Makes me think of that show "The Secret Lives of Women" on WE and they had one about mistresses, talked about that website Ashley Madison.

omg this reminds me of dabagirls so much -- http://dabagirls.com/

"Actually slightly glamorous"? What's glamorous about a married man cheating on his wife and family to get sex from a younger woman who is basically only there because she gets "paid"?
Gross. (and gross on the flip side too... I'm NOT implying it's any better to be a Sugar Mama either)

Haha, way to be totally unclassy DearSugar. Don't even try to convince me that this is glamorous... cause guess what? It sounds a little desperate and cheap to me. And no, I don't know anyone in a relationship like this. Frankly, I would be a little creeped out if I did.

"...but since there is somewhat of a relationship between the two people, it's considered acceptable, and actually slightly glamorous."

Yeah, this idea is news to me too. It is prostitution no matter how you try to spin it.

Having sex in exchange for personal wealth or monetary gains is prostitution however you want to look at it

prostitution.. low self respect.. low class and purely vile

I think we might want to go ahead and classify this as the point at which DearSugar officially jumped the shark.

PROSTITUTES.

Don't try to "glorify" this for being any more than what it is...a bunch of hos getting tons of money for sex.

I want to see what some of these girls look like, because I've heard you have to be "conventionally sexy/pretty" to be successful. If I could get money without having to give up the goods just for being hot, that's a different story.

They did a series about this in the local newspaper a couple of weeks ago b/c of the economic downturn...people are getting DES-PAR-ATE.

and lol chatodeneige! This makes the Valentine's Singles Survival Series look like child's play!

Eww.

dear, i'm not entirely sure you should be condoning being a homewrecker slash escort...even if we are in recession!

There is a word for this, and it's a criminal offense: PROSTITUTION.

it's not okay for men OR women.

... and really, what an awful way to live. I saw a woman on tv who was a "Sugar Baby" (and that word - EW). She's in her early 20s and has a nice nyc apt, expensive purses, shoes, clothes, jet setting vacations..

and zero self esteem, I'm sure.

sugar daddy vs. sugar mommy... everyone's got someone. How wonderful does it feel to be taken care of as supposed of being pushed out, abandoned and beaten up like Ms. Rxhannx on the street. Sometimes the posts are too critical when one makes a decision for herself or himself. Your righteousness aren't going to put food on the table nor help supporting the kids' college tuition so I don't understand why you have to be so closed minded about other people's decisions. They made it themselves and they are both adults and aren't bothering you in anyway. If you cannot bear the sight of them, you don't have to be near them. Before you criticize, it would be very *nice* to walk a mile in their shoe first. Thanks.

Please also don't accuse me of endorsing this type of behavior. I am just stating we are all individuals capable of making our personal choice with regards to relationships and fair exchanges. No one deserves to be humiliated or discriminated against. By the way, it is politically incorrect to use the "P" word, they are called "sex workers" or "professional girlfriends" I live in SF, CA perhaps I am more liberal than most.

Ha ha! I love how people jump in and justify cheating! not only cheating, but prostituting yourself! I guess my "righteousness" won't put food on the table, but I'd rather not explore that option, thanks very much!!!

Last time I checked, "prostitution" was the official name for it - and it's still a crime, even in Calfornia, if I'm not mistaken...

Perhaps you are in an escalated level of the supreme court branch in the federal court, otherwise I did not realize that "receiving support" by a sugar mommy is considered to be "prostituting" Every party is considered "innocent" in the eyes of the LAW until proved "guilty" If you have sufficient evidence of such, please contact your local enforcements ASAP. It is not considered "socially" responsible when you fail to report a crime you witness.

Oh give me a break...

what break? I adore your enthusiasm. Given your highness is so "enthusiastic" about how "sugar parents' are interpreted in the context of the "prostitution law", perhaps it would a much needed "social movement" to gather up all the interested parties to voice your concerns such that the laws could be rewritten to incorporate a new provision and ensure that "sugar parenting" is clearly defined as a prosecuted crime in the states where you preside.

errata to the above statement,

"prosecutable crime"

I'm sorry, I only "reside" in my state, I don't "preside". And given that 99% of the other commenters seem to agree that this whole post is ridiculous (versus the one person who's defending prostitution as some kind of great career choice) I think we're done here.

So based on your statements, the majority is always "right" ? If a group of students gang up to bully against a physically smaller classmate is right? Based on your logic, if 99.9% of the class agree to gang up on this one person, that position is "right" and "the absolute truth" and needs to be defended and hold up to? right? The "one" teacher intervening and disagreeing to the opinion is "ridiculous?"

P.S. I thought your were "presiding" in the supreme court and have authoritative allies in the local courts since you speak with such a vindication of the subject of "Sugar Parenting in the context of Prostitution Law in the U.S."

I laughed reading this because I know some women who expect jewelry and expensive classy gifts from their guys (who aren't married or even married to them) and if not given the things they want, they walk out on their "relationship" with this "terrible" guy. There really is not much of a difference between them and the sugar babies described in this topic.

I had a boss who liked to described the gifts and monetary allowance her ex-fiance gave her. It never occurred how similar her pseudo-relationship was to that of a sugar daddy and sugar baby.

==> "the one person who's defending prostitution as some kind of great career choice"

I have following clarification in response to this statement:
1) There is indeed a fine difference between "sugar parenting/babying" and "prostitution". Otherwise, there would not be two distinctive phrase used to describe the behavior if they were the same.
2) Because there is a difference between "sugarbabying" and "prostituting", defending one from being unjustly qualified as a "prostitution" is necessary.
3) No where in the above was a defense for "sugarbabying" being a "great" career option.
4) defenses against "prostitution" being discriminated against and humiliated is not the same as endorsing or agreeing to the individual's behavior.

Now I feel any married man should be faithful to his wife! But that being said when it comes to single sugar daddies... I'm all for it! In fact I feel prostitution should be legal given that it's basic capitalist principle. I think if we legalized prostitution is would be safer for everyone involved especially if it's in a brothel with security a la Moonlite Bunny Ranch in Vegas, we could better control stds, we could also help prevent underage exploitation... the list goes on and on about why I feel prostitution should be legal and adhere to certain laws and regulations. But I feel that just because you are not standing on a street corner does not mean you are not a prostitute. This type of relationship is prostitution in a more discreet way, and I can't judge anyone involved, unless they are cheating! People have sex for free without any emotional attachment involved, so I say why not get paid and/ or gifts.

I don't see what the big deal is. If two consenting adults what to engage in a goods-for-sex relationship, I say let them indulge.

I don't know if I would equalize it with prostitution.. I was always under the impression the mistress is exclusive to her sugar-daddy -- not turning tricks with all sorts of strangers.

In any case, I see nothing wrong with it whatsoever.

i ♥ future-generation sugardaddies! srsly

I really do not think that they ever went out of fashion.

I never knew it was a "dated" thing. I believe it was still happening all through the 90's and into today. To each his own. If the man or woman isn't married, then who really cares?

Ah, the accepted form of prostitution. I think someone would be offended if they were asked, "How much is your a$$ worth?" If you do this, they're asking you all the time, just not verbally.

Wrong, awful, immoral, against public policy. Now where can I sign up?

Is punctuation and my style of writing all you've got? What are your logics to refute my points then? I'd like to hear them.

By the way, I would appreciate it if you would edit out my posts and repost them here, the way you see fit. Also, after you screen capture my posts and submit to that certain website, please link it back to me as I would appreciate appropriate sources to be cited to my writing. As you know plagiarizing is not "nice"!

Well, for one, "logics" is not the plural form of "logic," which is plural in its singular form - but I'm sure you knew that.

BabySoftPink...you're my hero.

I personally don't equate it with prostitution, and I hate how some posters are making them all into second-class humans.

And to those who label these people as homewreakers and such, I think those labels should be for the man/woman that is stepping out of their marriage to find these people. They wrecked their own homes (because just because it's not this girl doesn't mean that Sugar Daddy won't find another). And if that Sugar Daddy is single, then why the hell not. Don't judge those you don't truly know.

*homewreckers,

oopsie, sometimes I type too fast for my own good, ha.

Logic is logic, all inferences, no emotional attachment to the concluding statements. What I am trying to get at instead is the bigger picture here. Nonetheless, if you would like to be evaluate my writing technique, personalities and the lack thereof, feel free to it. But I would even be more appreciative if you are directing your comments to the topic and most importantly to the core of my arguments as well as the aforementioned logic used to derive my questions.

Ultimately we all have faculties capable to make personal decisions in our lives and whether those decisions jive with each other's standards and expectations is a non-issue. The issue is your ability to keep an open minded such that your love and kindness can flow through you to those who you consider as different than you. You do not have to agree with them or even like them but two people have an opinion can passionately discuss their ideas openly without one person intending to change the other person's opinion through coercion, insults or other insensitive/critical deeds. I am most certainly guilty of the traits because I too am human and we all want to believe that our thoughts breed better approaches to a matter. However, the reason for allowing different types of people, different attitudes to the same matter, and different life styles and choices in a society is what makes this world beautiful. If a mono-cultural society is not one interesting enough to maintain, why would we strive to achieve a mono-thinking society, even a small one on here?

Afterall, perhaps there ought to be a "s" after "logic" for pluralities is one of the "twelve pure concepts of the understanding" (as proposed by Kant in his Critique of Pure Reason). Hopefully, with more willingness and understanding, we are able to see different sides of a matter.

'Redeeming Love" by Francine Rivers is a book that I would recommend to you. The story is about the struggles of a girl who was a prostitute, even after marriage to a highly spiritual and dignified man, still voluntarily returned to her old trade. But both the man and god spend a lifetime to remove fear and hurt from her and replace them with love.

Maybe not to the degree of prostituting yourself, but have you or anyone close to you fall from grace? If so, do you think that condemning the person is a healthy way to bring good to our society? To the law, there are variance in the degree of punishment to distinguish the severity of a crime. To me, a sin is a sin, whether you prostitute yourself or tell a lie. But I would still want to love the person even though it is not something that is easy to do. Before then, I would avoid judging or discriminating them because of their personal choices and I still want to respect the person even when their values are vastly in objection to mine.

Sorry guys; I didn’t mean to imply that I endorsed the notion of Sugar Daddies. But I can see how the posts could be interpreted that way so I made some additions to be more clear!

I don't mind what people do, as long as it isn't my husband who is the sugardaddy. I don't think this is necessarily prostitution, but I could see how some would think that. (side note: Babysoftpink, while I agree with some of your points, I really think you should approach an argument differently because you come off very abrasive with a "holier than thou" attitude. Although, I guess this is a sensitive subject, so maybe you are feeling defensive because people aren't agreeing with you.)

Let's face it, it is all a matter of degree. Is it any different when a 25 year old hot woman marries a 50 year old guy with money?

Let's face it, marriage can be a bartered relationship, sex and arm candy in exchange for money. People may not look at it the same way as sugardaddy, because there is a ring and a piece of paper involved, but to me, it is still the same thing.....two people being together for their own reasons, love probably the least of it.

let's face it, jazzytummy, let's face it

Simply disgusting...you want the goods that bad then go out and work for them. Who wants wrinkly peen anyways? eww

Sorry for the repetition, skigurl, couldn't edit it out. Didn't mean to offend you.

ahahahaha 'wrinkly peen'
thats hilarious

I would never want a sugardaddy... but apparently some women dont have morals or dignity so who am I to judge them.

Gross. Not even if Clooney stepped to me. Gross.