We all have bad days, and I'm sure it's also safe to say that we've all taken our aggression out on people that didn't deserve it. When that happens, it's usually just the anger talking, but it's sometimes hard to decipher logic from feelings. However, Emily Post says:
Don't automatically take it personally. Sometimes the offender has had a terrible day or is simply in a bad mood. Give him the benefit of the doubt by imagining what he might be going through — the string of a recent confrontation with someone, a family problem, trouble at work, the illness of a loved one.
While all those scenarios have the ability to alter someone's mood, tell me, is not taking it personally easier said than done?
Chilli Pepper
Beyond The Valley
Diesel
I try not to take it personally, but I can't help it sometimes!
1As for me, it depends on WHO I'm dealing with. If it's someone I'm close to, it's hard to be insensitive about it. If it's anybody else (when it's a casual relationship), it's very easy for me to be insensitive. It's because I don't care.
2Oh, I tend to take things personally. I need to work on that!
3Sounds like you have a great attitude, GlowingMoon.
It try not to, but like GlowingMoon said, when it's someone close to you it really his hard not to take it personally. It stings more than any scorpion can.
4I am going through this exact situation with my boyfriend right now, and it kills me. He asked for "space" while he is dealing with a lot of hard stuff, but then a few days later, it came out that he was actually kind of mad about me about something, which, had he confronted me about it, he would have learned that it was actually a misunderstanding. Still though, we are taking "space" from each other, and it is definitely hard not to take it personally after that.
I worry a lot that we are going to breakup, and have even started accepting that being single could be ok too...
Yeah. Tough stuff.
5i try not to. i admit i take things personally. im alittle better about it. if someone groans or gives me attitude i usually say to grow up and not take thier bad day on me. i dont deserve that crap
6i try not to take things too personally, like when people come to my pharmacy and start yelling all sorts of abominations if their meds arent ready.. and most of the time its not my fault but they need someone to yell at. but sometimes i get so upset that i just avoid the register area till i calm down.
7Makes me think of a coworker who's my age, with the same education, but has 6 months seniority over me. When he's having a bad day, it ONLY gets taken out on me! No one else in my department! I hate it!
8guilty! its something i do and then try to remind myself not to do it again.
9I'm with GlowingMoon.
10I try not to take it personally if someone seems edgy because I know I can give an attitude when I'm stressed out or not feeling well. I kind of wish more people would give ME the benefit of the doubt, I get sick of explaining myself sometimes.
11I tend to take EVERYTHING personal. I hate it, I wish I weren't so sensitive....I guess that's the Pisces in me. But I'm really working on it this year!
12Well being oversensitive and overreactive are symptoms of my GAD (anxiety) so it's very very difficult for me to talk myself out of a defensive reaction when someone takes their day out on me. I am trying to get a lot better at pausing before I lose it and ask myself, "Did I really do anything wrong? Maybe they just had a bad day and nothing I will do nor say will make them feel better. I will talk to them about this at a later time." It's hard to rationalize with myself like that but it really does make me feel better.
13Just because you're having a bad day it doesn't give you the right to be an *sshole. Your friends are there to help you through that and you shouldn't want them to be as depressed as you are.
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