Dear Sugar,

I'm just getting back into the dating scene after being in a four-year relationship. I met a new guy about a month ago, but we've only been on a handful of dates. He's intelligent, funny, attractive, we have very similar personalities and we always have a great time together. The only thing is I'm not sure if he likes me. He says he does, but what causes me to question him is his sporadic contact with me. We'll go on dates and then not talk for days in between. I really like him but I don't want to waste my time with someone who is not reliable. Should I give it time, or should I erase his number from my phone book? — Frustrated Fife

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Dear Frustrated Fife,

Dating someone who is inconsistent or on a different time line than you can be incredibly frustrating, but it doesn't mean that he's not interested in you. The only way to know how he feels is by asking him, and although you're still in the early stages of dating, I think it's completely reasonable to let him know that you need a little more consistency in order to feel secure in this relationship. If he's not willing to give you what you need, he may just not be ready for a commitment, but if he does give you the confidence you're looking for, I think you should give it some more time. Since you haven't defined your relationship, perhaps this talk is exactly what you both need in order to step things up a few notches. Good luck.

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