When couples marry, they vow to be loyal and committed until death do they part, but I know that most couples expect a similar commitment when they're just dating too. Many of you admit to having stayed in a relationship out of fear of being alone, but let me ask you this: Have you ever stayed in a relationship out of pure loyalty to the other person despite your lack of love for them?
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Dear Poll: Have You Ever Stayed With Someone Out of Loyalty?
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Yes...but I did love him too. I just wasn't "in love" with him.
1No, I would never stay with someone just because I felt like I "had" to. I never get that, if you're no longer in love with them why would you stick around?
2not really...i did stay with a guy about 2 months longer than i should have because when i tried breaking up with him, he cried...but that was a bad scene and it was all long distance while i was away at school at age 18
anyway, i have a friend who just got engaged who has been unfaithful to his girlfriend for years but never wanted to break up with her because she "had done so much for him" and he "owed it to her" ... but yet he was cheating on her and being generally horrible...and now they're engaged...that's no reason to stay with a person...because you'd feel too bad breaking up with them!
3I voted "yes", but here's the thing: I have abosolutely stayed with a guy out of loyalty, but I did not ever stop loving him, I just was no longer attracted to him. For me, a relatioship is nothing without chemistry and great sex, and if I'm not attracted to a guy, it's not going to work out. I didn't stop loving my boyfriend of over 4 years, but it was over long before that in my eyes.
4I did and it was a major mistake, i'll tell you this much...
5he was going through a rough time and I stayed with him to support him, since had done the same for me several months earlier. ultimately, I wasn't equipped to help him sort through his issues, and he wasn't helping himself, so I walked away
6Nope, it wouldn't be fair to me or the other guy, and I would hope no one would ever do this to me as well.
7Define love. Do you mean that feeling you get when you eat chocolate or ice cream? Or when someone gives you cute present or card. Or maybe when a cute dog runs up to you with its tail wagging and is being all friendly? Loyalties hmm? That only stretches so far. I don't think many people are that loyal unless they have something to lose. Humans are selfish in nature.
8Nope, never have, but I think it may be different if I was married to them. Plus, on bad days, loyalty may be all you have, but it's not like that won't change later.
9Yes, I did because he was my best friend and I will always love him. However, over-staying took a toll and when it finally ended it was a lot rougher on him than it should have been. Luckily, 2 years later we are past the hurt and talk all the time. And he's having a baby with his new girl!
10i stayed with a guy over a year longer than i should have after i knew it was over because i LOVED his parents. i kept thinking i could make it work because he WAS a great guy and i knew i would never find in-laws like that. in the end i just couldn't do it.
11Nope. Breakups are hard for all involved, but it's much, much better for both parties than simply delaying the inevitable.
12Yes, because I had always told him that he got one chance to redeem himself if he majorly screwed up, and that was it. Well, he majorly screwed up about 2 months ago, and I was practically ready to run out the door, but I stayed loyal to my promise and gave him a chance to fix it. He hasn't screwed up that bad since, and things are better now, so I think it probably worked. We will see.
13P.S. Otherwise, there would be no staying unless I had a ring on my finger. That was waaay too much stress to have to go through again.
14I sincerely wish others will stay with me for loyalty. However, most "HOT" catches have way too many options to explore.
15I think you need loyalty to get you through rough times. You can "fall out" of love for a while, but that doesn't mean it won't come back. Bailing the second the fairytale ends is shallow.
That being said, being loyal isn't the same as putting up with abuse or clinging to a dead relationship.
16No never. It's pointless and it makes both parties miserable in the long run.Why waste precious time trying to put off what I know is inevitable.....
17Bekka, if it's not too personal.. what is majorly screwed up? I am wondering because my boyfriend I have been having issues for awhile now where he says he's going to have a beer and he ends up drunk and I get mad because I feel as if he has no self control. Some say I"m overreacting, but I don't know. I wish I knew whether I was just too controlling or if I have a reason to be mad at certain behaviors.
18Yes, and I had feelings for another guy. He was going away for the summer so I stayed out of loyalty, and then he dumped me when he came back. I should have dumped him at the start of the summer and gone after the guy I really had feelings for!
19Yes.
20Engaged, and together for many years. Have a house together, pets, credit cards, lots of stuff (furniture, vehicles, etc)
Dont know what to do. I love him, but over the moon, in love? No. Alot of the time I just want to be alone. I like it when he is out of town or something and i have everything all to myself. Sometimes I wonder if it werent for those things that I dearly dont want to lose, would I stay?
And, should I marry him if there is the odd time I think these things? Is that normal?
I do love him....
we are marrying very soon......
I married my second boyfriend and then realised I'd made a mistake. I stayed with him for another 6 months because Y'KNOW I'd married him.
Man, the crazy things we do as kids.
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