was something like "well you know you're not pick thin" ... thank you for that.

I appreciate that we're as honest with each other as we are. Sometimes we'll kid and say certain things that are mildly true but not serious. When we are serious we don't say it with the intent to hurt but just to be honest.

During my freshmen year of college, I gained about 10 pounds (as many people do) and my dad felt the need to tell me "Maybe I shouldn't go out to eat as much" because I was looking chubby. I was probably 130 at 5'5, which isn't overweight.. but now that I'm back to my normal size (about 120), I feel better. However, I didn't need the comment for motivation

My boyfriend has never made a comment about my weight, other than when I lost weight.. he told me he could tell when I asked him. But he made sure to tell me that he never cared because I always looked good. I would be crushed if he made a comment about me being fat.

Nope.....There was no reason to because I've never had a weight problem and if a guy I was dating was ever crude enough to criticize me about my weight, I would have told him to go straight to hell.

All my life I was skinny and athletic...so I was very lean, and no one could say anything about my weight - ever. In fact, I was complimented on my body -- though, it didn't matter much, because I saw a fat a*s in the mirror. Flash forward a year, I gained 20 lbs, now in 2008, by living with my BF, I gained another 40 lbs. I'm not as fat as some, but I don't feel good, nor do I feel I look good. My boyfriend? He swears up and down I am "not fat", and I know he loves me just the way I am. It's so sad how I felt good being skinny because I was skinny and my family was not. Now, I'm fat, and no one gives a crap! I want to lose the weight I put on, though. Just because it's not healthy to be like this. But thank god I have an accepting boyfriend...who, by the way is 6'1, and has NO fat at all. He's lucky.

I am lucky - any man I have been with LOVED my body (big boobs need I say more?). I am probably the biggest critizier of my body...but men love mine. I am not super skinny but I am toned from the gym and got some nice curves!

One ex pushed me to lose weight. And when I didn't, or didn't lose it "fast enough" he would say things about it was "getting worse."

My boyfriend is the kind of guy who will tell me NOT to lose weight, I guess he likes when I have a bigger butt. I've maintained a normal healthy weight but when I gain 5lbs he's just obsessed with my body, while I obsess on how to lose them... go figure.

An ex used to comment on me being 'too skinny', but I think that was his way of saying I had small boobs, hehe. Never bothered me.

Yes. And I always say, "This is who I am, if you want something else, DON'T WASTE MY TIME." I'm getting too old to put up with the stupid BS.

And I'm not fat by any means. 5'4" and a fit 120lbs. What do guys want anyways? A beanpole with fake boobs? Yeah, because they all look like Brad Pitt, you know? Grrrr...

When Destiny's Child was popular, my brother said to me, "You used to look like Kelly, but now you look more like Beyonce." Translation: I had gained weight. I will never forget it.

Hmmm nothing that I can recall. Butttttttt when I was going through 4 months of bad depression I lost about 12 lbs and everyone told me how "great" I looked, I was about 105 at 5'4 always made me wonder if I was "fat to everyone before?!

My boyfriend loves to tease me and will call me 'fatty patty' all the time, but he's only joking around because he thinks I'm getting too thin. I'm in recovery from an eating disorder (almost two years since I finally made the decision to get healthy!!) and I AM at a healthy weight, but still on the lower end of the scale. Every once in a while I get a little too caught up in looking in the mirror and he's just watching out for me - the teasing is to remind me that he thinks I'm the furthest thing from fat.

It's hard, though - he's Italian so he just loves to feed me! And of course he is a skinny, muscular little guy with a god-given metabolism ..

My husband has never said anything negative about my weight, thank goodness! We're honest with each other, and luckily really don't have anything to worry about in the weight department. However, when I was about 15 lbs lighter I used to get comments from random people that I was too slender... I never really took it to heart though.