absolutely first kiss!

Holding hands, duh!

this is a good one! i don't know, i think they both come pretty close to one another...definitely during the same date for sure....i chose kiss as a first instinct but i am sure the hand holding has happened first in some relationships

PS: i've always found hand holding to be incredibly intimate. it's an important step, i think! the first kiss is nice but very scary most of the time!

I agree with skigurl, I think they come pretty close to eachother, and I also agree that holding hands is very intimate and a much more outwardly sign of your affection/relationship stage etc.

We held hands in a movie first, then the kiss...the holding hands while walking around came after that

My and I were just hanging out before we starting dating and when he was leaving he said good night, leaned over and kissed me 3 times (no tongue). Best first kiss ever. We didn't hold hands for a while after that.

For me, holding hands sometimes came first, and the first kiss comes shortly after I think every situation is different though.

Depends. The kiss happened, then a few days later, came the holding hands.

We did hold hands alot at first. For some reason we treated our relationship the way you go about it in high school. We were hanging out for a week before he actually asked me "so can I call you my girlfriend?" So we snuggled and held hands alot before we actually got around to kissing.

my first instinct was to say holding hands...but when i thought about it i realized in my last couple relationships the kiss actually came first!

Same, bluepuppy... only it was a month or so, haha. We were so shy.

i don't really like holding hands...

I started getting tingly reading this post. I had to stop for a moment and reminisce. And it reminded me of how that first moment (whether kiss or hand holding) felt - I love that feeling of excitement! For me, it depended on the guy/situation. In general, earlier dates (i.e., when I was younger) was more hand holding. Later dates, we just got to the point.

Holding hands. But it's mostly because the first dates are in fairly crowded places so he holds my hand as to not lose me in the crowd

Handing holds.

Uh, I meant "holding hands." I need more coffee.

kissing has always come first

@GlowingMoon: hahah that made my day!

Kissing for sure. Holding hands is so schmoopy that I can't bring myself to do it with someone casually.

I'm shocked! Most of the votes show "kiss." Call me old fashioned! I think it depends on the personality because I went on a first date with a guy who planted a kiss on me (after we hadn't been in the car 3 minutes)right away. It definitely "broke the ice"..not that there was ice. We were just both nervous & attracted to eachother.

I guess it's odd to look at my cynical reasoning behind choosing 'first kiss' first, but a first kiss is expected. sometimes it means "I like you", sometimes it means "bone city". hand-holding...means you LIKE that person. you genuinely are affectionate with/for that person. it's a lot scarier, and that's why for me, it comes second. it's a deeper feeling. that's what she said. sorry, I couldn't help it.

The kiss. Holding hands is not something I do with just any guy. I find it so intimate that the guy and I should be together for some time before I can do it. I'm a weirdo.

I definitely agree about hand holding being soooo intimate. I hate it in the beginning of a relationship or dating if a guy holds my hand bc it doesn't feel genuine, to me it's too early to have those kinds of feelings. It needs to happen naturally. But kissing is expected and a way of seeing if you mesh physically with that person too.

Weird, I always thought holding hands first was universal. I guess I'm wrong.

Whoa. Holding hands is like at least a month into dating... first kiss is like third date.

Don't a lot of people kiss on the first date. I can't imagine holding hands before that.

I'm not a fan of holding hands. I mean, during an intimate moment, yes, but not while walking on the street, for example. But like others said, I need to be reeally close with that person. So, the kiss comes first.

First kiss.

Kissing.

holding hands

The first kiss is more important - I will not continue to date someone if they can't kiss.

I HATE holding hands. I'm always nervous that my hands are clammy and sweaty. Holding hands is always so awkward for me

Holding hands, for sure. I think I held hands with my husband on our second date and we didn't kiss until our 3rd date.

I can't even remember when I first held hands with my husband, lol! So I'm gonna say kissing came first, but only because that's what sticks out the most in my mind.

I've been in relationships where each of these came first...doesn't matter to me!

Holding hands.

For me, holding hands is much more intimate than a general first kiss. I am not big on hugs, hand-holding, etc., so getting to that stage with someone is a much bigger deal for me, and it obviously means I like him quite a bit.

Not yet
but I prefer holding hads first

I think to hold hands you have to be more comfortable around each other than for your first kiss. At least that's how it was for me

I go for the hand holding but not really on the first date. It will come when I would sense that there is mutuality on our feelings, means at least we like each other (already). The kiss would go later, when we will start to be intimate on another level. Maybe, I'm a bit conservative. But leaving some excitement for later really thrills me.

Holding hands before the first kiss can feel so electric! While holding hands is such an innocent action, it can be so charging if you haven't touched this person that you're really into yet.

haha i was reading these comments, the thats what she said joke, classic! love it! haha Personally i think that holding hands would come first for me, cuz its not as personal and intimate as a kiss would be, a kiss is so much more than holding hands. Like i would hold hands with anyone, but kissing, that's a different story.

Holding hands: Casual.
Kissing: intimate, personal.

I think it's more romantically to hold hands first. However, we kissed first and later that day we held hands.

First comes offering her our arm when walking.
Then comes holding hands.
Then the first kiss.
But I am Latin, it's how we do things.
Dating on a date is not a given in our countries. Thus, one can date even friends.

First comes offering her our arm when walking.
Then comes holding hands.
Then the first kiss.
But I am Latin, it's how we do things.
Kissing on a date is not a given in our countries. Thus, one can date even friends.