I'd be hard-pressed to find someone that isn't self-conscious about some part of their body — even supermodels have insecurities! So when you're starting a new relationship and getting to know each other, especially in the bedroom, it can be incredibly intimidating to expose your flaws. Whether it's morning breath or cellulite, tell me ladies, what are you self-conscious about in the beginning of a new relationship?
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To be honest - when I am having sex I am NOT worrying about anything on my body. And I am sure my boyfriend isn't either! I get lost in the moment
1Most woman worry about their body image. There is always something.
2The first morning we wake up together I wonder if he's going to kiss me before I have brushed my teeth or not. And will usually get up to go to the bathroom just to brush my teeth before he really wakes up.
The last thing I'm worried about during sex is the way my body looks. He's in my bed for a reason!
Oh, one thing that does cross my mind, like when we're laying there afterwards, is whether my room is cleaned up enough or not. I doubt he cares at all but I do think about it. Don't want to be seen as messy or disorganized.
3I thnk every woman has insecurities although I think it varies depending on how your relationship is with the other person...so I can't say I've always had one "set" insecurity in a relationship when it comes to this stuff.
4With my boyfriend (who I have been with for over 2 years) seriosuly there is no insecurity there. He loves me, my body and what I do in the sack.
If it's someone new, of course I wonder if he thinks I am any good...or if he thinks my fat jiggles a bit too much.
5with my ex it was nothing...literally. But with my new-b i worry about my body for maybe about a second but more importantly i'm constantly questioning myself on how well i'm doing...which i know is silly b/c it's all in my head but still i suddenly find myself obsessing with how i'm doing and what he's thinking (even tho he's not even thinking!)
6I don't know... my technique?? =) I don't worry about anything body-image wise because HEY you're in my bed and I'm sure you can guess what was underneath my clothes before you got there.
7umm nothing with my new bf he makes me feel wanted and sexy.
He cant get enough of me!
8Lovely-1, I'm in the same boat (been with my guy almost 5 years) and I never really think of anything (very rarely though, depending on the position, I do wonder how "jiggly" I may look, lol. I doubt he notices at that point though!).
9I'm comfortable in my own skin. Heck I love to walk around naked at home and my fiance is with me just the way at am.
10the I* am
11I have been with my BF for two years and I am still insecure. I know he loves me just the way I am, but I totally do not. I gained a bunch of weight, so until I get it off, I am having issues NOT wearing a shirt during sex =/ I so shouldn't care, and I know he thinks I'm pretty and not fat, but still...I can't help it. I guess I'm the minority.
12I guess the only thing that I worry about is how much my fat is jiggling around since I packed on a few pounds. I don't really think about it for more than a few seconds though. My bf has never said or done anything to make me feel uncomfortable with my body around him. When I'm naked with him I feel like a supermodel...until I happen to glance in a mirror that is.
13Everything - though I learned the hard way that it's eye of the beholder stuff. My ex was very overweight (and I didn't care), yet I constantly dieted for him, thinking that he'd desire me if I looked the way he wanted me to, and it just didn't work. I'm starting to think looks have a lot less to do with wanting to sleep with someone. My current boyfriend desires me just the way I am and I find that utterly amazing. I'm still insecure about wobbly bits but I just try to feel as confident as I can.
14wow, you ladies sure are secure. i applaud u. i get really insecure about my tummy
15If I think about anything, it's how my butt looks - it's just always been a problem area for me. It looks great under wraps, but when it's all out I have dimples and some cellulite. Other than that, I just want to treat him well. My bf loves the way I look and is always very complimentary. My ex, however, was an *sshole and would call me fat (I'm only 120lbs), so I felt a little insecure there until I wised up and dumped him.
16LOL Princess...wobbly bits. I'm going to use that now.
17I'm insecure about my vagina. I have a pretty big mole down there which most girls don't have. I don't want to be with a new guy, have him pull down my undies, and then stare in shock. That would ruin the moment. With my ex, I told him ahead of time, but it was an awkward conversation.
18I'm with dm8bri about the cellulite and ass-problem area. Along with my inner thighs. My fiance loves me dearly, and never said anything to me directly, however when we first started dating we had talked about the "ideal significant other of our dreams"... His didn't have a big butt or big thighs. But he always makes me feel wanted, but I still can't help feeling insecure about them
19Being compared to someone else.
20I've been with my boyfriend for over two years but I still hate him seeing my body. He says he loves my body etc but I can't help wondering if he sees all the imperfections which make me feel so disgusted and also feel disgusted about them.
Especially conscious about my tummy.
21I'm pretty self-conscious about my butt. Like others on here, it's a problem area for me, and one I can never seem to work on enough. But that's just *my* problem - my husband always thinks my body is beautiful, and I never feel anything but desirable when I'm with him.
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23I think I have wierd boobs, but everyone my age does unless they've had implants or just have boobs that have fully formed.
24Beyond that I don't really have any problems with wobbly bits of whathaveyou, I've found that if it doesn't matter if it jiggles a bit. Unless the guys a total dickwad.
Truly, I think most guys are just happy that you are there with them.
25I used to be really insecure about everything...my boobs were too small, my hips were too wide, my butt and thighs were too big. But my boyfriend of almost 5 years has really helped me embrace my curves and he even loves my small boobs. I wish my ass didn't have a life of it's own though HAHAHAH.
26lol. Actually it's my boobs, but my ex-boyfriend (the only guy that has ever seen them) was incredibly crazy about them. I'm still a little conscious about them (I have a C size but I think D would look better on my body), but it sure did help that he was so hypnotized by them
27Oh my gosh, when I woke up my ex, he'd be so cute. That sleepy, messy-in-a-cute-way hair and all. But me, my hair doesn't cooperate half the time. One night it's adorable (or so he says), and the next it's all over the place! Ah! But he just laughed at me when I say it looks like crap.
28I had gone out on a few dates with a guy who told me that if I was spending the night I was sleeping on the quinntessential "wet spot", I'm very self conscious about all of that. His completely humilating me, which he thought was funny, was the end of him.
29Nothing really, just enjoying his body and enjoying him enjoying my body. Not that I think I am that great at all, really pretty normal, but at that time its always been fun.
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